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cuppacoffee
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Member # 39313
Default  Posted: 4:01 PM, September 7th (Saturday)

Seriously. I found out that the OW is interviewing for the husband's job that he just lost.

WTF?
first she tries to steal my husband and now she's trying to get his old job.

I'm suffering and she's out there with her perfect life not paying for any of her sins.


I'm like a vacuum bag
That holds all that old dirt
Remember that time we said we'd be together forever?
Don't hate me, don't regret me, don't ever forget me
Wherever you go, whatever you do, don't say I never loved you

Posts: 360 | Registered: May 2013
womaninflux
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Member # 39667
Default  Posted: 4:13 PM, September 7th (Saturday)

I get what you are saying, but it's probably a better use of your energy to focus on yourself and what you need in order to heal.

I was just talking to a good friend about this yesterday. There are so many ways I could enact revenge on OW. But where does that get me? I need to focus my strength and energy towards getting myself through this, no matter what happens.

I hope I don't sound too high and mighty. I really am not.


BS - mid-40's
SAWH - mid 40's
Kids - 2 elementary school aged
Getting tons of therapy and trying to "work it out"

Posts: 855 | Registered: Jun 2013
cuppacoffee
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Member # 39313
Default  Posted: 4:52 PM, September 7th (Saturday)

nah i know what you mean. I spend a lot of time and energy being angry with the OW. I just wish I would have told her BF what she did. I am afraid to do so. I feel like if I would have told him on d day that maybe i wouldn't be like this.


I'm like a vacuum bag
That holds all that old dirt
Remember that time we said we'd be together forever?
Don't hate me, don't regret me, don't ever forget me
Wherever you go, whatever you do, don't say I never loved you

Posts: 360 | Registered: May 2013
mchercheur
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Member # 37735
Default  Posted: 4:56 PM, September 7th (Saturday)

Cuppa, I feel exactly the same way as you do. In our situation, not only did OW walk away unscathed, but her life seems to keep getting better & better.

And every morning, for over 2 years, I wake up & I'm sick about my marriage ---just trying to get thru each day. How is this fair?


together 25 yrs, married 24 yrs, 4 children;Rebuilding
D Day: 5/10/2011 PA
OW: WH's co-worker,divorced, no children, 20 yrs younger than I-----& she knew he was married, had met our kids, but that did not stop her from trying to destroy our family

Posts: 1337 | Registered: Dec 2012
pewpewpew
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Member # 38116
Default  Posted: 5:23 PM, September 7th (Saturday)

The karma bus has already hit her...

You may *think* she is living some great life - but is she really?
What kind of woman is she? One that could sleep with someone's husband...

That's no kind of woman I'd ever want to be.


ME: 30
WH: 35

Fool me once - Shame on you. Fool me twice - pack your shit and get out.


Posts: 308 | Registered: Jan 2013
sullymeishadomi
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Member # 16305
Default  Posted: 6:04 PM, September 7th (Saturday)

There are different ways of looking at this scenario. Let me tell you the story of wh.

When I met him, he worked in a small town corner market. They were supposedly like family.

He got his paisano a job there, also. Let me tell you, the people from his country can be ruthless, underhanded etc.

Wh wasnt innocent. His bff and this coworker were both schtuping the same female who played both sides of the fence sexually. Wh tried to convince the female to dump the coworker and date only his friend. Long story short, the female and her friend coached by the piasano cowkrker she was schtuping accused wh of sexual harrassment. Everyone knew wh did t do it, but the new owner let wh go.

Coworker piasano got wh's job and even more money than wh who had worked there 5 yrs.

Soon, the girlfriends bff was jailed for theft. Piasano and his girlfriend lost their jobs and owner lost his business.

Wh found work in a store where he has been for 8 yrs. He is mgr of his shift and they want him to move up. Losing that job was the best thing for wh professionally.

Maybe when the dust settles your wh or you might move on to better things.

The other thing is, sometimes karmah just doesnt happen. It just doesnt. Wh, ow and some other people I know are nasty and lead charmed lives. Their lives kept improving and the more I wished retribution my life hit the toilet. Sometimes its best just to let all of it go to save yourself. By saving yourself, I mean to be happy and not bitter. Let her go. You cant control her destiny, only your own.

Im sorry, its not what you want to hear. I know life isnt fair. Show your strength and character by how you react to adversity. Those are characteristics ow doesnt exhibit

Eta: this ow reminds me of a vulture. She cant hunt. She feeds off others carcases.

[This message edited by sullymeishadomi at 6:16 PM, September 7th (Saturday)]


People tell you exactly who they are...why expect them to be what they are not

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Broken1Again
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Member # 32211
Default  Posted: 6:25 PM, September 7th (Saturday)

first she tries to steal my husband and now she's trying to get his old job.

This is definitely not going to be of any consolation, but your WS is getting hit by the karma bus is douchebag is applying for his job. It just sucks that his karma bus is affecting you. Maybe think of it that way. That he has to get his karma bus, and this is it, but make no mistake douchebag OW will get hers. You just may not be around to see it, and hopefully when it does happen you won't even care. I think that is the greatest victory.

Try and not focus on what she's getting or not getting and focus on what you are getting and not getting.


BS: 40
WS: 42
Two boys 13/11
Married 15 years
Dday: too Many to remember. 3 significant OW and many "less"'significant OW. Believe WS has bad boundaries and craves the attention.
In R.

Posts: 859 | Registered: May 2011
Dreamland
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Member # 40488
Default  Posted: 7:12 PM, September 7th (Saturday)

Cuppa.. I too feel ya... I get so angry that the OW hasn't been dragged down run over and tossed to the crocs for a snack.. It seems like she did get away scot free and here I am suffering through my marriage. Like you I can't decide if this is really worth it.. Why are we being wronged. I truly feel there is no justice. I know my H cheated but if she wouldn't have stalked him and opened her legs after knowing he was married things would have been different. I know for a fact he would not have cheated if she didn't show up. He wasn't looking. He just got caught up in all the attention and of couse F.@kin. So I am waiting for the bus. I want to drive the bus but can't so at least I want karma to seriously kick her in the ass so I can laugh like she laughed at me.. B...


Me-BS 50 Him-WH 47, DD17
Together since 1993, Married 19 yrs
DDay 3/12,4/12,7/12 EA-PA OW - 25 single husband chasing bastard whore

Posts: 515 | Registered: Aug 2013
mchercheur
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Member # 37735
Default  Posted: 9:10 PM, September 7th (Saturday)

I know my H cheated but if she wouldn't have stalked him and opened her legs after knowing he was married things would have been different. I know for a fact he would not have cheated if she didn't show up. He wasn't looking. He just got caught up in all the attention and of couse F.@kin. So I am waiting for the bus. I want to drive the bus but can't so at least I want karma to seriously kick her in the ass so I can laugh like she laughed at me..

ditto.
I'm sure it was such a big ego boost to OW that she got WH to break his wedding vows.
I have vowed to myself to walk the high road & not drive the bus, but I so want to hear about the bus arriving at her doorstep


together 25 yrs, married 24 yrs, 4 children;Rebuilding
D Day: 5/10/2011 PA
OW: WH's co-worker,divorced, no children, 20 yrs younger than I-----& she knew he was married, had met our kids, but that did not stop her from trying to destroy our family

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