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hangingontohope7
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Evil  Posted: 6:32 PM, September 11th (Wednesday)

I can't help but laugh. He actually brought her to my house to drop the kids off. Part of me thinks its pathetic.

I'm not going to let them break me. I walked out of the house with my head held high and looked her straight in the face.

Sorry OW, I'm not the monster that you've made me out to be. I'm just like any other woman, wife and mother. So, I hope you got a good look. I didn't act a fool or say anything nasty to you, even though I sure as hell could have said plenty. I have integrity... something you lack.


Me: BW
DDay #1 Tried R
DDAY #2 Divorcing

Burn everything love then burn the ashes.


Posts: 247 | Registered: Jun 2008
gypsybird87
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Default  Posted: 6:55 PM, September 11th (Wednesday)

Good job! I haven't come face to face with OW yet. Can't say I'm looking forward to it, but one thing I know for sure: no matter what she thinks of me, it will never be close to the disgust, loathing, and PITY that I feel for her.


Me: Looking forward to the future
Him: Left behind in the past

Rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life. ~ JK Rowling


Posts: 659 | Registered: May 2013 | From: Oregon
homewrecked2011
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Default  Posted: 6:57 PM, September 11th (Wednesday)

My atty said if she does this, I can file a notice of no trespass on her, which means she has to sit in the road on her broom.

[This message edited by homewrecked2011 at 6:57 PM, September 11th (Wednesday)]


me BS 52
him - 46
married 15 years DIVORCED 10 31 12
children - ds15 ds12
d-day 12-19-11
I gave a 24hour ultimatum then went to attorney next day
Divorce filed

Posts: 1955 | Registered: Jan 2012
Blackhair
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Default  Posted: 7:52 PM, September 11th (Wednesday)

Proud of you! Good job. I am actually so worried/stressed out and do not know what to say when that day happens to me, now I will simply do what you did!


M: 10 years
DD:5 DS Twin: 2 yrs old
DDay: Earlier 2013, WS flew/met many times with a Philippine girl found online (20 yrs younger)
SA finalized 6 months after DD. divorcing...
I am determined to fly even with broken wings and a broken heart!

Posts: 163 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Canada
suckstobeme
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Default  Posted: 8:15 PM, September 11th (Wednesday)

It is pathetic. Talk about trying to piss on their territory like the dogs they are.

Mine did this once. I didn't know it though until the kids came in. At first, I felt the blood start to boil. After a minute though, I thought, "take a good look around, whore. Take a look and see what he left for half the life he has with you. Soak it in and realize what you will never have.". Stupid bitch.


BW - me
ExWH - "that one"
D - 2011
You get what you put in, and people get what they deserve.
Hard as it may be, try to never give the OP any of your power or head space.

Posts: 2693 | Registered: Jan 2011
tryingagain74
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Default  Posted: 8:26 PM, September 11th (Wednesday)

XWH brought his over too when dropping our kids off at my place after the big family vacation. I really can't get mad anymore because the Owife looks so pathetic and dependent, and she always looks like she's dressed for an 80s-themed party. I always think of her as a little mousie to my big, bad wolf. Sometimes, it actually helps to see how truly lacking they are; the reality of the APs is usually so much funnier, weirder, or sadder than the fantasies we build in our heads about them.

But yes, let your ex "flaunt" his "prize," and then have yourself a good laugh.


BS (Me) 39
Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

Posts: 3537 | Registered: Oct 2011
Bluebird26
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Default  Posted: 3:29 AM, September 12th (Thursday)

My xwh used to bring the OW to every pick up. It's like she didn't trust him or something

Now they are married she doesn't come nearly as often. She must trust him more now they are married

Keep holding your head up high that is all you can do.


"Loving someone should not mean losing you. Love empowers you. It shouldn't erase you. - Thelma Davis.

Posts: 1280 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Australia
hoya96
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Default  Posted: 7:14 PM, September 12th (Thursday)

My ex sends OW to pick up the kids (they're now married). She comes to parent teacher conferences, all athletic events, volunteers at their school (which is also my place of employment), etc.

I have been told that she is their parent also and will be as involved as him in their lives.

S'fun. I just keep my boundaries up, and never acknowledge her existence. I still have a hard time wrapping my brain around the fact that they see nothing wrong with this (in fact, I am lectured on a regular basis about refusing to respond to her e-mails, or coparent with her), but I try to remember that someone who could have an affair with his wife's best friend/her best friend's husband is disordered to begin with.

Good for you for taking the high road. Remember that no matter how they act, you are the one with class and integrity.


Me: 39
3 children ages 9, 11 and 13
Out of blue ex said he wanted separation 2/14/10
DDay #1: 5/23/10 18 month affair with his 22 yr old paralegal
DDay #2 9/22/10 my best friend, now his wife
Divorced: 12/10/10
Re-married a wonderful man: 5/12/12

Posts: 309 | Registered: Jun 2010
tesla
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Default  Posted: 7:52 PM, September 12th (Thursday)

Stripper whore is the one present 90% of the time when I pick Teslet up. Over the summer, she always came on the drive with ex-shat to get Teslet.

The last time I went to pick Teslet up, she invited me into the house because she was having trouble getting Teslet out the door.
I politely declined that invitation and told Teslet he had the count of three to get himself to the door. There stood stripper whore, mouth agape as she watched Teslet high-tail it to the door. She followed us outside as I made him sit down and put his sandals on. I think she was mentally trying to take notes on how to parent.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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