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sleepless34
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Default  Posted: 5:05 PM, September 12th (Thursday)

Okay, I have been looking for songs that sum up how I am feeling.

The best one so far is

Alanis Morisette- You ought to know

So good!


Me BW- 40ish, awesome
Cheating scusband 40ish
2 kids, elementary school age
Bomb dropped Aug 4 out of nowhere...

Posts: 443 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Hell
still2suspicious
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Default  Posted: 5:11 PM, September 12th (Thursday)

Blake Shelton - I'm Sorry

It's from the BS side. Absolutely love it!!


Me: BS
Him: WH
DDay: LTEA

Posts: 1284 | Registered: Apr 2011 | From:
SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 6:05 PM, September 12th (Thursday)

Joey + Rory Cheater, Cheater I would listen to this song when I was feeling angry.

http://www.cmt.com/videos/joey-rory/266100/cheater-cheater.jhtml

Christina Perri's Jar of Hearts I would listen to this and cry my eyes out.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1oRx8M4NwJY


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 9650 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
rescuedog
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Default  Posted: 6:11 PM, September 12th (Thursday)


Nicole Scherzinger -
Don't Hold Your Breath

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4KELSQEnoD8


The more I learn about people, the more I like my dog. - Mark Twain

Posts: 31 | Registered: May 2013
movingbackwards
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Default  Posted: 8:14 PM, September 12th (Thursday)

Oh Henry - The civil wars

Two Black Cadillacs - Carrie Underwood (no I'm not homicidal... But a very good rage song )


You can crawl back home, say you were wrong
Stand out in the yard and cry all night long
Go ahead and water the lawn
My give a damn's busted!

Posts: 85 | Registered: Sep 2013
Aussiescot
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Default  Posted: 1:24 AM, September 13th (Friday)

This song is geared for the double betrayal
Matt Corby, Brother, his voice alone brings tears but at least he seemed to have learnt a valuable lesson

http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=tSL9wPHFSts&desktop_uri=%2Fwatch%3Fv%3DtSL9wPHFSts


BS
4 DD's
DD 2012
New life started march 2014, false R! Still on the rollercoaster but will ride it out until the end.....because that's just how I roll

Posts: 48 | Registered: May 2013
aesir
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Default  Posted: 1:50 AM, September 13th (Friday)

Victim of Changes -- Judas Priest
when really angry
Life In Black -- Fight


Your mileage may vary... in accordance with the prophecy.

Do not back up. Severe tire damage.


Posts: 14924 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: Winnipeg
bigskyblues
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Default  Posted: 2:56 AM, September 13th (Friday)

I am a country classic fan Don Gibson-Someday You'll Call My Name pretty well sum's it up for me.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ntc2FyGCAt8


BH 50s
xWW 50s

Dday1 7-2012
Dday2 8-2012
Divorce 9-2012

4 kids all adults.

Married 22+ years.

I have moved on and life is good!


Posts: 230 | Registered: Sep 2012
nomistakeaboutit
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Default  Posted: 4:18 AM, September 13th (Friday)

You've Changed. -- Eva Cassidy
Tennessee Waltz. -- Eva Cassidy
Dreams to Remember -- Don Rich


Me: BH 56.........Her: WW 43
DD: 6..........DS: 4
Married for six years.
DDay: 12-25-11 Divorced: 7-15-12
...................................
"It's like a nightmare within a nightmare, which in and of itself is a nightmare!"

Posts: 944 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: U.S.A.
swizzlestick03
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Default  Posted: 4:53 AM, September 13th (Friday)

Heartbreak Warfare--John Mayer
Bed of Roses--Bon Jovi
Break Even--The Script
Exit Wounds--The Script
Reason to Believe--Rod Stewart
My Heart Can't Tell You No-- Rod Stewart/Sara Evans
What I did know then -- Toby Keith


Me: BW-32
Him: WS-31
D-Day #1: 16 August 2010
D-Day #2: 16 January 2011
One small kiddo.

Posts: 569 | Registered: Nov 2010
WhiteCarrera
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Default  Posted: 8:53 AM, September 13th (Friday)

Has your husband or wife ever gotten mad at you for your reaction to their affair? "Effect and Cause" by the White Stripes is the perfect song:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aYLuHUlxRoo


If I want recovery, then I must allow for it to actually happen.
Is it possible that I actually do have all the truth now?

me - husband A46
her - wife A42
Married 17 years
D-Day August 2, 2009
3 kids 11, 13, and 15


Posts: 274 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: Midwest
olwen
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Default  Posted: 10:10 AM, September 13th (Friday)

No doubt - don't speak

Pink - bent not broken

Extreme - more than words.

beautiful song but it's the lyric - what would you do if my heart was torn in two? more than words to show me how you feel that your love for me is real

Listen to this lot and need picking up from the floor, break my heart.


Together 19yrs
me BS 36
him WS 41 (silent lucidity)
ea 1 facebook flirting with an ex 2011
ea/pa - co worker 6wks feb to apr2013 pa for 1 wk with sex one time
too much tt to count = latest tt 30/7/14

Posts: 736 | Registered: Jul 2013
bitterbetrayal
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Default  Posted: 10:10 AM, September 13th (Friday)

Gollum's Song from Lord of the Rings http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zkXbzffVl44

Where once was light
Now darkness falls
Where once was love
Love is no more
Don't say goodbye
Don't say I didn't try

These tears we cry
Are falling rain
For all the lies you told us
The hurt, the blame!
And we will weep to be so alone
We are lost
We can never go home

So in the end
I'll be what I will be
No loyal friend
Was ever there for me

Now we say goodbye
We say you didn't try

These tears you cry
Have come too late
Take back the lies
The hurt, the blame!

And you will weep
When you face the end alone
You are lost
You can never go home
You are lost
You can never go home


ME.BS 55
Him.WS 55 and a priest!
D-DAY 12/07/09
D-DAY-2 14/08/09
MARRIED 25 YEARS ON 25/08/09
BEEN TOGETHER 28 YEARS
TWO CHILDREN 20 and 22.

Posts: 160 | Registered: Nov 2009 | From: UK
sleepless34
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Default  Posted: 11:11 AM, September 13th (Friday)

Okay, I found some more:

The SMiths: I know it's over

Etta James: I'd Rather go blind


BTW- I watched the white stripes "Effect and Cause" LOVE IT and the John Mayer Heartbreak...go good.


Me BW- 40ish, awesome
Cheating scusband 40ish
2 kids, elementary school age
Bomb dropped Aug 4 out of nowhere...

Posts: 443 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Hell
ontheslope
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Default  Posted: 11:28 AM, September 13th (Friday)

Lyin' Eyes: The eagles

And I'll second 'You ought to know'... great song. It is from a woman's perspective, but I can still listen to it and just change the sex in my head to make it from a guy's perspective (sort of).


Me: BH, 36
Her: WW, 37
Two girls 8 & 10
Married 12 years
Dday: July, 2009

She wants answers... I'm still trying to figure out what the questions are.


Posts: 269 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Maine, USA
Vulcanized
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Default  Posted: 11:45 AM, September 13th (Friday)

Long Black Veil, Lefty Frizzel originally; covered by Nick Cave, Johnny Cash & others

Waylon Jennings: Good Hearted Woman

Johnny Cash: Cry, cry, cry
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-MGnIdwZl-8


Me: MH 40s; Him: MH 40s (I had RA)
OW: 30s, moron; one of many
M: 8 yrs
3/13: D'd
-----------------------------------------------------------
Everything is as it should be.

Posts: 751 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Vulcania
trudi42
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Default  Posted: 11:47 AM, September 13th (Friday)

DONE - The Band Perry


Me: BW (41)
Him: WH (42)
D Day: 22/07/13
~Somewhere between S and R

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StillGoing
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Default  Posted: 11:50 AM, September 13th (Friday)

Cee Lo Green's FUCK YOU always makes me lol.

http://youtu.be/pc0mxOXbWIU

[This message edited by StillGoing at 11:50 AM, September 13th (Friday)]


“Fate is a fickle bitch who dotes on irony.”

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Ostrich80
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Default  Posted: 12:02 PM, September 13th (Friday)

Who knew...pink
Stupid boy...Keith urban
Forgive...Rebecca Lynn Howard
I posted lyrics to the 3rd song on SI last month...the words are so heartfelt. I know this happened to the singer or writer.

Leave the pieces...the wreckers
I'm not ready to play nice (I think that's the name)....Dixie chicks.
I think this song is about the big controversy they went thru a few yrs back when the made a comment that caused an uproar but a lot of the words are similar to how I feel about ws.

This ones an oldie but omg so fitting
Til I can make it on my own by Tammy Wynette.

[This message edited by Ostrich80 at 12:03 PM, September 13th (Friday)]


BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????

Posts: 5037 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: midwest
Vulcanized
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Default  Posted: 12:12 PM, September 13th (Friday)

How the shit did I forget this one?????

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S9J7XE-ctMU

George & Tammy classic!


Me: MH 40s; Him: MH 40s (I had RA)
OW: 30s, moron; one of many
M: 8 yrs
3/13: D'd
-----------------------------------------------------------
Everything is as it should be.

Posts: 751 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Vulcania
Ostrich80
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Default  Posted: 11:44 PM, September 13th (Friday)

@vulc...Tammy and George wrote the book on cheating songs..love George but would hate to be married to.him


BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????

Posts: 5037 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: midwest
eyeloveu
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Default  Posted: 11:50 PM, September 13th (Friday)

Detective, No Doubt.

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defyinggravity
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Default  Posted: 1:42 AM, September 14th (Saturday)

"Someone Else's Story"-Chess

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qZLDdEJulCk

Long ago in someone else's lifetime someone with my name
who looked a lot like me.
Came to know a man and made a promise he only had to say
and that's where she would be.
Lately, although the feelings run just as deep,
the promise she made has grown impossible to keep
and yet I wish it wasn't so.
Will he miss me if I go?

In a way it's someone else's story. I don't see myself as taking part at all. Yesterday
a girl that I was fond of
finally could see the writing on the wall.
Sadly she realized she'd left him behind and sadder than that she knew he wouldn't even mind and though, there's nothing left to say, would he listen if I stay?

It's all very well to say "you fool it's now or never."
I could be choosing no choices whatsoever.

I could be in someone else's story. In someone else's life
and he could be in mine. I don't see a reason to be lonely. I could take my chances further down the line. And if that girl I knew should ask my advice
oh I wouldn't hesitate she needn't ask me twice. "Go now!"
I'd tell her that for free.
Trouble is, the girl is me.
The story is, the girl is me.


Me-BS Him-WS
Married-35 years
3 adult children
DD1-1/08. EA. In (fake) MC. "Just friends."
DD2-1/09. PA. Same OW,13 years younger. His married coworker.
Divorced-1/25/11 They married 2/12.


Posts: 86 | Registered: Sep 2009
ItsaClimb
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Default  Posted: 5:33 AM, September 14th (Saturday)

For those reconciling: Blackbyrd ft Craig Hinds "From the Bottom of my Heart" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vpqg4bkviU8

Separating: Blackbyrd "All for me"
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P4p04N0Sk7s


BS 46
Together 29 yrs, M 25 years
2 daughters 24yo(married with a brand new little daughter) & 19yo
D-Day 18 Aug 2012
6mth EA lead to 4mth PA with CO-W. I found out 8 1/2 yrs later

Posts: 966 | Registered: Oct 2012
921Lisa
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Default  Posted: 4:30 PM, September 14th (Saturday)

Mine -
Faith Hill "Like We Never Loved at All"

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s7Qob5zr2Bk

[This message edited by 921Lisa at 4:31 PM, September 14th (Saturday)]


Behind every successful man is his woman.
Behind the fall of a successful man is usually another woman. (Mr Sim York Soo)

Reconciled


Posts: 881 | Registered: Aug 2005 | From: Texas
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Default  Posted: 8:31 PM, September 14th (Saturday)

If I Were A Boy - Beyonce

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AWpsOqh8q0M


Me: BW
Divorced after 23 years of M thanks to XH's truth trickle.
Status: Recovering and healing. It's going to be a long hard road.

Update November 2013: It only took seven years but I finally turned a corner. :)


Posts: 13316 | Registered: Jul 2006 | From: The suburbs of hell
gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 9:04 PM, September 14th (Saturday)

Not mentioned yet (and I only say that because Jar of Hearts is at the TOP of my list but someone beat me to it....)

Womanizer -- Britney

King of Anything -- Sara Bareilles

Love Song -- Sara Bareilles

(sorry but I'm feeling too lazy to go snatch the youtube links....)

[This message edited by gonnabe2016 at 9:05 PM, September 14th (Saturday)]


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


Posts: 8003 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Midwest
traildad
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Default  Posted: 9:08 PM, September 14th (Saturday)

For the betrayed husbands -

"Grown Woman" - by Jason Aldean

I still play it when I get a trigger about the A.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S4HQGRAbKQk


Me BH - 33
3 beautiful young children
DDay 12/13/11
Divorced.

Posts: 650 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Michigan
sadone29
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Default  Posted: 9:11 PM, September 14th (Saturday)

I was going to post about this song I'm going to gush about. It's about betrayal in general, but the feeling behind it is true to the pain felt by infidelity. I love this song so so much. Even the way the video is shot...the singer's real vulnerability makes it even more amazing. How much bravery he must have to film this in public, alone.

The song is called Iscariot, by Walk the Moon.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fPQeMqiKqKs

Iscariot

Until now, I knew this of myself
That if you had thrown yourself down
Into the lion's den
My brother, I'd follow you in
Perhaps I lack some foresight (Should have known)
Brother, you were so right
Sure as the setting sun
You can't trust just anyone

That's what you want, but it's not what you're asking for
I said that's what you're asking, but you're gonna get more than you bargained for
I said that's what you had, but you don't have it any more
You had it coming

I never imagined you dead (I never)
But tell me, are you even aware
That all that we did, you undo
Iscariot, you fool

That's what you want, but it's not what you're asking for
I said that's what you're asking, but you're gonna get more than you bargained for
I said that's what you had, but you don't have it any more
You had it coming

Oh you know you had it coming my friend, my friend
You know you had it coming my brother, oh my brother
Had it coming my friend, my friend
You know you had it coming my brother, oh my brother
Had it coming my friend, my friend
You know you had it coming my brother, oh my brother
Had it coming my friend, my friend
You had it coming.


DDay Feb. 28, 2013
5 year long EA (still believe PA), webcam girls, contacting hookers
Preparing for D

Posts: 707 | Registered: Mar 2013
broken0912
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Default  Posted: 9:30 PM, September 14th (Saturday)

How it went for him:
Slow Fade by Casting Crowns

Him if we don't make it:
Bruno Mars - When I was your man
Randy Houser - Anything Goes

When I'm trying to find hope:
Kutless - What Faith can Do
Josh Wilson - Before the Morning

When I'm hurting & desperate
Matthew West - Strong Enough
Plumb - I Need you Now
Laura Story - Blessings
Third Day - I need a Miracle

Just Want to cry:
Adele - Rolling in the Deep
Alan Jackson - Remember When
Tina Turner - Whats Love got to Do with It

To be Empowered:
Sara Evans - A little bit Stronger
Kelly Clarkson - Stronger
Alicia Keys - Brand New ME

The one that has carried me through the last year:
India Arie - This Too Shall Pass


BS 49
WS 61
OW 31 now - 23-24 when it began
dday-9/4/12
M 13+ together 16
HIS DC: D-33,S-25,S-22
MINE: 0 -he was too old to have C at 44, but had OC at 57
LTA: EA 1-2yr then 1.5 after pa end
LTA: PA 3.5-4 yrs

Posts: 98 | Registered: Jul 2013
traildad
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Default  Posted: 9:33 PM, September 14th (Saturday)

I just downloaded and listened to "I'm Sorry" by Blake Shelton based on the recommendation above - fantastic.


Me BH - 33
3 beautiful young children
DDay 12/13/11
Divorced.

Posts: 650 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Michigan
Coma
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Default  Posted: 9:55 PM, September 14th (Saturday)

Drops of Jupiter-Train

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Xf-Lesrkuc

For Just A Moment- David Foster

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5B2uT4km3XI

If You Could Read My Mind Love- Gordon Lightfoot

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ngo2B5tibLQ


BS-Me
WW-Her
"Love, look what you've done to me"

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spinning73
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Default  Posted: 9:55 PM, September 14th (Saturday)

Sad, Maroon Five


me-BS 40
WH-40
Together 23 years, married 17 years
DDs-11 and 8, DS 7
4 month EA/PA ended by WH 2 months before
DD-4/14/13
Hoping this recovery is real...

Posts: 42 | Registered: Jun 2013
kernel
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Default  Posted: 9:57 PM, September 14th (Saturday)

Pink - Just give me a reason. Haunting.

I just checked out I'm Sorry - Blake Shelton. Spot on.

Done - the Band Perry. Took forever to get here, but I did it.

Linda Ronstadt - You're no good

[This message edited by kernel at 10:39 PM, September 14th (Saturday)]


"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% and that's pretty good."

Posts: 5119 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Midwest
mom of 2
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Default  Posted: 10:07 PM, September 14th (Saturday)

Drops of Jupiter-Train

How did I miss this one? Great song for any BS but especially for BHs (and I'm a BW). Love this song!


Me: BW
Divorced after 23 years of M thanks to XH's truth trickle.
Status: Recovering and healing. It's going to be a long hard road.

Update November 2013: It only took seven years but I finally turned a corner. :)


Posts: 13316 | Registered: Jul 2006 | From: The suburbs of hell
AlwaysBeenStrong
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Default  Posted: 10:13 PM, September 14th (Saturday)

Reba McEntire - Consider me gone
https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=cw_L8HdoYgo#t=56

Sara Evans - A Little Stronger
https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=cw_L8HdoYgo#t=56

These have helped with my separation after his lies.


BW: 41 (me)
Divorced soon.
Moving forward.
Pre Nursing Student
Getting a Do over at 42

Posts: 125 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Lonelyville
Runninggirl
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Default  Posted: 10:20 PM, September 14th (Saturday)

Abba
Winner Takes it All


Shock has worn off. Now the 'fun' begins.
After several years of solid R, (F)MOW
CHECKS IN in to say Hi~ H CHECKS OUT briefly and "forgets to tell me" because IT HADN'T gotten
physical this time. 4 months out again same MOW

Posts: 2852 | Registered: Mar 2006 | From: The Valley
EZ24get
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Default  Posted: 3:22 AM, September 15th (Sunday)

'Unforgivable' ~Armin van Buuren feat. Jaren...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eyUfJVqMtO0

'U-Turn' ~Samantha...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mSC7BY0zY8Q

...and, of course, Cee Lo Green...
**not the 'Official' video, but worth the watch**

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sv3tadz5Q3o


TOOL ~Bottom...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eHPfRL3rCj8

...and from WH ...

Sarah McLachlan ~Fallen

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Jqps9ZdMxs0



Told my request was one so unlike being you. Then, was punished for asking, by watching you become all that I needed, for someone new.
...so,..he traded my heart,for a hard-on.

BW~ me 38
CH~ he 38
20 years on 12/12/12, 2 kiddos 14&17
D-day 1


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EZ24get
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Default  Posted: 6:04 AM, September 15th (Sunday)

...

'Try' ~Pink...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HckionnitiU


Told my request was one so unlike being you. Then, was punished for asking, by watching you become all that I needed, for someone new.
...so,..he traded my heart,for a hard-on.

BW~ me 38
CH~ he 38
20 years on 12/12/12, 2 kiddos 14&17
D-day 1


Posts: 67 | Registered: Oct 2010 | From: here
Silentthoughts
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Default  Posted: 12:24 PM, September 15th (Sunday)

Best heartbreak song: Craig Morgan love remembers. My bh an I cried every time we heard it for about a year. Now we listen and can just appreciate the song.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oNvA_7QEmZI&sns=em

Best song for bh if we had split (we didn't): Tyler Farr redneck crazy
http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=QmAQprmjymI

[This message edited by Silentthoughts at 12:26 PM, September 15th (Sunday)]


WW - early 50s (me)
BH - late 40s
3 grown children
Married 25 years
Online cyber sex dec 2010. I got caught late dec 2010. Lying and TT until full disclosure jan 2011.
In R we both are committed to staying in this M.

Posts: 76 | Registered: Aug 2013
sad81712
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Default  Posted: 12:45 PM, September 15th (Sunday)

A song I've listen to over a 100 times is
Keep Breathing by Kerrie Roberts


Dday 8/12
thing are better but not the same....
Dday #2 10/13 b/c of TT
8/14- We're in R

Posts: 41 | Registered: Nov 2012
sisoon
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Default  Posted: 2:05 PM, September 15th (Sunday)

Shot in the Heart - Tom Petty?

"Shot in the heart, and you're to blame.
You give Love a bad name."


fBH (me) - 70 (22 in my head), fWW (plainsong) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/2010
Recovered, not yet fully R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.

Posts: 10066 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Chicago area
broken0912
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Default  Posted: 2:08 PM, September 15th (Sunday)

I know i posted this already, but here is the link for the song that has sustained me for over a year now:

India Arie - This too Shall pass

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KUk5FppngkY


BS 49
WS 61
OW 31 now - 23-24 when it began
dday-9/4/12
M 13+ together 16
HIS DC: D-33,S-25,S-22
MINE: 0 -he was too old to have C at 44, but had OC at 57
LTA: EA 1-2yr then 1.5 after pa end
LTA: PA 3.5-4 yrs

Posts: 98 | Registered: Jul 2013
carnelian
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Default  Posted: 2:26 PM, September 15th (Sunday)

After the Holidays - Judy Garland
ETA: Working My Way Back To You - The Spinners (for recon)

[This message edited by carnelian at 2:59 PM, September 15th (Sunday)]


What are you going to do when he leaves you?

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Amber13
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Default  Posted: 3:32 PM, September 15th (Sunday)

Birdy - Skinny love (cover of someone else I think?)
Listen!!!

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BW2639
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Default  Posted: 3:40 PM, September 15th (Sunday)

Garth brooks: Papa Loved Mama. Favorite line: "the desk clerk said he saw it all real clear,....he never hit the brakes and he was shifting gears". At least that's what I fantasize about being able to do had I caught Fww at the hotel they used to go to :).


married 21 yr
Reconciling

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Tired05
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Default  Posted: 7:22 PM, September 15th (Sunday)

I have an entire playlist on Zune...but the most fitting.

Go to hell- Go Radio

Somewhere with you- Kenny Chesney

Lying is the most fun a girl can have without taking her clothes off- Panic at the disco

Every lie- My darkest days

Chalk outline- Three days grace

And when I'm angry and just need to scream:

Leech- Bullet for my valentine

The waiting one- All that remains

Smashed into pieces- Silverstein

[This message edited by Tired05 at 7:27 PM, September 15th (Sunday)]


Together 6 yrs. M 4 yrs. DD born 3/1/2013.
Me: BS -- Him: 1 EA/PA (6mos), PA (MW), and 6 ONS...Been at it for almost 5 yrs. *Still slave to TT* 1st DDay- 11/24/2012,
.....OC due in August.....

Posts: 122 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: United States
AlwaysBeenStrong
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Default  Posted: 9:57 PM, September 15th (Sunday)

Thought of more!!!

City and Colour - Thirst
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tMWoimU2wUQ

Jaron And The Long Road To Love - Pray For You
http://youtu.be/AFJu8DCH_b0


BW: 41 (me)
Divorced soon.
Moving forward.
Pre Nursing Student
Getting a Do over at 42

Posts: 125 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Lonelyville
gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 10:07 PM, September 15th (Sunday)

"Shot" in the heart, and you're to blame.
You give Love a bad name."

Bon Jovi, Sisoon. Not Tom Petty.....


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


Posts: 8003 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Midwest
bbee
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Default  Posted: 3:02 AM, September 16th (Monday)

"Giddy On Up" by Laura Bell Bundy. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3xfFbB2CRo8


This above all: to thine ownself be true,
And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man.

Hamlet, Act I, Scene 3

Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none.

All's Well That Ends Well, Act I, Scene 1


Posts: 6653 | Registered: Jan 2008 | From: SE US
uncertainone
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Default  Posted: 2:04 PM, September 19th (Thursday)

"Just Like You" Three Days Grace

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l_ib6eKPshI&feature=youtube_gdata_player


Me: 37

'til the roof comes off. 'til the lights go out. 'til my legs give out, can't shut my mouth


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Going To Make It
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Default  Posted: 4:42 PM, September 19th (Thursday)

To me this is a song from someone who realized to late what he lost.

John Denver's I'm Sorry (from the WS)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GOuOMxnUpXI

[This message edited by Going To Make It at 4:43 PM, September 19th (Thursday)]


BW 47
M 1982 4 Adult Children
2 Grandkids - the light & loves of my life.
LTA Started before we were married and lsted until 9/02 DDay 4/4/04, TT till 9/24/2011

Posts: 948 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: Still Wandering in the Desert
hitbyatruck
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Default  Posted: 7:36 PM, September 19th (Thursday)

Strong Enough- Cher.

I listened to this song on repeat for months after dday.

I've been losing sleep
You've been going cheap
She ain't worth half of me it's true, I'm telling you

Now I'm strong enough
to live without you
Strong enough and I quit crying Long enough
now I'm strong enough to know you gotta go.


Married 1998, 2 kids
D-day3/27/09,he left 5/23/09
WH wants to rebuild 3/21/10
He moved back in 9/25/10,
Dec, 2011-finally putting it all together, H had multiple affairs.
Possible porn addict for 15 yrs.
01/2014- in house separation

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TheCollector
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Default  Posted: 9:13 PM, September 19th (Thursday)

I second the "silverstein" !

BUT I have a HUGE ONE for you guys but I gotta explain it first. It probably fits betrayed men best but fits all.

The band is called "RIGHT AWAY,GREAT CAPTAIN!" It is a 3 album long epic tale about a 17th century sailor who's wife cheats on him with his own brother. Each song is like his dairy entries. It's the MOST POWERFUL stuff I've heard on the subject and his voice is one of the best I've heard in my life!


Infidelity really IS the gift that keeps on giving...

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TheCollector
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Default  Posted: 9:15 PM, September 19th (Thursday)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3wgGKpdv1t8

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M2Ylo-hBbkA


Infidelity really IS the gift that keeps on giving...

Posts: 64 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: thecollector
TheCollector
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Default  Posted: 9:22 PM, September 19th (Thursday)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Hxp1a2pFP10

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xpc5QJTWKuE


Infidelity really IS the gift that keeps on giving...

Posts: 64 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: thecollector
LadyLove
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Default  Posted: 10:40 PM, September 19th (Thursday)

Lovin', Touchin', Squeezin' - Journey

Don't Do Me Like That - Tom Petty

My favorite:
Throwing It All Away - Genesis

Throwing it all away, throwing it all away
Is there nothing that I can say
To make you change your mind?
I watch the world go round and round
And see mine turning upside down
Throwing it all away

Now, who will light up the darkness?
And who will hold your hand?
Who will find you the answers
When you don't understand?

Why should I have to be the one
Who has to convince you?
'Cause you know, I know baby
That I don't wanna go

Someday you'll be sorry
Someday when you're free
Memories will remind you
That our love was meant to be

But late at night when you call my name
The only sound you'll hear
Is the sound of your voice calling
Calling after me

[This message edited by LadyLove at 10:48 PM, September 19th (Thursday)]


BW - 46 (me)
WH - 48 Ladyslove
Don't know if I can live with it.

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HardenMyHeart
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Default  Posted: 10:52 PM, September 19th (Thursday)

Operator by Jim Croce


Me: BH, Her: FWW - Long Term EA/PA
d-day: June 25, 2007
Married 30 years, Reconciled

Inner peace begins the moment you choose not to allow another person or event to control your emotions.


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mandan66
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Default  Posted: 11:13 PM, September 19th (Thursday)

here is one of my favs, mainly cuz it as done by an old friend of mine who was in a Springfield MO band called the Morells. Anyhow the song is cover called "She was a Cheat", done by him from a band called The Park Central Squares.


Me: 47; WW: 48
2 DS: 9, 14
M:18--T:19
DDay: Jan/13
Divorced and Done!--7/13

Posts: 121 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: KS
5boysmom
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Default  Posted: 12:01 AM, September 20th (Friday)

My favorite lately
Resentment by Beyonce

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solus sto
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Default  Posted: 1:32 AM, September 20th (Friday)

Kandi...One EsKimo
Late for the Sky...Jackson Browne
Somebody I Used to Know...Gotye
Love Interruption...Jack White
Not Afraid.. Eminem (for post dday/separation empowerment in a rather profame delivery...which worked with my anger well)


BS-me, 52
WH (Trac-fone), 52, PD
2 kids-DD25, DS18
multiple d-days
DIVORCING
Alone, most strangely, I live on~Rupert Brooke

Posts: 8682 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: midwest
Kierst13
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Default  Posted: 9:41 AM, September 20th (Friday)

This sums up how I feel most days and how cold my WS acted about the gift of R I gave him. I gives me chills each time I listen to it.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vsge4xsPwVE

"The Path Of Thorns" Sarah McLachlan

I knew you wanted to tell me
In your voice there was something wrong
But if you would turn your face away from me
You cannot tell me you're so strong
Just let me ask of you one small thing
As we have shared so many tears
With fervor our dreams we planned a whole life long
Now are scattered on the wind...

In the terms of endearment
In the terms of the life that you love
In the terms of the years that pass you by
In the terms of the reasons why

Through the years I've grown to love you
Though your commitment to most would offend
But I stuck by you holding on with my foolish pride
Waiting for you to give in...
You never really tried or so it seems
I've had more than myself to blame
I've had enough of trying everything
And this time it is the end...

There's no more coming back this way
The path is overgrown and strewn with thorns
They've torn the life-blood from your naked eyes
Cast aside to be forlorn...

Funny, how it seems that all I've tried to do
Seemed to make no difference to you at all...

[This message edited by Kierst13 at 9:42 AM, September 20th (Friday)]


Story in my profile
He lied, I gave the gift of R
He became the model remorseful WS...all while lying and seeing her
Am I done? Yes I am!

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LadyLove
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Default  Posted: 9:15 PM, September 20th (Friday)

Brooks & Dunn - She's Not The Cheating Kind


BW - 46 (me)
WH - 48 Ladyslove
Don't know if I can live with it.

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TS68
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Default  Posted: 9:40 PM, September 20th (Friday)

Honesty by Billy Joel



Married 20 years

Posts: 197 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Midwest
Gajit
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Default  Posted: 11:11 AM, September 24th (Tuesday)

I'm Letting Go
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bkpRIx7jMp4


Lord, with Your help I will focus on each small step of the climb, instead of the mountain that stands before me.

Posts: 224 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: USA
Twitchy
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Default  Posted: 12:43 PM, September 24th (Tuesday)

You Were Mine
Dixie Chicks

I can give you two good reasons
To show you loves not blind
He's two and she's four and, you know
They adore you
So how can I tell them you've changed your mind?

Sometimes I wake up crying at night
And sometimes I scream out your name
What right does she have to steal your heart away
When for so long you were mine
I remember when you were mine

Tears me up every time.

[This message edited by Twitchy at 1:30 PM, September 24th (Tuesday)]


BH(me)-49, FWW-43,
D-Day #1 - Oct 2007 - On-Line EA leading to a failed rendez-vous
D-Day #2 - Nov 2008 - In person EA caught early.

Away you will go, sailing in a race among the ruins.
If you plan to face tomorrow, do it soon. Gordon Lightfoot


Posts: 634 | Registered: Sep 2009 | From: Ontario - Canada
cl131716
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Default  Posted: 3:40 PM, September 24th (Tuesday)

One Time by Safetysuit. Describes how I feel to a T.


Me BS 31
Him WS 34 Trying4change
Together 3 years, married for one
D-day: 07/23/13 cybersex with COW
D-day: 12/27/13 found out he met and kissed a "friend" in 2011
"A clear and innocent conscience fears nothing."

Posts: 935 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Oklahoma
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Default  Posted: 4:00 PM, September 24th (Tuesday)

Beyonce.... "Resentment"


You have to hear this one...it sums it all up. I cried my eyes out when I heard it. I can't attach the link since I'm at work..(shh)


BS:34
H:34
MARRIED:7 YEARS
SON: 11 MONTHS
DDAY1: 03/2006
DDAY2: 05/2013

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Secrets Kept
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Default  Posted: 12:38 PM, September 25th (Wednesday)

Depending on mood......

Sometimes love just ain't enough - Patty Smythe

Yesterday - Foreigner

Try - Pink

Already gone - Kelly Clarkson

Someone Else - Queensryche

To name just a few!!!


Marriage #1=BW-46 (now)
XWH-Deceased on his 36 bday
Divorced in 1996
Marriage #2= Married in 2003
H-44
2 kids together-DS14 & DD12
"All this time I was finding myself & I didn't know I was lost"

Posts: 208 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Midwest USA
movingbackwards
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Default  Posted: 12:46 PM, December 13th (Friday)

I know this is an old thread but I have had it bookmarked and come back to it numerous times, and wanted to add a few songs I've found recently.

Catch My Breath - Kelly Clarkson
(really helpful when I'm feeling guilty over wanting to D)
Starts With Goodbye - Carrie Underwood
Let Him Fly - Patty Griffin
Say Something - A Great Big World


You can crawl back home, say you were wrong
Stand out in the yard and cry all night long
Go ahead and water the lawn
My give a damn's busted!

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Secrets Kept
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Default  Posted: 1:12 PM, December 13th (Friday)

I also thought of............

Wake Up Call - Maroon 5

"Wake up call, caught you in the morning with another one in my bed....you don't care about me anymore", etc, etc., etc.


Marriage #1=BW-46 (now)
XWH-Deceased on his 36 bday
Divorced in 1996
Marriage #2= Married in 2003
H-44
2 kids together-DS14 & DD12
"All this time I was finding myself & I didn't know I was lost"

Posts: 208 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Midwest USA
movingbackwards
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Default  Posted: 1:17 PM, December 13th (Friday)

Also "Makes Me Wonder" - Maroon 5


You can crawl back home, say you were wrong
Stand out in the yard and cry all night long
Go ahead and water the lawn
My give a damn's busted!

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ascian
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Default  Posted: 1:54 PM, December 13th (Friday)

For a while, post D-Day, I wasn't able to listen to one of my favorite bands from the last couple years, Mumford and Sons, since so many of their songs hit too close to the mark.

As a BS:
I Gave You All (http://youtu.be/00dcKqc5H-A)
The Cave (http://youtu.be/3KkUeRPjc-Y)

As a WS:
Roll Away Your Stone (http://youtu.be/2O-BwV0DDUY)
Little Lion Man (NSFW lyrics) (http://youtu.be/lLJf9qJHR3E)
Sigh No More (http://youtu.be/ujv3c0TqLRk)

Really I'm convinced the whole album is written to various relationships that went wrong.


Me - BH 39
Her - FWW 36
D-Day: 8/13
Working on R

Posts: 299 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Midwest
Take2
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Default  Posted: 2:00 PM, December 13th (Friday)

A few I'm not seeing here:

Over you by Daughtry http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HTbJ5DIMDHc

I'm Outta Love Anastacia
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TnOy6HEf7HU

Take a Bow Rhianna http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J3UjJ4wKLkg

In the End Linkin Park http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1yw1Tgj9-VU


"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us." Joseph Campbell...So, If fear was not a factor - what would you do?

Posts: 4113 | Registered: May 2009 | From: New England
Rainbows
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Default  Posted: 2:07 PM, December 13th (Friday)

My two tops are from the same artist, Justin Timberlake.


"Cry Me A River"

"What Goes Around/Comes Around"


There is always a rainbow after every storm.

Posts: 401 | Registered: May 2013 | From: California
StillStanding1
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Default  Posted: 2:14 PM, December 13th (Friday)

Mine change as I ride the rollercoaster, but I didn't see these here. They haunt me.

The Giving Tree by Plain White T's (infidelity and co-dependency theme song)www.youtube.com/watch?v=8wGhqtWR4uo

Say Something by Great Big World. I like the new version with Christina Aguilera too. (waiting for him to start opening up to me)
www.youtube.com/watch?v=-2U0Ivkn2Ds

ETA: oops. movingbackwards had this one ^^^ already!

[This message edited by StillStanding1 at 2:16 PM, December 13th (Friday)]


Me: 40s BS, Him: 40s WH
M 21 yrs - 3 teens
LTA = 2+ yrs, Dday = 2/10/13, he moved out, he officially moved back in 1/25/14 and our work continues...

Posts: 676 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: MidWest
SilverRose13
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Default  Posted: 2:24 PM, December 13th (Friday)

I'm compiling a list of all these songs, but here are some no one has mentioned yet


Miranda Lambert Kerosene

Miranda Lambert White Liar

Miranda Lambert Baggage Claim

Miranda Lambert Mama's Broken Heart

Carrie Underwood Before He Cheats

Carrie Undderwood Undo It

Joey + Rory God Help My Man

Ashton Shepard Look It Up

Reba Turn On The Rdaio

Little Big Town Tornado

i'll add more when i think of them!


Together 16 years, Married 13
BS (me; 32)
fWS (wtsmm; 32) 2 1/2 yr LTA
2 children, 11 and 5
DD #1 9/27/2011 (EA/Sexting)
DD #2 10/3/2011 (Some PA)
DD #3 11/28/2011 (Full Disclosure)

Posts: 223 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: Northern Illinois
steadfast1973
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Default  Posted: 2:29 PM, December 13th (Friday)

You Give Love a bad name is by Bon Jovi.


Me- 40- BS Him- 36- WH D-day#1 5/25/09 3 mo. EA d-day#2 11/06/13 Prostitute 11/5/13 in R
"I've seen your flag on the marble arch, our love is not a victory march, it's a cold and broken hallelujah."- Leonard Cohen

Posts: 2256 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: Midwest
SilverRose13
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Default  Posted: 2:43 PM, December 13th (Friday)

more:

Tracy Byrd Don't Take Her She's All That I've Got

Tracy Lawrence Alibies

Clay Walker Then What

Aaron Tippin Kiss This

The Band Perry You Lie

Gary Allan Her Man

Too Little Too Late JoJo

Leave (Get Out) JoJo

Joss Stone Karma

Beyonce Irreplaceable


Together 16 years, Married 13
BS (me; 32)
fWS (wtsmm; 32) 2 1/2 yr LTA
2 children, 11 and 5
DD #1 9/27/2011 (EA/Sexting)
DD #2 10/3/2011 (Some PA)
DD #3 11/28/2011 (Full Disclosure)

Posts: 223 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: Northern Illinois
philly172
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Default  Posted: 2:47 PM, December 13th (Friday)

Oh my! my DD, BFF & I loved break up songs during the A... There were some that seemed to empower me, & others that made me fall to my knees crying..

My fall to the knees crying songs ( so sorry if they've been posted in this thread, I think I read most of what was posted)

Break Even- The Script which seems to be a popular one here on SI

Jennifer Nettles- Stay.. Yes, I know it was written as an OW perspective but it can be for a BS as well


My DD's break up song that she can NOT listen to without crying ( Surprisingly it's MY favorite artist)

This Time- Donny Osmond- http://youtu.be/Ktu1LSvJ8v0

My BFF sent me 2 songs & both tore me apart..

I can feel the hurt in this song ( but it's Elvis, c'mon he's the best!)

My Boy- http://youtu.be/HOLH63c7SG0

and MY all time favorite A song-

Clay walker- Then What -http://youtu.be/RriwQbiLJNA

My feel good songs are pretty off the wall..

During my EX'H's A one song made me feel strong-

New kids on the block- Baby, I believe in you.. I know strange but it just made me believe in ME!

and during WH A..Apple bottom jeans..(don't judge ) WH was so sure I was out clubbing & partying that after we R'ed if this song came on the radio in the car , he would change stations.. Even today he can't listen to this song


"Sorry" works when a mistake is made, but not when trust is broken. So in life, make mistakes, but never break trust. Because forgiving is easy, but forgetting & trusting again is sometimes impossible

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FeelingMN
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Default  Posted: 2:49 PM, December 13th (Friday)

Blood - Papa Roach


Me 41
fWW 37
DD(19), DS(17), DD(11) (Mine, hers, ours)
Together 14y, Married 12
DDay Aug 2010, 4 mos TT & gaslighting
ONS + EA after 15yr Class reunion out of state

Posts: 267 | Registered: May 2011 | From: Minnesota
Crazy Daze
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Default  Posted: 5:14 PM, December 13th (Friday)

"Look it Up" by Ashton Shepherd

"Kerosene" by Miranda Lambert

"Before he Cheats" Carrie Underwood

Heard an oldie on the radio the other day -

"Please Release Me" by Engelbert Humperdinck

Never paid attention to the lyrics before, just took it as a sultry, slow love song.

Was I ever wrong!

Please release me
Let me go
For I
Don't love you anymore
To waste our lives
Would be a sin
Release me
And let me love again

I have found
A new love dear
And I will always
Want her near
Her lips are warm
While yours are cold
Release me, my darling
Let me go

For I
Don't love you anymore
So release me
And let me love again

Please release me
Can't you see
You'd be a fool
To cling to me
To live a lie
Would bring us pain
Release me
And let me love again

Yup, cheating song!


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