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tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 8:42 AM, September 12th (Thursday)

As yesterday has become such a sad and sober day, it is also my birthday, and was my birthday a long time before what those nutjobs did 12 years ago. Seriously...Thanks Bin Laden.

I have had few good birthdays since then, and yesterday was no exception....
I worked, no one at my work even acknowledged that it was my birthday. Had a 2 hour teleconfernce where the boss was so lost I wanted to scream (thank god for mute buttons or I would have lost my job).
I get home, and the Cat has a hematoma on her ear, and will have surgery to fix it tomorrow. Not sure how or why, but of course she won't quit shaking her head now because her ear feels weird, I just hope she doesn't get on on the other side before tomorrow.

My youngest informs she has her first Honors Geometry test, and that she is completely lost on how to do any of it. This is the same kid that I was complaining about the other day, the 14 yo who knows everything.Do you know how hard it is to teach the distance, midpoint, radius/area/circumfrence equations to that knows everything?!?!??....Needless to say with much drama, and episodes of yelling at one another, her yelling at her dad, her yelling at her brother, I was up until 1am doing geometry.
I hope I do well on the test today.

Becasue of all of that, an extra Marching Band Practice, and disorganization on my H's part, I got a passing Happy Birthday from my kids, and H forgot to give me my card, which he had filled out, and set on his dresser, and there is a nicely wrapped gift on the coffee table, that I am asuming is for me, but noone said anything about.

Screw it!! I am taking tomorrow off work, I am taking the cat to the vet, then going for a pedicure, and a massage. I work damn hard, and if no one is gonna recognize it, then I will just have to celebrate on my own.

Thank you for listening...I will now return you to your regularly scheduled programming....


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

Posts: 8716 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
simplydevastated
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Default  Posted: 9:21 AM, September 12th (Thursday)

Aw, TN. I'm so sorry your special was not so special. It should always be recognized.

I hope you have a fabulous, relaxing day today. You certainly deserve it.

(((Big Birthday HUGS)))


Me - BS, 39 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS10, DD7
Married, for now... (4+ D-Day - listed in profile.)

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Newlease
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Default  Posted: 9:26 AM, September 12th (Thursday)

Sorry your actual birthday sucked. But good for you in taking matters into your own hands! I find that if I plan my own birthday, I am never disappointed.

NL


Even if you can't control the world around you, you are still the master of your own soul.

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purplejacket4
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Default  Posted: 9:31 AM, September 12th (Thursday)

You are an angel. (or is it an angle bwahahaha)

I would draw the line (no pun intended, snort) at helping with any math after algebra I. I had to struggle with it. Go get a tutor. Shudder. I actually tutored algebra, geometry and trig in high school back when I was smart. Now, no way would I try to get a handle on that stuff again to teach anyone. Nope. Not happening.


Me: BS 45
Her: fWS 48 (same sex partner)
Together: 18 years now (both MDs)
OW: meh so what 40s PhD
DD1: 10/30/11EA; DD2: 11/10/11 Had ONS; TT until 12/26/11; broke NC 6/12; NC again 7/12; R-ish

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tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 9:32 AM, September 12th (Thursday)

It just sucked because it was in the middle of the week, so no point in taking a day off, plus we had that stupid meeting, that I had to attend.

I will enjoy my day tomorrow, and shouldn't be spending money on myself, since kitty will cost me. But hey it's only money....


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

Posts: 8716 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 1:20 PM, September 12th (Thursday)

((((tushnurse)))) Treat yourself, honey. You deserve it.


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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MissesJai
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Default  Posted: 1:24 PM, September 12th (Thursday)

Treat yourself, honey. You deserve it.
Ditto! And HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!


FWW - 41
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MovingUpward
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Default  Posted: 1:28 PM, September 12th (Thursday)

Happy Belated birthday


AKA Moo

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Phoenix1
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Default  Posted: 1:37 PM, September 12th (Thursday)

Ahh, so sorry you had a disappointing birthday. Hope you have a better day tomorrow and enjoy your time off. Happy belated birthday!

One of the things I did for all my kids when they "knew everything," but didn't hesitate to ask me for help with their homework was set some basic rules. I told them I would always help them when they asked, but if they ever copped an attitude of any kind when I was taking time out of my day to help them at their request, then the tutoring session was done. I ended sessions early on several occasions because of that until they realized I was dead serious. If they already knew it all and didn't like what I had to say, then fine. Don't ask me to help you. If they weren't "getting it" and got an attitude out of their frustration? We were done. I was always willing to spend time to help if it was accepted with respect and a willingness to work with me (not me doing all the work). After long stressful days at work, I was not about to spend my evenings dealing with teen attitudes when I was asked for help.

Hope all goes well for your cat, and enjoy your pedi and massage!


BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 23,18 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet


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whatdoto
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Default  Posted: 1:55 PM, September 12th (Thursday)

Happy Belated Birthday TushNurse!

You go and have yourself a nice day with pampering. You deserve it. Sorry, you had a disappointing day.

Oh, and I don't do math. DS is in AP Geometry. Uh no.

((TushNurse))


"If your ideal image of yourself is in the future, it's going to stay there".

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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 2:14 PM, September 12th (Thursday)

I gave up expecting other people to celebrate my bday years ago. That decision was recently reinforced when I was living with my mom; she invited my brother's family over for dinner but refused to let me tell them it was my bday. There was a lot of embarrassment when she brought out the cake

I start celebrating a month before the date, buy myself whatever I want within reason and treat myself very well. I like it that way.

I hope you enjoy your day today, and happy belated birthday!


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

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tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 2:40 PM, September 12th (Thursday)

Thank you all so much!!!!

PJ, love all your math puns.
Geometry is the end of my math ability. Honestly it was what kept me from going on to an advanced degree, any more chemistry, or higher math, and I would have flunked out.

Sad - I know how you feel, I usually do take matters in my own hands, honestly it snuck up on me this year.

Also the last time my mom had a birthday dinner for me, she served a dessert of an icecream cake thing she made. (I haven't been able to consume dairy for almost 20 years). I was honestly pissed that she was so unaware. So I had a bottle of wine instead.

Anyway, plan for tomorrow, boot kids out the door to school, take minniekitty to vet, go get pedi, go get hair colored, possibly get a massage, have a good lunch, and head back to pick up minniekitty. (Who is gonna be a real treat after sedation, and is still about 300% kitten). I think I need to pick up a bottle of wine on my way....


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

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StrongerOne
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Default  Posted: 2:42 PM, September 12th (Thursday)

We're happy you were born, tushnurse I hope your birthday next year is better. Maybe you can come down with a dreadful, contagious virus -- cough cough cough -- and have to take the day off from work. Wouldn't want to infect anyone...

About little miss I know everything -- what Phoenix1 said. I do this -- actually don't have to do it much anymore, as I did it when my kid was in 3rd grade. All. Year. Long. OMG, I came **this close** to homicide that year! So I feel ya. Disrespect is unacceptable. And if you feel like you are being mean by not helping, remember that you're actually helping keep her from being that obnoxious and helpless college student who gets to work with me.


DDay Feb 2011.
In R.

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scaredyKat
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Default  Posted: 3:51 PM, September 12th (Thursday)

You sure can rant. I think anyone who doesn't get treated like royalty on their birthday is entitled to do whatever they want. Enjoy your day. And do that massage!


Me-BS-60
HIM-SAFWH-63
Damn autocorrect is responsible for the silly errors, sorry!

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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 4:53 PM, September 12th (Thursday)

(((tushnurse)))

I'm sorry your birthday was a bust. I hope you have a fabulous time tomorrow and enjoy every minute of it.
Happy Birthday!!


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InnerLight
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Default  Posted: 7:40 PM, September 12th (Thursday)

I usually try to do something for myself on my BD. It just feels so bad waiting for others to acknowledge you and then they don't. Arrgggh!

Definitely get the massage! You deserve it!


BS, age 53, d-day 6-2-08, divorced after 17 years and 20 together. Now I am living alone in the beautiful rural property that was once the dream retreat with X. It's taking a long time to create new dreams but despite some struggles I am mostly happy.

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tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 2:02 PM, September 13th (Friday)

Well I have to say today almost makes up for the crappy day I had.

Cats surgery went well. Went shopping, got an awesome mani, pedi that the massage that went withthem left me like a limp noodle.

In addition I got my real present from H and kids. The kids got a neat frame withpics of them when they were still cute and sweet. H got me my very own tablet. I love it!!!!!!!

Thanks for all the warm wishes.


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

Posts: 8716 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
Rebreather
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Default  Posted: 3:11 PM, September 13th (Friday)

Happy late birthday! Sounds like you had just the right kind of day. I do hope, however, you didn't give up on the wine.


Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Recovering.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi

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