I found out about the affair 4 years after if happened so I was clueless while this went down.
Shortly during/after his unknown affair, WH insisted on buying a two seater airplane. I was hesitant and against it because it seemed rushed. WH complained to OW about it. I was the big bad wife who wouldn't go along with an expensive toy.
Affair ends, plane bought, life moved on. WH was constantly spending time with the plane. When he wasn't flying it, it needed worked on or it needed washed or some other crap. I joked that he spent so much time with it that the plane was his mistress . We joked about it and I even had a decal made for the damn plane- "the mistress". I feel so damn stupid. How could he joke and go along with it like it was nothing knowing that a month before he DID have a mistress???? I feel like sucker is written on my forehead.
I guess this Is another thing that bothers me along with the fact that he says he is sorry and instantly knew he never should have done it after the fact. He held the secret for 4 years and instead of trying to be the best husband he could be, he did the opposite. He detached and basically left me being a single person/parent. He invested in only himself and was wrapped up in his own selfishness.
I know - there is no understanding the illogical. It is crazy making to try and make sense of something that you can't make logical. I guess this is a vent. I just want to scream dumbass at him over and over again but that won't be productive to R.