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tesla
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Default  Posted: 5:53 PM, September 11th (Wednesday)

Ex-shat texts me last night saying OC has some kind of crazy contagious rash, maybe we should switch weekends so Teslet is not exposed. I text him last night that if he feels it is contagious then I would prefer to switch weekends...but since it is only Tuesday, if he wanted to wait until Wednesday night to make that call, that was fine.

Here is the text I received this morning:

Looked into it, apparently there are a lot of kids up to age 6 who are coming in with this same virus. Doctor doesn't even know what it is, but cautions that it appears highly contagious for the first five days. I'm missing Teslet something fierce, maybe I can come and take him out for dinner Monday. Doc says the contagion should pass after about five days, tho in truth I'm not sure how they can be sure of that when they don't even know what it is. But I think I should err on the side of caution, it is a miserable sickness and I would not want Teslet to suffer it.
Are you sure you want to pursue this lawsuit? I really, really don't want any more contention between us. If you need a couple grand I will just give it to you. You surely must realize that if I'm forced to counter sue that you will end up owing me thousands...
I accept that you hate me, tho I still very much love you, you gave me the best son I could have ever hoped for. And if we could just be civil with one another I woud gladly help you out any time you need it so long as it's in my power. I am only now catcdhing up from the separation and divorce. With my head above water in the near future, I will happily help out, as I see it as being in the best interest of our son. I truly am sorry that things got so fucked up so quickly. You were right in part that I was not myself. I've sought and found remediation with my psychiatrist and am now under her direct supervision to aid in my recovery. I've made very significant progress with my medication regiment and for the first time in a long time I am seeing things lucidly again. With that being said, I'm sorry. You are a wonderful woman and deserve better than me. My regret is that I lost sight of myself and have messed up your life so terribly when you deserve so much better. but I have a daughter now that I cherish, Teslet's little sister and I have irrevocably changed the course of our lives. I know you will not forgive me, but it is my deepest desire that we can somehow find a way to reconcile for Teslet's sake. I take responsibility for my mistakes, I was not myself. I had lost sight of my own principles and have suffered endlessly ever since. Can we please find a way to get along, I've always held you in the highest regard. I credit you for getting me through my roughest patches and I know I owe you a great debt. I wish I could turn back time but I cannot. What I can do is try to be the man I've always aspired to be. Are you pusuing this lawsuit to punish me or do you need the money? I told you at the beginning of this that I would not let you languish. I am finally in a position to make good on that. But we need to reconcile our differences. I once told you that I believed there was some frailty within us both and that perhaps we were each others remedy. It would seem my frailties were stronger than my constitution. I truly am sorry for hurting you. I wish I could turn back time, but all I can do is try and be a good father...

I couldn't help myself.
I sent this:


We will figure on switching weekends...I will reflect that on the google calendar and send you a confirmation text this evening.
If you would like to take GTeslet to dinner on Monday, please let me kjnow the time you would like to pick him up. I am not suing you. I am asking you to pay the amount of the tax refund that you agreed to pay me in the settlement. I wish you happines, contentment and peace in your new life. I have been lucky enough to have found all of those in my new life.

I do sincerely hope that he becomes a good father for Teslet. As to the rest...fuck him. I don't not need that codependent cycle of misery back.

[This message edited by tesla at 5:59 PM, September 11th (Wednesday)]


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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Default  Posted: 5:56 PM, September 11th (Wednesday)

That's a wonderful response, tesla. Better than he deserved.

((((hugs))))


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Default  Posted: 6:03 PM, September 11th (Wednesday)

Wow, just wow on that.

You responded. I don't think I could have responded at all. There was so much in there to work with.

Poor Muffin!


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JustDone
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Default  Posted: 6:09 PM, September 11th (Wednesday)

...and I know I owe you a great debt.

If this email was even partly true, I hope he pays it - at least the money part.

Hugs!


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phmh
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Default  Posted: 6:19 PM, September 11th (Wednesday)

Ugh. Sorry you had to read that, but I'm glad it came late enough in your healing s that you're not tempted to fall for that crap.

If he's so sorry, how about returning your dog? Jackass. All words, no actions.

He is right that you are a strong and awesome lady. I'm sure he does regret every day leaving you for a stripper whore, but that's no longer your problem!!!


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Default  Posted: 6:38 PM, September 11th (Wednesday)

Love it when a WS gets a hold of a thesaurus.


Me - BS
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Housefulloflove
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Default  Posted: 6:54 PM, September 11th (Wednesday)

As to the rest...fuck him. I don't not need that codependent cycle of misery back.

That was an excellent reply! I don't think I could have handled that long-winded nonsense so well. If he's working on being a better guy and truly realized how fucked up he is, he would probably get that being forced to pay what he owes is NOT to "punish" him. He should regret a whole lot at this point but it seems like what he really regrets is being in a position that forces him to take some accountability.

Tesla won't back down. Hmmmm..none of my normal moves are working. I know, time to wear the "Mr. Epiphany" mask! A little flattery, some pretend remorse and a pinch of "this is for the good of all" and she'll roll over! FTG!


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ruinedandbroken
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Default  Posted: 7:30 PM, September 11th (Wednesday)

That response was perfect.


“People who cheat feel that life is for the taking, and that everyone deserves happiness no matter what the cost. I must remember these tricks if I ever have my soul surgically removed."
Me: BS 42. Him: WH 41 2 Kids 6&9
Married 14 yrs Together 21

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ruinedandbroken
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Default  Posted: 7:30 PM, September 11th (Wednesday)

That response was perfect.


“People who cheat feel that life is for the taking, and that everyone deserves happiness no matter what the cost. I must remember these tricks if I ever have my soul surgically removed."
Me: BS 42. Him: WH 41 2 Kids 6&9
Married 14 yrs Together 21

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ruinedandbroken
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Default  Posted: 7:30 PM, September 11th (Wednesday)

That response was perfect.


“People who cheat feel that life is for the taking, and that everyone deserves happiness no matter what the cost. I must remember these tricks if I ever have my soul surgically removed."
Me: BS 42. Him: WH 41 2 Kids 6&9
Married 14 yrs Together 21

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ruinedandbroken
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Default  Posted: 7:30 PM, September 11th (Wednesday)

That response was perfect.


“People who cheat feel that life is for the taking, and that everyone deserves happiness no matter what the cost. I must remember these tricks if I ever have my soul surgically removed."
Me: BS 42. Him: WH 41 2 Kids 6&9
Married 14 yrs Together 21

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ruinedandbroken
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Default  Posted: 7:30 PM, September 11th (Wednesday)

That response was perfect.


“People who cheat feel that life is for the taking, and that everyone deserves happiness no matter what the cost. I must remember these tricks if I ever have my soul surgically removed."
Me: BS 42. Him: WH 41 2 Kids 6&9
Married 14 yrs Together 21

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ruinedandbroken
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Default  Posted: 7:30 PM, September 11th (Wednesday)

That response was perfect.


“People who cheat feel that life is for the taking, and that everyone deserves happiness no matter what the cost. I must remember these tricks if I ever have my soul surgically removed."
Me: BS 42. Him: WH 41 2 Kids 6&9
Married 14 yrs Together 21

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donotlietome
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Default  Posted: 7:41 PM, September 11th (Wednesday)

You really are a super cool girl!!! Too smart for that dipwad!!! Maybe you should send stripperho a present. That slut did you a favor.

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alphakitte
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Default  Posted: 7:43 PM, September 11th (Wednesday)

Well, apparently, your response was perfect! LOL!

I take responsibility for my mistakes, I was not myself.

Now that might have made sense if it were two separate sentences, but when separated by a comma it is just blameshifting!


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Default  Posted: 8:03 PM, September 11th (Wednesday)

Dear asshat, which self were you when you stole my dog?

FTG


Me- BS
Him- FWS (I hope- F)

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sparkysable
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Default  Posted: 8:17 PM, September 11th (Wednesday)

I swear tesla it reminds me of the same shit my ex has said to me. words words words blah blah blah.


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Default  Posted: 8:18 PM, September 11th (Wednesday)

This is what I read:

"Tesla, you are amazing (please don't sue me), and I'm so sorry for what I've done (please don't sue me). I've always held you in high esteem (pretty please don't sue me), and I hope that we can be friends again someday because you are the most awesome person ever (you're not going to sue me, right?)."

What a dope. I hope he gets that contagious rash all over his groin.


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Default  Posted: 8:18 PM, September 11th (Wednesday)

It's apparently duplicate post night...

[This message edited by tryingagain74 at 8:19 PM, September 11th (Wednesday)]


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It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

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Default  Posted: 8:29 PM, September 11th (Wednesday)

What ruinedandbroken said.

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tesla
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Default  Posted: 8:40 PM, September 11th (Wednesday)

2 years ago, I would have read that crap and rugswept whatever the issue was...and we would be off again on our codependent bullshit.

Now, no way.

If he gave me my fucking dog back maybe I'd start thinking of him as close to resembling a fucking human being.

I lost all respect for him the day he broke into my house.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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FirstLoveGone
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Default  Posted: 8:49 PM, September 11th (Wednesday)

Your response back to him was more than he deserved.

You are one classy lady!


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SBB
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Default  Posted: 9:07 PM, September 11th (Wednesday)

Better than he deserved

^^THIS. So much better. You are a good and decent woman.

I also agree with TG about "(please don't sue me)".

No more responses.

There are no fish in this pond. This pond has no water. Fuck off.

I would love to say this wouldn't be a mind-fuck for me but I would be lying. Just reading that felt like a punch in the gut. I almost threw up. I'm so sorry you had to read it.

((((Tesla)))) I much prefer it when they being invisible. Next best thing is when they are being fucksticks.

Be the dad that my kids deserve. That's the only thing I want from you - that is the only thing that would help me stop dripping with regret about choosing so poorly for them.

Fuck.That.Guy. Fuck him right to hell. Fucker.

[This message edited by StrongButBroken at 9:32 PM, September 11th (Wednesday)]


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Woody- The word I'm searching for, I can't say, because there are Pre-school toys here.

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Grace and Flowers
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Default  Posted: 10:03 PM, September 11th (Wednesday)

Wow. They really follow the WS Handbook all the way down, don't they? I heard all of those EXACT words from XWH (minus the "don't sue me" whining) in the last year or so. Before I stopped responding completely, I would generally text back and say something like "When you learn how to stop lying, maybe we can talk"....knowing, of course, that he will never stop because he actually believes the bullshit he spouts (you're a wonderful woman, etc).

You nailed it. Great response. Much nicer than I would have wanted to be. And I wish he'd give that damn dog back. He probably doesn't even remember "stealing" Mosely.

You have amazed me with your strength, Tes. Way to go, sister!


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Default  Posted: 10:19 PM, September 11th (Wednesday)

Unbe-freakng-lievable. I was personally TICKED for you as I read this. He says he loves you and hopes you can reconcile in the same breath as he says please don't make me pay you? While he talks about life with StripperWhore and OC? Wait, did he mention StriperWhore? No, he didn't. He talked about taking Teslet ALONE and that he wants you two to be friendly but no talk of StripperWhore. Hmmm, methinks something could be amiss in rainbow/sparkle/fart land


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Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
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Default  Posted: 10:31 PM, September 11th (Wednesday)

What a pathetic diseased windbag.


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
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to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

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ChoosingHope
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Default  Posted: 10:34 PM, September 11th (Wednesday)

Ugh, he's HOPELESS.

I could barely stand to read it. It's too familiar to me, and it reeks of my own old co-dependent marriage to a SA NPD.

Your reply was perfect. A little too nice for me, but I think you're further ahead in your healing and your new life than I am!

Thanks for posting it.


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Default  Posted: 10:42 PM, September 11th (Wednesday)

You have class. Period.

I hope you are high-fiving yourself right now.

(And I love the interpretation by TA74.)

[This message edited by Iamhappytoday at 10:43 PM, September 11th (Wednesday)]


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2DD's 15 months at start
Together 10 years, M 9
OW 22 CW, 2kids by 2 men & youngest less than 1 when affair started.
Dday 1 8/16/12 "just texting"
TT, gaslighting, denial; was always PA; he left me for her.

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tesla
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Default  Posted: 10:56 PM, September 11th (Wednesday)

He doesn't get how drastically his infidelity changed me. He has no idea what he is dealing with anymore. So he tries the same bullshit because it always worked before. Always. It makes me sick to think I would always roll over and then feel utterly hopeless that nothing in our relationship would change. The two years leading up to D-Day, I cried every night. Every. Fucking. Night.

He's right, I will never forgive him. My heart is hardened toward him. And I can live with that. But I can still deal with him on a professional level to raise our son.

But this bullshit text isn't about that. It's about his need for validation. It's about his need to appear as a generous, benevolent provider. Hard to keep telling yourself that you are generous and benevolent when your ex-wife is taking you to court to pay money you owe. It's also about his fantasy that somehow the universe will bring us back together and I will accept and raise OC. Fuck that noise, I am not that doormat anymore.



"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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Default  Posted: 11:23 PM, September 11th (Wednesday)

I tried to read it. I really did try. I couldn't finish it, though.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
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SBB
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Default  Posted: 12:46 AM, September 12th (Thursday)

The two years leading up to D-Day, I cried every night. Every. Fucking. Night.

Me too, friend. Me too.

We've been through the hard stuff - we're still dealing with our shit but the worst of it is thankfully behind us.

For them? The worst is all around them. They are living in the eye of the storm even if they are too stupid to realise it.


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Default  Posted: 12:53 AM, September 12th (Thursday)

It is ALL so familiar. Lets remember that just as recently as July I had my court date with my ex poopsmear who just might be exshats twin, and I actually got a nice fat judgment against him. Of course, I'm still waiting on that to get paid, but the judge gave him until the end of November to do that. In my case, the situation has been dragging along like this with underpaid support for years and I would always hear the same "I'm not doing anything wrong and you will owe me money if you pursue this and I can help you out if this is about the money" blah blah blah bullshit.

It was in large part to reading here on SI that I had to strength to not engage in the communication and stay strong through very stressful court proceedings and the months/weeks/days leading up to that so that I could get what I was owed and not roll over like you speak of.

Stupid fucker. May he catch the rash from hell and his dick fall off. FTG


-betrayed almost my whole almost 15 yr marriage
-divorced since 2004

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HurtsButImOK
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Default  Posted: 1:57 AM, September 12th (Thursday)

Perfect response Tesla, you nailed it. What an amazing, strong and classy gal you are.

Teslet is very blessed to have you as a momma.

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FTGFTGFTGFTGFTGFTGFTGFTGFTG
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ETA to unbreak screen and add

"Love it when a WS gets a hold of a thesaurus. " <<that comment made me

[This message edited by HurtsButImOK at 2:00 AM, September 12th (Thursday)]


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Default  Posted: 2:12 AM, September 12th (Thursday)

Here is what I read, "I, I, I, I, me, me, Please don't sue me, I, I, I, me, me, me..."

Your reply really was perfect. I mean, since a hot poker up his ass wasn't really an option. FTG is right.


Me: BS
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Default  Posted: 3:54 AM, September 12th (Thursday)

I don't post much and can't really add to the thread but still wanted to throw my voice in here. I have been following your story Tesla (i also have a young son and our ddays are close to each other) I think you handled that perfectly. You are so strong!! Good for you for not falling for his crap anymore. That mail was all about himself and nothing about you or Teslet.

As for forgiving. Forgiveness is overrated in my opinion. Some things can be moved past but never forgiven...


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Default  Posted: 1:18 PM, September 12th (Thursday)

That was the most bipolar piece of craziness I have read.

"I love you. I'm sorry and I take responsibility for everything. I want us to get along. Also, if you sue me I'm going to countersue your ass off."


Question - does his head ratchet around in circles when he talks?


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Default  Posted: 2:15 PM, September 12th (Thursday)

Uhgggg, I concur FTG.
Amazing, simply amazing the depth of selfishness in some people.


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Default  Posted: 2:17 PM, September 12th (Thursday)

I have a daughter now that I cherish, Teslet's little sister and I have irrevocably changed the course of our lives. I know you will not forgive me, but it is my deepest desire that we can somehow find a way to reconcile for Teslet's sake.

Does he mean reconcile as in real R or as in 'be friends?'????

I read it to mean real R.....and it just made me think of a hamster wheel. R now with Tesla for the sake of Teslet, and then next week R with stripperwhore for OC's sake, and then the next week.....I'm sure you get the picture.....

I hate dealing w/ this kind of crap. You moved on, bozo. Keep walkin'.


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


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Default  Posted: 2:18 PM, September 12th (Thursday)

That was a TEXT?

His widdle thumbs must be bleeding.

AJ's MOM


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tesla
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Default  Posted: 3:11 PM, September 12th (Thursday)

Yup. That was a text. He works midnights. I received it at 7am...must have been a slow shift.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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tesla
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Default  Posted: 3:17 PM, September 12th (Thursday)

Gonna---I don't know how he meant reconcile. I think I snorted when I got to the part about 'Teslet's little sister.'

He's delusional if he thinks Teslet and OC are going to relate to each other as full siblings.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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Default  Posted: 3:19 PM, September 12th (Thursday)

Yeah, I thought it was long for a text. I thought there was no way StripperWhore would let him text you for that long, so he must have been in the bathroom and claiming diarrhea

I get the bullying too when discussing legal matters. If he was so sure of himself, he wouldn't be texting and begging and threatening you. What a dick.. FTG..


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Default  Posted: 4:25 PM, September 12th (Thursday)

Let me start by saying that I admire the strength you have shown through this ordeal I have read many, many of your posts and been amazed at the strength you have shown.

However, this concerns me...

He's delusional if he thinks Teslet and OC are going to relate to each other as full siblings.

How do you see their relationship?


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DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 20(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
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SeanFLA
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Default  Posted: 4:29 PM, September 12th (Thursday)

Wow if I had to count the amount "I's" in there. Surprised everything didn't contain a "....but..."


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1 son 14 yrs old
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MyReturn2Me
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Default  Posted: 4:33 PM, September 12th (Thursday)

They must all use the same writer

::::crickets:::: on his sociopathetic ass!


Me: BS 51 and Freaking AWESOME!
Him: Who the fuck cares........

Posts: 259 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Puget Sound
tesla
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Default  Posted: 5:35 PM, September 12th (Thursday)

5454real -- Teslet only sees OC every other weekend. He sees her as often as he sees his cousins...so at best, I think he'll see her as a glorified cousin. They won't have any traditions in common, they will have very few values in common...ex-shat has no core sense of self, he has no familial traditions of his own, he has no sense of family history...OC will get all of that from stripper whore.

That's why I think it unlikely that Teslet will relate to her as if she were a full blooded sibling that was raised by me.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4552 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
sammie
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Default  Posted: 11:27 PM, September 12th (Thursday)

He is DELUSIONAL! UTTERLY DELUSIONAL!!!!

And yes, he DOES somehow hope and believe that you are going to drop everything and allow him to return with little T's *sister* and that you will raise them together!

HE IS COMPLETELY MAD!!!

However, I do think maybe you could send him a "please return Mosely at your earliest possible convenience" txt...

Hugs hon. So sorry you are dealing with this unmitigated fucking CODSWALLOP!


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Never give more of yourself than you are getting back.

"The world breaks everyone and afterward many are strong at the broken places." ~Ernest Hemingway


Posts: 5818 | Registered: Aug 2005 | From: Australia
SBB
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Default  Posted: 4:20 AM, September 13th (Friday)

However, I do think maybe you could send him a "please return Mosely at your earliest possible convenience" txt...

I'd wait him out.

Otherwise you're letting him know he still has that button to push. He KNOWS you want Mosely back. He WANTS you to ask so he can torment you with it. Wait it out. I reckon he'll offer as a strategic move.


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Posts: 5411 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
tesla
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Default  Posted: 6:34 AM, September 13th (Friday)

I would love to offer him a reduced amount to pay me back if he were to return Mosley...but I'll save that if we end up in front of a judge. Who knows, being put on the spot in a court and looking stupid may just get me my pup back.

He won't give that dog back to me otherwise. He knows that Mosley is the one thing he has that I want.

FTG.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4552 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
Snapdragon
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Default  Posted: 10:04 AM, September 13th (Friday)

If there is a contagious virus in his house, do you really want him having dinner with Teslet on Monday? Seems he might have it, too, and spread it. I think I wait it out for that whole household!


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