User Topic: Well...that was difficult
Member # 38619
Default  Posted: 4:41 PM, September 7th (Saturday)

Went to the store with DD to get my fWH a birthday card. Last year was easy. It said "Happy Birthday".

We are now 6 months into true R and I couldn't find a card that fit. All of them were too lovey dovey, if you get my meaning. Even though we are doing well I'm just not ready to profess my undying love to him just yet.

"If you're brave enough to say goodbye, life will reward you with a new hello." - Paulo Coehlo

Posts: 408 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: East Coast
Member # 37476
Default  Posted: 4:47 PM, September 7th (Saturday)

I can relate. WH birthday was last week. They are over the top I love you to the moon and back or generic happy birthday. Too caring and too uncaring- no middle ground.

Posts: 273 | Registered: Nov 2012
Member # 40078
Default  Posted: 4:56 PM, September 7th (Saturday)

When it comes to cards instead of getting a birthday or anniversary card, I look at the other cards, get one that says what I'm feeling or comfortable saying then add the Happy Birthday / anniversary myself

D-Day January 2013
prior EA in the 90's
me 50
WH 52
last broken NC 7/2013 (hopefully)
Married 29 years
2 kids
Want to believe it's over, but is it really? Will I ever trust again?

Posts: 317 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: USA
Member # 39584
Default  Posted: 4:56 PM, September 7th (Saturday)

I agree. I bought two cards for WH's birthday this year, but didn't feel comfortable giving him either. I just explained that there weren't any cards that fit right now.

WH - 35
2.5 year LTA

Posts: 160 | Registered: Jun 2013
Member # 37735
Default  Posted: 5:00 PM, September 7th (Saturday)

I got the most extreme lovey-dovey one I could find & gave it to him. Of course he is not smart enough to know that it was a complete sarcastic joke to me---in fact, it was a statement about what could have been, but is so missing from our marriage.

together 25 yrs, married 24 yrs, 4 children;Rebuilding
D Day: 5/10/2011 PA
OW: WH's co-worker,divorced, no children, 20 yrs younger than I-----& she knew he was married, had met our kids, but that did not stop her from trying to destroy our family

Posts: 1396 | Registered: Dec 2012
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