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Brandon808
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Default  Posted: 6:02 PM, September 15th (Sunday)

Today was the birthday of a guy I knew before my D. The guy was a neighbor and I was invited over to his house for his birthday through some mutual friends. Except I didn''t set a reminder for myself. I don''t mind needing reminders. I hate that I forget to set them up in my phone like I should. The mutual friend called and asked where I was. I explained and apologized but I could hear the disappointment in their voice. I don''t blame them. I hate when I screw up like this.


xBH
D final 8/2012

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traildad
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Default  Posted: 6:30 PM, September 15th (Sunday)

Be gentle with yourself Brandon. We are all human and make mistakes. We are sometimes our own worst critics. Do a google search for unrelenting standards schema. There is some great strategies for those of us that can be too hard on ourselves.


Me BH - 33
3 beautiful young children
DDay 12/13/11
Divorced.

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Brandon808
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Default  Posted: 7:06 PM, September 15th (Sunday)

Traildad,
Thanks. I appreciate the support.

Am I being too hard on myself? I didn''t see it that way, but I will think about that some more.


xBH
D final 8/2012

Posts: 4000 | Registered: May 2012 | From: southeast
traildad
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Default  Posted: 7:30 PM, September 15th (Sunday)

Am I being too hard on myself?

You had no ill intent at all. Completely honest mistake. Can you schedule something with this friend in the near future to reconnect?


Me BH - 33
3 beautiful young children
DDay 12/13/11
Divorced.

Posts: 650 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Michigan
Brandon808
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Default  Posted: 7:42 PM, September 15th (Sunday)

That a very good idea. I will see what I can do.


xBH
D final 8/2012

Posts: 4000 | Registered: May 2012 | From: southeast
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