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fraeuken
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Default  Posted: 8:20 PM, September 15th (Sunday)

Some of you might remember that I was happily dating a man who was quite a bit older than me and some of you might remember that he dumped me one night out of the blue.

I did not update the story for a while but what happened in the meantime was that the same weekend he dumped me he was admitted to the hospital with sepsis and was in a horrible state, touch and go for a few days. He pulled through, he does not recall much of what was going on that weekend and as I helped him with some stuff as he being released from the hospital we talked it out and got back together.

We had, what I thought, great times. Spent a lot of time together again, road trips, dancing, talking for hours, making plans.

Then, today, we were invited to a friend's birthday party. When I asked him in the morning if we were going he (now I know) pretended he had forgotten about it and that he did not want to go because he hated the place. He called me early in the day, asking if I wanted to join for a football game. I told him, you enjoy your game and just call me when you are done and come on by, I am at home doing stuff around the house.

For hours, I don't hear from him. I try to call him, goes to his voicemail. I text him, nothing.

So I leave him a message that I am heading to our friend's birthday party to say 'Hello'. No response.

Guess, who is at the birthday party? Guess who is all shocked to see me? Guess who is drunk and buying a glass of wine for drum rolls ----- his ex-girlfriend.

And then it hit me - I was wondering who the woman was who was starting to laugh and talk to another woman next to her, pointing at me and looking my direction. And then the man I thought loved me, walked right by me, carrying drinks for her and him, did not acknowledge me and sat next to her, leaning into her and laughing and talking to her. And this woman shot me a triumphant look that said it all.

I left. I never thought I would ever let myself be treated this way again after what I have been through with my ex.

I showed this man nothing but love and generosity; heck, I treated him to an expensive massage yesterday because he works a lot and does physical work and was hurting.

I know the look in somebody's eyes when they have been caught. I wish I could un-see that. I wish I could forget the humiliation I felt the moment he walked by me without acknowledging me. This is the same man who swore up and down that because he had been lied to and cheated on he would never do that to me.

Why do I deserve this?

[This message edited by fraeuken at 8:22 PM, September 15th (Sunday)]


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heartbroken30
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Default  Posted: 8:29 PM, September 15th (Sunday)

I am so so sorry. You do not deserve this at all. He showed you who he really is...scum. After all you did for him. He doesn't deserve you. What a loser he is. I am so angry for you.

Big hugs...


Me - BS 42
Kids 12 and 9
Divorced

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foreverempty
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Default  Posted: 8:49 PM, September 15th (Sunday)

You deserve an awful lot better than that!


Me BS: 35
Her WW: 34
D Day 5th December 2011
Current status: Filled for divorce 23rd Jan 2012. Response from WW was not to beg for forgiveness, but deleting me from Facebook.

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persevere
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Default  Posted: 9:07 PM, September 15th (Sunday)

Sweet fraeuken, you absolutely do not deserve this - what a f'd up sonofabitch. To quote our Tesla - Fuck That Guy.

He KNEW you were invited and he pulls this shit? Not only is he fucked up, he is completely stupid.

I'm sure he will have some sort of explanation with his apology - please consider it carefully, because I find it hard to believe there is any reasonable explanation for this BS.

What a fucking jerk.


Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


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FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 9:09 PM, September 15th (Sunday)

Wow. That is pretty low.

FTG


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

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PhoenixRisen
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Default  Posted: 9:13 PM, September 15th (Sunday)

wow! what a jerk
Sorry for your pain, you deserve better.
You deserve respect & decency at minimum.
You deserve love and to be the center of a sig other's world.


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fraeuken
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Default  Posted: 9:17 PM, September 15th (Sunday)

There is no acceptance of any apology whatsoever. I have blocked his numbers already so he can't call me or text me, blocked him and all of his acquaintances on Facebook, and put his email on Spam Filter on my email so I don't see anything that might be coming in when he is sober. I know he will come to regret this tomorrow but I am done.

I might run into him over time as we hang out at the same places. I will not frequent them for a while. I will go to church (yes, that's where we went together this morning) but I can get in and out quickly without having to interact with him. I don't want him to take this church away from him, love the people and the pastor.

His stuff is sitting outside by the door waiting. I am really tempted to flush his Viagra down the toilet....at least not fun for him tonight if he was planning on that.

[This message edited by fraeuken at 9:18 PM, September 15th (Sunday)]


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bbee
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Default  Posted: 9:24 PM, September 15th (Sunday)

Flush the fucking Viagra! Douchnozzle.


This above all: to thine ownself be true,
And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man.

Hamlet, Act I, Scene 3

Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none.

All's Well That Ends Well, Act I, Scene 1


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fraeuken
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Default  Posted: 9:26 PM, September 15th (Sunday)

Flushed! The things a bottle of sparkling wine makes you do.

[This message edited by fraeuken at 9:27 PM, September 15th (Sunday)]


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Default  Posted: 9:33 PM, September 15th (Sunday)

Definitely glad you flushed it!


Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


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tryingagain74
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Default  Posted: 9:40 PM, September 15th (Sunday)

That makes my blood boil.

Good for you for blocking the crap out of him. He's not fit to lick your (bitch) boots.

I'm sorry he was such a complete and utter waste of oxygen. I'm sure that his wonderful ex-girlfriend will be there for him when he has another health crisis. Not. (Cue Connie Francis: "Who's Sorry Now?")

(((fraeuken)))


BS (Me) 39
Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 9:42 PM, September 15th (Sunday)

(((fraeuken)))

I'm so sorry. You deserve so much better. Sending you strength and hugs.


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traicionada
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Default  Posted: 9:45 PM, September 15th (Sunday)

Ugh! Ugh! Some people are such a waste of time and energy. You deserve better so much better


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Default  Posted: 9:47 PM, September 15th (Sunday)

This makes me so angry on your behalf. I wish we could go into his place of business and give him dirty looks & run a few customers out.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

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Default  Posted: 9:54 PM, September 15th (Sunday)

((((((frauken)))))))

I am so very sorry, honey. You know you don't deserve this. Nobody does.


You can call me NIK

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fraeuken
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Default  Posted: 9:57 PM, September 15th (Sunday)

He just picked up his stuff.

I heard the tires screeching outside and the engine being tortured when he left. This man is in his 60s - really? I would expect this behavior from a teenager.


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Default  Posted: 10:08 PM, September 15th (Sunday)

Well, you didn't completely dodge the bullet, but really you did. It would be far worse if you (and your children!) were more invested and he pulled this crap. ((Hugs lady))


Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


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wildbananas
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Default  Posted: 10:37 PM, September 15th (Sunday)

FTG!

((Fraeuken)))


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fraeuken
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Default  Posted: 10:52 PM, September 15th (Sunday)

Starting to see the good in this - I am watching my favorite program peacefully, getting some contract work done without interruption(money rolling in this week) and don't have a guy with constant back pain and flatulence on the couch next to me.

Tomorrow my girls come home and I will just focus on spending a wonderful week with them without having to worry about splitting my time between him and them. I am thinking movie nights, mani/pedi and a haircut with my favorite hairdresser for my older one. Games with my little one and just having the cat sleep in bed with us, yeah! When I wake up tomorrow morning, I won't have him hanging out at my house until it's time to go to work but will be able to head out to the gym right at 8.00 a.m. when my cleaning guy shows up. And then Girls Night Out with my best friend is on again - no more guilt trip because I spend time with a friend.

I will miss falling asleep in somebody's arms and waking up the same way. We had that incredible chemistry where you just forget the world around you when he hugs you. Or so I thought, I guess it was just what I felt...


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persevere
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Default  Posted: 11:28 PM, September 15th (Sunday)

I think you use the points on this post to prepare you for future relationships. Set your boundaries up front. I personally don't think guilt should be a factor when spending time with your friends. My BF and even XWH were both good with my friend time.

XWH just later decided to extend his friend time to other women..lol.

My point is trust matters and if he ( meaning any "he") can't reasonably accommodate that then that is a red flag.

This is a good opportunity to define your boundaries for the future.

Though your "he" is still a scumbag sonofabitch.


Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


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fireproof
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Default  Posted: 11:35 PM, September 15th (Sunday)

I am so sorry! I can't imagine the hurt but I think with a man if this character you know the real man.

You could have made life plans for you and your kids and his actions end up like those at the party. I think you dodged permanent pain and most importantly left yourself open to find an honest and good man.


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Default  Posted: 11:41 PM, September 15th (Sunday)

I am just shocked that he would actually go the party that he knew you were going to be at, say he's not going, then goes AND then acts like you aren't there? Incredible.

Glad you blocked any future communication with him. That has got to be one of the lowest of the low.

Good riddens.

sorry, you had to go through that.


Me: 42
Two boys: 17 and 14
Divorced 12-13-05
d-day 10-02-01

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fraeuken
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Default  Posted: 11:50 PM, September 15th (Sunday)

He had asked me in the morning if I was going; I told him I was not sure and that if I went I wanted to go with him as a couple. He was very set on not going because he 'hated' the town it was in and did not care about the woman whose birthday it was and blah, blah...

I think at the point he did this he was too drunk to really think it through. Not an excuse, but I have a feeling that's what happened.

It was the look in his eyes that really hurt; the look when somebody is caught and all of a sudden you just feel like a nuisance. With that look and his action with the other woman he made me feel like I was absolutely nothing. And then he had the audacity to walk over to some joined friends and tell them very loudly, so that my girlfriend, who stayed behind could hear it, that he was having a lot of friends at this party and that he was planning on partying all night. WTF?

Some people do not know a good thing when it stares them in the face.


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click4it
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Default  Posted: 11:56 PM, September 15th (Sunday)

Nope he sure doesn't. As I say, good riddens.


Me: 42
Two boys: 17 and 14
Divorced 12-13-05
d-day 10-02-01

Laughter will cure life's ills. Have you had your laugh today?


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Default  Posted: 12:06 AM, September 16th (Monday)

((((((( fruaeken))))))

The interesting thing about the second time on the infidelity roller coaster-you've already figured out what worked for you the first time. The healing happens faster.

He's an ass. You deserve better.

More hugs,
K


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

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Default  Posted: 12:13 AM, September 16th (Monday)

Just. WOW.

what a loser!


True remorse isn't followed by a "but".

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heartbroken_kk
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Default  Posted: 12:35 AM, September 16th (Monday)

What. An. Asshole.

FTG!


BW then 46, STBXWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life.
D-Day 1 1999, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... 2009 thru 2011.

Separated, divorcing, moving on.
I edit because I always make typos.


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cmego
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Default  Posted: 7:57 AM, September 16th (Monday)

I'm so sorry this happened fraeuken. It sounds like he was "posturing" at the party...so he could deflect the fact that he is an asshole. Typical wayward behavior. The squealing out of the parking lot? More immature behavior, and probably pretty angry at himself, but it is masked in a "so what" attitude. I'm sure he saw his things outside your door and thought, "Whoa. OK. I guess she isn't taking me back." then they change into "well, I didn't want her anyway!" Therefore the immature behavior. Deflecting.

Try to be thankful that you found out who he is early. Your gut was telling you something was off...just cocoon and take care of yourself


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced

"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings


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Default  Posted: 8:34 AM, September 16th (Monday)

I am so sorry that happened to you. I might have ripped him a new one right there. Let everyone there know what a lying asshole his is.

You should have put Viagra-looking placebo's in his bottle and gave it back to him


But remember, good love is hard to find . . -Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers
BS - 54
Cheater -54
Married 26 yrs
DD - 21 DD -19 DS-17
A#1 2000 with married ho-worker/neighbor ow#1
A#2 2007-? OW#2 LTA with married ho-worker. Kicked him out, he filed

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Default  Posted: 9:06 AM, September 16th (Monday)

Do not let the anger take over in you heart. Remember that everything has a begining and an end.
this is the end of another chapter in your life. Fill your heart with love and kindness from whatever you believe in.
He is disfuncional, not you. Don't become bitter and take his place in limbo.
clear you mind from any bad feelings before it becomes part of you. Accept the fact he is gone and thats all. Value yourself and fill your heart with awarness, live it and let it go.
Love, happiness, sadness, etc is a choice if we do not attach to them. Choose whatever you want to feel and work on it.
We all love you here and will care for you always.

My two cents


Pain and suffering is part of life, but I choose to feel love and compassion for all people excluding no one.

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She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 10:05 AM, September 16th (Monday)

I am really tempted to flush his Viagra down the toilet..

TOTALLY! That's not any worse than me CLEANING under the lid of the toilet with my XWH's toothbrush!!!


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


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fraeuken
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Default  Posted: 10:07 AM, September 16th (Monday)

Shellybeanz, great minds think alike. I did that too way back when I found XH's condoms in his overnight bag...


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Default  Posted: 10:16 AM, September 16th (Monday)

I am so sorry - what a crappy thing to have happen!!!!

Viagra - Yep - substituting tic-tacs would of been funny.

Toothbrush - I remember my mom brushing the dog's teeth with my father's toothbrush.


Eyes are useless if the mind is blind.


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fraeuken
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Default  Posted: 10:17 AM, September 16th (Monday)

I thought I wasn't letting this get to me so much, but apparently I do.

I barely slept and when I fell asleep my disturbing dreams woke me up. I relieved yesterday over and over again. I feel like just wanting to crawl under a blanket and shut the world out. Tears making their way through my attempts not to cry. When I got up this morning, my anxiety set in like I haven't had it in a long time. Dry heaves, chills, sweating, heart racing.

Fortunately I have to teach this afternoon, 3 hours of not thinking just focusing on my English student.

I know I will pull out of this much faster than before. But the pain and somehow the shame of rejection is just as intense.

This will be a long day, can't wait to pull up to school this afternoon and see DD11 all excited to see me.


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Default  Posted: 10:21 AM, September 16th (Monday)

oh honey, I'm so sorry :(


me (BS)
him (NPD Ex)
2 dds
DDay 10/7/11
OW
OC

Divorced 1/17/2013

"Diamonds aren't a girl's best friend, freedom is."


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She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 12:46 PM, September 16th (Monday)

Shellybeanz, great minds think alike. I did that too way back when I found XH's condoms in his overnight bag...

Yep...scrub scrub scrub!!!

Little did he know that Crest wasn't responsible for his pearly whites..... but they probably were tidy bowl fresh!!!

Toothbrush - I remember my mom brushing the dog's teeth with my father's toothbrush.

((BIGHUGZ)) Everything will be okay...

[This message edited by She11ybeanz at 12:48 PM, September 16th (Monday)]


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


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Default  Posted: 2:33 PM, September 16th (Monday)

That really stinks Frau. What a mean man.

I may need that Viagra sometime in the next few years!


Divorced by Interlocutory decree in May 2012. WW had an affair with a 66 yo doctor she worked for.
D-Day Sept 16. 2011.
BH- 52 (Me) / XWW 50 - ages back in 2011
Two great kids that don't deserve this!

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fraeuken
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Default  Posted: 3:04 PM, September 16th (Monday)

Bebba, nothing wrong with Viagra. I had more fun than ever in that department


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CheaterMagnet
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Default  Posted: 3:50 PM, September 16th (Monday)

Fraeuken,

I am so very sorry. That seems such a small thing to say, but that's really all there is.

You are a lovely, warm, intelligent, giving person. His perceived "rejection" of you is actually a gift. He is saving you from another long term relationship with a liar and a coward. You know that the issues are his and not a reflection on you. You also know that nothing you could have done or not done would have changed who he is at the fundamental level.

I know none of this eases the pain. I wish I could hug you in real life. And I'd love to give him a piece of my mind.

(((((((HUGS)))))))


If Happy Ever After did exist, I would still be holding you like this.
All those fairly tales are full of shit.
One more fucking love song I'll be sick. ~ Maroon 5

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InnerLight
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Default  Posted: 4:08 PM, September 16th (Monday)

What an ass! I think that sepsis ate up his brain!

T/J Meds down the toilet make me cringe. It gets in our water and fishes to babies drink it down eventually causing many health issues. It's a big problem. Last thing you want to hear in your pain, but I didn't realize so many other people didn't already know. End T/J

His jackass behavior has nothing to do with your deserving. And I applaud you for your excellent NC and self care. I am so sorry for the pain. There is a withdrawal reaction like a drug for touch. Massage is a good option.


BS, age 53, d-day 6-2-08, divorced after 17 years and 20 together. dating again, living in the sticks with a cat. It's taking a long time to create new dreams and a new life but it is slowly coming together.

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AnnieOakley
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Default  Posted: 4:10 PM, September 16th (Monday)

Ugh. It goes without saying that age does not equal maturity. It is so sad how some people can get thru life being so self centered and unable to be honest with themselves as well as others.

What a spineless example of a human being.

((hugs))


Me= BS, 45
Him=WH, 46
M=18+,T=21+
dday=7/06, 8/09 (pics at a recent work function), 11/09 VAR. Done.
"If you are going through hell, keep going." - Sir Winston Churchill

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Take2
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Default  Posted: 4:35 PM, September 16th (Monday)

I never thought I would ever let myself be treated this way again after what I have been through with my ex.

And you didn't! You left. You blocked him. You ended it as soon as you knew! You are already taking charge and moving forward focused on what matters.

FTpatheticG


"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us." Joseph Campbell...So, If fear was not a factor - what would you do?

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tesla
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Default  Posted: 5:32 PM, September 16th (Monday)

Jeez, FTG.

I can't believe he behaved like that at the party. FUcking douchebag.

((((frauken))))


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Default  Posted: 6:51 PM, September 16th (Monday)

I am so sorry. I think you're living my worst nightmare with possibility that this could happen again.

It sounds like you are handling this well, but I can only imagine how much this would hurt.


Me (BS)47
XH (WS)53
Married 21 years
Divorced 2/19/07
Two sons 21 and 23 in college

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fraeuken
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Default  Posted: 7:10 PM, September 16th (Monday)

Thank you all guys for your thoughts. Tomorrow is another day. Life goes on, as we all know, just with another scar to show for it. I miss him, I feel humiliated and the hurt is intense, I won't lie about that, but I do also enjoy the peace I have and the opportunities ahead of me. What do they say? Better to have lost in love than never to have loved at all. And I did love this man with all my heart and still do and probably always will, just in a different way. For the first time in my life I felt I was with a man, minus the last few days :-)

So...

I picked up DD11 early as per her request and making her favorite food for dinner. Picking up DD16 in a couple of hours and looking forward to watching the latest StarTrek movie on DVD with them tonight, munching on popcorn and having a beer.

I heard from my best (male) friend today and was invited to visit him in Chicago. He lives in one of those super-modern high rises with a 180 degree view of the city and the lake. Total luxury.

I got invited by a single friend to join her at an event in SF Friday night and might actually go. And there are a bunch of interesting meetings coming up on Meetup, such as a Saturday hike in two weeks with wine tasting after. Just my kind of event

And, as if I needed good news today, my boss called this morning telling me that our team is safe from pending elimination and our jobs are not in any danger, phew! In fact, my role is becoming more important and is getting a boost.

It is very comforting to know one can come here and people understand and support. It feels like family. I hope I can give back.


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Default  Posted: 8:57 PM, September 16th (Monday)

What a jagoff.


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Default  Posted: 9:15 PM, September 16th (Monday)

(((fraeuken))) I'm so sorry.

I feel humiliated and the hurt is intense,
There is nothing for you to be humiliated about. This chic that was giving you "that look" at the party? She hasn't won any great prize. She only got the gag gift.... Seriously. He will do the same to her.

I'm so sorry you are hurting though. It is painful but don't feel you have to hurry thru the pain. You gave your heart in a beautiful and loving way. There is nothing to be ashamed of there and you are entitled to grieve and hurt as long as you need to (even though at some point you will look back and think, wtf was I thinking....btdt!)

[This message edited by NaiveAgain at 9:18 PM, September 16th (Monday)]


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Default  Posted: 9:30 PM, September 16th (Monday)

I never thought I would ever let myself be treated this way again after what I have been through with my ex.

I agree with Take2. You did not let yourself be treated this way again. You took charge and removed him from your life. You are strong! Find comfort in that. I know many of us are proud of you hun. Be proud of yourself too.


I'm sorry if you don't like my Honesty, but to be fair I don't like your lies.

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Default  Posted: 9:30 PM, September 16th (Monday)

((frauken)) You handled this whole thing with grace and dignity. Him - good riddance to bad trash. What a shithead.


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Default  Posted: 10:27 PM, September 16th (Monday)

Sorry, InnerLight, I did not even think about the effects of flushing meds down the toilet in my rage. Next time, how about burning them in the fireplace? Or maybe just pulverizing them and putting them back in the pillbox? Not sure how to dispose of this stuff.


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Default  Posted: 10:53 PM, September 16th (Monday)

I think the most responsible is to return meds to a pharmacy for proper disposal. They are dangerous in the wrong hands or places.

Fr, you are handling this whole thing with such poise and grace. I admire your strength and clarity. This is like a model approach to handling cheating partners. You learned the hard way but you learned well. And I think you will find yourself in a better place soon because of it.


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Default  Posted: 11:17 PM, September 16th (Monday)

I wasn't so full of poise and grace today when, on my way to pick up my daughter, I drove by all his usual hangout spots. Neither his work truck nor his car were anywhere.

Why do we like to torture ourselves? It reminds me of the time when I was snooping on my XH to find proof of his affair as if it was not staring right in my face. What do I hope to gain from seeing his car? Seeing it in front of his girlfriend's house or feeling 'safe' that he is at a public place? Argh, I could kick myself for even doing that.

I have packed my next few days full with work, personal trainer sessions, kid activities, GNO and teaching in the evening. I need to take my mind of this.


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Default  Posted: 6:55 AM, September 17th (Tuesday)

Why do we like to torture ourselves?
The heart is slower than the head. It takes a while for our emotions and feelings to catch up with what we actually know. And it also takes a while for it to sink in. When we have a shock to our minds like betrayal, because of the shock, it just takes a bit of time to fully sink in.

Also, when we really love or care about someone, we go into denial for a little while after their loss, no matter what the reason for the loss. It is a normal and natural part of grieving. What you are doing right now is part denial and you are doing little things here or there to help yourself make this new transition reality.

Again, I'm really sorry for your pain.


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Default  Posted: 11:29 AM, September 17th (Tuesday)

T/J of
T/J Meds down the toilet make me cringe. It gets in our water and fishes to babies drink it down eventually causing many health issues. It's a big problem. Last thing you want to hear in your pain, but I didn't realize so many other people didn't already know. End T/J

Flushing is how hospice in Oregon disposes of meds... not that it is right.

End T/J


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Default  Posted: 3:26 PM, September 17th (Tuesday)

End XH updated his FB status to 'in a relationship' today which made a bunch of pictures visible on her FB site which showed me that the affair was even longer than I thought and that some of his 'solo' trips were not that solo after all.

Just lovely.. they say things come in threes. What is next? Somebody just get the big sledgehammer out and kill me now. I don't want to take any of this anymore.


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Default  Posted: 3:31 PM, September 17th (Tuesday)

I'm sorry that you went through this. I have no intention of ever dating again and this is one of the reasons why. I'm a bad picker. It just isn't worth it to me to emotionally invest one more minute into anyone. Good luck....be glad that you found out now.


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Default  Posted: 5:19 PM, September 17th (Tuesday)

Weird timing. That must be particularly distressing to hear at this moment. Can you see an IC? There's so much to process here. ((((Fr)))))

TJ/ posted on Off Topic about the med flushing issue. end TJ


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Default  Posted: 5:35 PM, September 17th (Tuesday)

TJ my thread all you want I learned something from it.

Weird timing, yes and no. DD11 confessed to me that she told XH about SO or now xSO and I am having a feeling that this might have played a role. XH hardly ever is on FB, thinks it is stupid but then went on today, befriended his girlfriend and added he was in a relationship with her. So, call me crazy, but I am having a feeling that the news about his unattractive, unlove-able, unsuccessful ex dating a man might have triggered this status update.

I haven't even thought about going to see an IC, maybe I should. I am so used to shuffling through all this shi* alone, that it did not come to my mind. I am heading for church tonight, Womens' group, and I know I will find some peace there having some honest words with my maker. IC might be a good idea; I really would like to understand what about me says 'doormat'. I kick ass at work, my 2nd and 3rd job, when it comes to my kids, my finances - and yet I seem to attract men who seem to think me being nurturing and supportive translates into "I can do whatever I want". In the school of life, I certainly flunk in setting boundaries. IC, here I come...


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Default  Posted: 9:03 PM, September 17th (Tuesday)

Just wow. I switched nights at the church to avoid him and go in peace and guess who just walked in with his Ex, well I guess not the Ex anymore. Can't have peace anywhere.

[This message edited by fraeuken at 9:05 PM, September 17th (Tuesday)]


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Default  Posted: 9:51 PM, September 17th (Tuesday)

What a putz.....I'm sorry lady. Ugh...


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Default  Posted: 10:01 PM, September 17th (Tuesday)

This is just mind blowing to me.

Just last week we were out with with a guy friend and got talking about past relationships and Xso tells our guy friend how this woman preferred her dogs over him, how he was growled at and bitten when he wanted to lay down in bed, how there was no intimacy and friendship, how she made him do all the improvements to the house while she was out drinking wine with her friends and how he felt uncomfortable in the presence of her pretend upper class crowd and that she had a restraining order taken out on him after their split.

I guess what do you care about what you said yesterday....plus, let me be mean - he traded a Porsche for a Kia. Holy moly. I am starting to think he was just flattered that a fairly attractive, much younger woman wanted to be with him. And that was that.. She is the safe bet, friends with all his friends, adult children, a place he can readily move in.

But seeing this tonight has helped me leap forward to a point of "so what"? He was postering in church, loud mouthed, laughing too loud and desperately trying to be funny. What was I thinking?

[This message edited by fraeuken at 11:31 PM, September 17th (Tuesday)]


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Default  Posted: 6:18 AM, September 18th (Wednesday)

He is also a Kia, up on blocks with no engine. He deserves the stupid shit he was describing last week, doubly so because he signed up for it again. You are so much better off, good riddance.


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On so many men who would have loved you more" -Cath, DCFC

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Default  Posted: 9:52 AM, September 18th (Wednesday)

Not a Kia but a Yugo .


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Default  Posted: 11:51 AM, September 18th (Wednesday)

A friend just sent me this and I am really wondering if my picker is that broken, because xSO fits this description to a 'T':

http://www.lovefraud.com/anderly-publishing/red-flags-of-love-fraud/red-flags-of-love-fraud-chapter-5-the-sociopathic-seduction/

Stupid, stupid me.


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Default  Posted: 1:10 PM, September 18th (Wednesday)

Good article, fraeuken.

So, I was thinking about how your Xso treated you at the bar. You handled it with grace and dignity. But if I was your friend and I was there, I would have had your back. This is what I would have done.

Walked over to him, with drink in hand, and told him:
"Fraeuken only wants a real man. And you're not. You are a scared little boy in a man suit. You also think you are so "hot". Hope this helps cool you off (as I am pouring drink in his lap). Oh, btw, I have heard you have a small, limp dick, too! Buh-bye!"


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Default  Posted: 1:12 PM, September 18th (Wednesday)

You're not stupid, but now that you can see the red flags, you will become a better dated. I married my sociopath and spent years with the parasite. You escaped relatively quickly, and now have more knowledge to make better choices next time!


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Default  Posted: 1:33 PM, September 18th (Wednesday)

Sister, my friend and actually two others were ready to confront. I told them not to because I saw how drunk he was and he is a mean, violent drunk and I did not want anybody to get hurt.

I have seen him sliding back into drinking the last few weeks after he got off the meds for his sepsis. He had been on his best behavior I think and then could not keep it up. Who knows what other issues there are, I know I dodged a major bullet the more I think about it.


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Default  Posted: 1:38 PM, September 18th (Wednesday)

You have great friends, fraeuken. I am sure you made the wise decision to ask your friends to not confront. I just hate when people behave badly (especially in public) and they aren't called on their bad behaviour.

As I have said, you are a dignified woman with lots of grace and class. (((fraeuken)))


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Default  Posted: 10:02 AM, September 19th (Thursday)

This is getting weirder by the day. He managed to leave me a voicemail from another number. Claims that he never knew I was at the event?!? Dude, I asked you to order me a drink, you talked to me!

Also claims I read the situation totally wrong. Again, what did I read wrong about him not telling me he was going to the party, flirting with his ex, ignoring me, not answering his phone and him having been with her since that day?

Also, he states he is done based on my crazy actions that day which included leaving the party without making a scene, leaving him a calm message that I did not appreciate his actions and that he could collect his stuff and leaving him a note telling him that my boundaries were violated and that I felt humiliated by the man I loved and that I wished him nothing but the best but that things were over.

Call me crazy, should I have stayed and battled it out? Waited for him until he was done with her so be could acknowledge me? I don't mark my territory that way. If you don't want to be with me and I am cramping your style, I leave. I will not ever compete with another woman over man's attention. Neither would I ever make a man in my life have to do that. Jerk.


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Default  Posted: 1:34 PM, September 19th (Thursday)

Also, he states he is done based on my crazy actions that day which included leaving the party without making a scene, leaving him a calm message that I did not appreciate his actions and that he could collect his stuff and leaving him a note telling him that my boundaries were violated and that I felt humiliated by the man I loved and that I wished him nothing but the best but that things were over.

Ex-squeeze me if I'm wrong but aren't YOU the one who broke up with him??? And, he is saying he is DONE? Awwww.....poor loser cheater boyfriend can't seem to handle the rejection of you breaking up with his deceitful ass after getting caught red-handed!!!! Go cry me a river and get the f*ck off of my bridge while I burn it down for you cause you ain't coming back this way choir boy!!!!

What did he expect you to do? Walk over to him and squat over his lap and pee on him to mark your territory at the party??

I think a good swift throw of red wine to his face might have been fun....(although a waste of good wine)...but she can keep that cheap piece of unclaimed land. There's a reason no one wants to put a flag on him.....apparently!

GOOD RIDDANCE BABY!!!

[This message edited by She11ybeanz at 1:35 PM, September 19th (Thursday)]


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Default  Posted: 2:09 PM, September 19th (Thursday)

What an asswipe - be glad you are rid of him. Now I know why I'm on the bus and will be for a long, long, time......

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Default  Posted: 3:31 PM, September 19th (Thursday)

Now I know why I'm on the bus and will be for a long, long, time..

Me too! A year and a half going strong! Gotta love Duracell!!!


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Default  Posted: 3:52 PM, September 19th (Thursday)

Gotta love Duracell!!!

I highly recommend upgrading to the plug in model, it lasts even longer.


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Default  Posted: 4:56 PM, September 19th (Thursday)

Flushed! The things a bottle of sparkling wine makes you do

Pity you didn't replace his Viagra with a good,strong laxative....let little miss ex-girlfriend enjoy that one......
Sorry he is such a jerk...you are much better off without this asshole....HUGS


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Default  Posted: 5:23 PM, September 19th (Thursday)

I will get the Duracells out. It was a nice 4 months break but our mechanical friends come without all the drama and without ex-girlfriends.

I am realizing how much time I have on my hands again now. I found all kind of fun meet up groups and will head to a beach weekend with a girlfriend in a couple of weeks. Yeah!


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Default  Posted: 7:02 PM, September 19th (Thursday)

Call me crazy, should I have stayed and battled it out?

He probably expected a girl fight. That would've boosted his ego in his POV. His Ex was more than willing to play along giving you the look she did.

(((Fraeuken)))


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Default  Posted: 9:04 PM, October 8th (Tuesday)

So Mr "I guess I was looking for a soft spot to land" moved back with his ex-girlfriend only a few days after I told him to take a hike. His friends, who I run into in our small town, are all shaking their heads about his stupidity. I guess he ranks below the dogs yet again. Ah, the choices some people make


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Default  Posted: 2:00 PM, October 9th (Wednesday)

You said he was a mean, violent drunk so uh ... good riddance to him! He went to her cause he had no where else to go! Been there, done that!


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Default  Posted: 2:14 PM, October 9th (Wednesday)

Does not matter if he seen you or not....he specifically said:

that he did not want to go because he hated the place.

Then avoided your calls, etc.

Cricket this guy for good!

PS - there are plug in models?????

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Default  Posted: 3:20 PM, October 10th (Thursday)

What a complete jerk/ass!
Sorry a POS like him was able to even get close to you and hurt you that way.


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Default  Posted: 5:10 AM, October 11th (Friday)

he is a mean, violent drunk and I did not want anybody to get hurt.

This alone is reason not to get any deeper into the relationship. How long before the violence would have been turned on you?

Frauken, you seriously dodged a bullet. It may not feel like it now, but it is a huge blessing that his mask slipped he showed his ugly self so quickly.

FTG and big hugs to you.


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Default  Posted: 11:58 AM, October 11th (Friday)

I saw the good, the bad and the ugly in this short time with him and yes I know, I dodged a bullet. There were many red flags literally hitting me in the face.

I also know that while things were good, they were crazy good. During those times I felt like I could let myself fall. I will never forget the night he held me when I broke down over not being with my DD on her 16th birthday. There are many moments that were beautiful and as close to perfect as I ever came with a man and that makes me believe that I can truly love somebody again in the future.

I have been hit on and asked out on dates the last few weeks since xSO and I broke up. It is almost as if guys feel I am not emotionally available and make it a conquest. I tried against my better judgment but I can't get myself to even get excited about anybody.

So, I will take a leave of absence so to say and focus on my DDs. I like my regained solitude


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Default  Posted: 12:55 PM, October 11th (Friday)

So, I will take a leave of absence so to say and focus on my DDs. I like my regained solitude

This is what I'm doing right now.... I kinda needed a break from dating. Although no one has been hitting on me (that I'm aware of....) which sucks...but I don't get out much either...which could be part of the problem... IDK. I may need to buy cat stock at the YMCA.....

I'm hit the jackpot in the million dollar catlady lottery one day!!!

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