User Topic: Holy Shit!!!!!
Member # 32324
Exclaimation  Posted: 5:41 AM, September 12th (Thursday)

I posted a thread earlier today about feeling like something was off with my H. I've spent a lot of time going through emails, Facebook, dresser drawers, and a bunch of other places. Found nothing. So, I sat on the couch to eat some lunch, watch crap TV, and take a break from going crazy. So, I'm sitting on the couch when it just suddenly hits me. I'm acting like completely insane. Really. This fear that my H is hiding something came out of no where. I only get totally crazy in two situations. The first is the day before and during my period. Yeah, I'm definitely not any fun around that time. The second is when I'm pregnant.

I'm pregnant.

Holy fuck! I'm pregnant! How in the hell am I supposed to tell my H this? I'm not happy. He won't be happy. We don't want more kids. I'm not supposed to be able to have more kids. God damn it all to hell! I didn't go through a ridiculously painful procedure to prevent pregnancy only to get knocked up again. I'm fucking pissed and want to punch and break a whole lot of shit. At the same time, I want to drive to see my H and just cry.

Oh, I forgot to mention that I do have a positive test. Ugh. Fuck my life.

Me: 28
Him: 29
Married 8 years
Daughter, 7 yrs old
D-Day: 05/08/2011

Posts: 628 | Registered: May 2011 | From: Germany
Member # 34678
Default  Posted: 5:50 AM, September 12th (Thursday)

When I became pregnant with my 2nd child, I felt the same way. But, I tell you, this child has been the absolute most awesome think that has ever happened to me. Yep, my XWH was an ass when I told him. He wanted me to abort. I thought, nope, I'll get rid of YOU before I abort the baby. My youngest son brings me flowers, just walks up and gives me hugs - and he's an 8th grade rough as they come boy!!!

me BS 52
him - 46
married 15 years DIVORCED 10 31 12
children - ds15 ds12
d-day 12-19-11
I gave a 24hour ultimatum then went to attorney next day
Divorce filed

Posts: 2210 | Registered: Jan 2012
Member # 33802
Default  Posted: 6:32 AM, September 12th (Thursday)

Hugs to you, Frigidfire. I got pregnant with our HB baby about 4 months after DDay. I love her dearly, but I remember the shock looking at that pregnancy test.

How are you guys doing with reconciliation?

Together 16 years, married 10.
DDay 07/26/2011, 8 month EA/PA with friend of our family. Months of TT.
DDay#2 Early spring 2012, confirmed EA with another woman.

Posts: 144 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: Sunny South
Member # 32324
Default  Posted: 6:55 AM, September 12th (Thursday)

We're not in R. He's not doing a whole bunch of things wrong or anything, he's just not doing much of anything at all. We've been in Limbo for two years now. I seriously don't want more kids. Honestly though, I doubt this pregnancy will make it very far. My daughter was my miracle. I've lost three others. One at 8 weeks, one at 11 weeks, and one at 23 weeks. Two were before my daughter, one was after. Getting pregnant is easy for me (well, it shouldn't have been this time). Staying pregnant is the hard part. I don't want to deal with any of this again.

Me: 28
Him: 29
Married 8 years
Daughter, 7 yrs old
D-Day: 05/08/2011

Posts: 628 | Registered: May 2011 | From: Germany
Member # 34755
Default  Posted: 7:09 AM, September 12th (Thursday)

What procedure did you go through to prevent? I only ask because if you had an ablation (I did) it can be VERY dangerous to get pregnant. Please call your GYN asap if that is the case.

I'm so sorry you are dealing with this.

BS - Me
DDay 1 - Jul 11
DDay 2 - Jul 12
R Dec 12

Former 80s Icon wishful thinking

Posts: 2031 | Registered: Feb 2012
Member # 29341
Default  Posted: 7:28 AM, September 12th (Thursday)

((HUGS)) Please call your doctor. Take care of you.

We're both in our 30s. One awesome 4-year-old daughter.

Posts: 6809 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Somewhere in the South
Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 7:29 AM, September 12th (Thursday)

(((((frigidfire))))) Sending you strength, honey.

You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana

Posts: 25726 | Registered: Aug 2011
Member # 36654
Default  Posted: 7:31 AM, September 12th (Thursday)

I know what you mean. I found out I was pregnant while going through college at the age of 31. My DD was 10 at the time. XWH#1 was not happy and sceduled an abortion. After 3 days of crying, I told him I would not have the abortion. His response was, fine then you raise him. XWH#1 refused to help me with him at all during the first few years and that was fine with me. He was the most special baby and was such a momma's boy for years. I never regretted it other than it kept me in the marriage a lot longer than I wanted to be. I finally filed for D when he was 8 and the X-ass had the nerve to fight me for custody for 2.5 years. He didn't want to have to pay CS was the only reason he wanted him. Then he spent the next few years turning my son against me every chance he got. It was horrible what he did to my DS. Even with all that I never regretted having him. He is 19 now and in the Marines and is stationed in Japan. I really miss him alot.

Give yourself time to think about what you want. I have always thought that there is a reason for everything that happens to us. Ultimately it is your decision to make. (((HUGS)))

M-9 yrs T-11 yrs
4 children-none together
DD#1-9/5/11 LTA 2yrs
DD#2-7/3/12 False R
DD#3-4/29/13 (OW broke NC)
Status: Your guess is as good as mine.

Posts: 2420 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Texas
Member # 32519
Default  Posted: 7:34 AM, September 12th (Thursday)

Calm down honey and just take a breather. I know it's a shock. I truly believe things happen for a reason. Just take it one day at a time and don't make any rash decisions.

Me: now 38
Him: up and left for OW
OW: old maid mid thirties with biological clock ticking, desparate for a man.
Divorced the cheater - 8/2011
Married the most AMAZING man - 10/2013

Posts: 796 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: NJ
Member # 21101
Default  Posted: 9:28 AM, September 12th (Thursday)


Seriously honey if you had an ablation, or similar type procedure you are at risk for having some serious problems.

Get thee to the Dr ASAP.

Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

Posts: 8707 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
Member # 40076
Default  Posted: 9:41 AM, September 12th (Thursday)

Just sending you some hugs.

Take care of yourself hun.


me: BW, 30
him: WH, 25
us: edging closer to R every day

married 2y, together 2.5y
1 beautiful daughter, 23m

"Someday soon, I'm going to put my life together; Win or lose, I'm starting over again."

Posts: 368 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Texas
Member # 31722
Default  Posted: 9:47 AM, September 12th (Thursday)

Sending hugs ((FF))

Just breathe sweetie.

And please call your doc.

Me: BS
Him: WH

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