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Zayda1
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Default  Posted: 7:24 AM, September 15th (Sunday)

My WH's affair happened in our house. In our unfinished basement to be exact.

We are 17 months from Dday. I have thrown out linen and towels that touched her during sex. Yesterday we finally sold the couch they made out on. We have put up back splash in our kitchen (I vividly recall her standing in my kitchen making herself a coffee). We have changed living room rug, lamps etc to make it look like a different room. WH and his father built me an office/craft room. Our house looks different and many other rooms she "touched" have changed.

However, I still "feel" her in my house. It's like my house is haunted by her. How do I get her out of my house?

We have been looking at buying a new house, but when I compare all those other houses to our current house they fall short. How do I extract her from my house?

[This message edited by Zayda1 at 7:26 AM, September 15th (Sunday)]


Married 9 years, together for 11 years
2 children (7 years & 4 years)
Discovery of PA 04/15/12 (It only lasted a "couple of weeks" but it still shattered my world.)

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authenticnow
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Member # 16024
Default  Posted: 7:29 AM, September 15th (Sunday)

This may sound hokey but if it's something you're not opposed to, you can have a sage burning ceremony in your house.

Look it up online. It will tell you how to 'smudge' your home to get rid of the bad energy and you can probably order sage, or buy it in a certain type of store, depending on where you live.


Take up your space (and do it well).

"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."


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MsRukia
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Member # 40219
Default  Posted: 7:59 AM, September 15th (Sunday)

Zaydal..
I'm going thought the same thing. We did away with furniture from the family room, I changed the curtains in my living room, and my bedding has been changed around too. I refuse to give up my brand, new bed! Though that's something that maybe I should consider. As changes that I want to make occur to me, I make them. It's a day by day thing. I don't foresee being able to move anytime in the near future, so I am working on reclaiming our home. We already had to leave it once for two years (loooooong story) I don't want to do it again. I also think I am going to have my house anointed and prayed over. I hope it will bring me further peace. I think you need to work through it and make the changes you need to feel comfy. I agree that it's not easy. Lots of ((hugs)) to you.


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Together 14 1/2 years
D Day 03 Aug 13 EA & PA
D Day #2 01 Sep 13 continued EA & PA with OW
Slowly but surely finding my way.

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