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gahurts
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Default  Posted: 7:39 AM, September 8th (Sunday)

I saw this on FB a few days ago and it really resonated with me. Yes I've been broken. Quite a few times. I feel like I've been smashed to bits and I own the parts that I caused or created myself.

We can only grow and get better after each set-back. I know when I was a regular in General, there were days when I felt like the world was coming to an end. SI helped me get through those and repaired me with the gold and silver to allow me to shine. I'm still fixing a bunch of rough edges but I am getting there.

For those of you just starting your journey through this shit sandwich you've been forced to eat, know that there is a better world on the other side. The only was to get out of hell is to go through it. Time, hard work (and prayer) really are the answers and they do work even if it doesn't seem like that right now. Be strong and hang in there and know that there is a community of your 40,000 closest friends you never wanted to meet always here to help prop you up when all you want to do is drop.

Thanks SI

[This message edited by gahurts at 7:41 AM, September 8th (Sunday)]


"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie


Posts: 3432 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Georgia
WhatsRight
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Default  Posted: 7:42 AM, September 8th (Sunday)

VERY cool. There is no way to know how beautiful I will be when I get through all this!

Thank you.


"Noone can make you feel inferior without your concent." Eleanor Roosevelt

I will not be vanquished. Rose Kennedy


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inconnu
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Default  Posted: 8:57 AM, September 8th (Sunday)

Excellent timing with this post, gahurts. It's certainly something I needed to see this weekend.

understanding that the piece is more beautiful for having been broken

I'm quickly coming up on a d-day anti-versary that I was sure was not going to affect me this year, but I was wrong. It hit me, and hit me hard, in a way I didn't expect. And I spent yesterday sinking into a pit where I ended up wallowing.

Only, part of what put me in that pit was coming across some old photos on my computer. And I had just taken a new photo of myself last weekend to change on my facebook profile. So I really had good examples of before and after to compare.

I'm pretty sure all the gold that has repaired my brokenness is shining through now.


Say what you wanna say and let the words fall out...honestly
I wanna see you be brave

Pretty pretty please, don't you ever ever feel
Like you're less than, less than perfect


Posts: 12164 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: DeepInTheHeartOf, TX
gahurts
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Default  Posted: 9:10 AM, September 8th (Sunday)

I'm pretty sure all the gold that has repaired my brokenness is shining through now

This is great. I hope your antiversary goes through fairly quickly and you can put it behind you soon.


"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie


Posts: 3432 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Georgia
solus sto
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Default  Posted: 1:37 PM, September 8th (Sunday)

We can only grow and get better after each set-back.
I wish this were true, but it is not. Growing and getting better are a choice. And some people are not able to make that choice, for a variety of very real reasons.

You are fortunate that you have grown stronger and better.

I am, too.

But statements like this can be hurtful to those who really aren't there yet, or for whom life circumstances or mental/emotional vulnerabilities prevent constructively moving forward.

They exist. Sometimes, brokenness does not mend.

Still, I appreciate the sentiment, and recognize that making it known that the choice is available (for many/most) is helpful to those to whom it applies.


BS-me, 52
WH (Trac-fone), 53, PD
2 kids-DD25, DS18
multiple d-days
DIVORCING
Alone, most strangely, I live on~Rupert Brooke

Posts: 8835 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: midwest
jasonguitarboy
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Default  Posted: 3:54 PM, September 8th (Sunday)

This is how "we" felt, prior to my WWs last one year "love affair"..... I thought we were in the clear and stronger and better than before... she saw this as an opportunity to "fall in love" with someone else.

Shit sandwich, indeed. No matter how close you are, no matter how well you believe you know someone....


What doesn't kill us makes us stronger.....right?
"And there's a change, that even with regret, cannot be undone."
"No one plans to take the path that leads us lower..."
Me-BS 35
Her-WS 32 (surviving1979)

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