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stronger08
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Default  Posted: 2:07 AM, September 16th (Monday)

Its been a long time since I have started a post. I've been busy shooting my mouth off in other forums. I have kind if made a big life decision. Now that my mountain home is just about done I have decided to live there full time. I find that my life is more peaceful and I like the solitude. I have been spending most of my time there anyway so I might as well just move there. As its in a rural zone I had to go to the post office and open a box. It should be available by this Wednesday and now I can start getting mail and establish residence. I'll have to get a new drivers license and register my car there. It will be funny cause I have been using the same NY license picture since I was 30. Now that I'm 51 its time to update my pic. The cost of living there is so much cheaper than NYC and now that I'm retired its time to start worrying about how much I spend.

I will still keep my house in NY as I own it with my sister and her H. This way if it don't work out I always have a place to go. My sister is not too happy about it but we spoke and she will rent out my apartment to subsidize my part of the household expenses. It sort of breaks even money wise anyhow. I got the house in the country as a get away place. But I have renovated it to a year round residence so it should be very comfy come this winter. So I have come full circle in my life. From living alone to getting M and having children to getting D and living alone again to buying a house with my sister and BIL to living alone again. I'm in a good place with myself and like my own company. I have my dog as a companion and I hope this works out. If not I can always pack up my truck and go back to the city.

It should be fun to watch my urbanite ass fit in with the country folk. And I'm only a couple of hours drive should I need a fix of the city. I really have nothing here except my son who I will still see regularly. I'll drive to Brooklyn to get him for my bi-weekly visitation and bring him home. It will be a bit of a drive but that's OK. I can always rest up at my sisters on Sunday when I drop him off and go home the following Monday. Perhaps I'll even meet a lady friend. That don't seem to be happening for me here. Maybe its time to seek a greener pasture on the love farm LOL. I'm not going because of that, but ya never know what life brings you. So that's my update. I'll still be around to pipe in with my two cents of advice. Here's to another NB for me.


You cant eat soup with chopsticks.

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FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 3:43 AM, September 16th (Monday)

You've had the same picture on your license since you were 30?? We have to reshoot every five years LOL.

Sounds like you have all the bases covered. Bliss!


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17137 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
SeanFLA
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Default  Posted: 5:13 AM, September 16th (Monday)

Growing up in Dutchess County and hearing folks from the city refer to Upstate as the country always makes me smile. I never think of it that way. I'm guessing by "mountain" you're referring to the Catskills? My son and I did some flyfishing up there in June when we went up to visit mom.

[This message edited by SeanFLA at 5:14 AM, September 16th (Monday)]


BS(me) 48
WW 46
1 son 14 yrs old
Married 18 yrs, together 21 yrs

"You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have." ~ Bob Marley


Posts: 1456 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: Zombie Land
stronger08
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Default  Posted: 5:59 AM, September 16th (Monday)

I am referring to the Poconos Sean. I actually did another state all together. LOL. And yes Dutchess County was upstate for me as well.


You cant eat soup with chopsticks.

Posts: 5558 | Registered: Nov 2007
persevere
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Default  Posted: 6:03 AM, September 16th (Monday)

Congrats stronger


Me: BW-43
Him: XWH-43
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


Posts: 4374 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Texas
Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 6:14 AM, September 16th (Monday)

Welcome to PA, Stronger!


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7424 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
gahurts
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Default  Posted: 6:18 AM, September 16th (Monday)

Good deal Stronger. I'm happy for you. All the best as you make a new home in the hills.


"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie


Posts: 3322 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Georgia
Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 7:02 AM, September 16th (Monday)

Congratulations Stronger. You might find that the country isn't so much country anymore. Sure, it will be a lot slower than NYC, but civilization has encroached in most places.

My brother moved to the souther Catskills/Delaware Water Gap area about 12 years ago, and he and his wife have quite a social life Jobs are generally the problem, but not yours it seems

I've moved to the country too, but I am living in a very small urban area for the time being. I love it.

Good luck.


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

Posts: 19794 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
jjct
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Default  Posted: 7:17 AM, September 16th (Monday)

Goin all Jeremiah Johnson on us are ya?

Love it!
A nice woodstove & a telescope(?) - good company!


Posts: 6423 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: texas
SeanFLA
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Default  Posted: 8:49 AM, September 16th (Monday)

My brother moved to the souther Catskills/Delaware Water Gap area about 12 years ago

It's a real pretty area out that way. We fished the Beaverkill, Willowemoc, East and West Branches on a couple of float trips. Can't wait to go back in the spring. But still deciding if I want to take him up to the Adirondacks instead.


BS(me) 48
WW 46
1 son 14 yrs old
Married 18 yrs, together 21 yrs

"You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have." ~ Bob Marley


Posts: 1456 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: Zombie Land
wonderingbull
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Default  Posted: 2:29 PM, September 16th (Monday)

fistbump....

WB


The secret of life is enjoying the passage of time...

James Taylor


Posts: 5939 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: A better place
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 2:39 PM, September 16th (Monday)

Great update, Stronger. Enjoy your newest NB.


You can call me NIK

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


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InnerLight
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Default  Posted: 4:15 PM, September 16th (Monday)

Fab! After D I live alone in a very rural part of CA, 6 miles from a 'town' of 1500. I love it. Piecing together various income streams is the biggest challenge for me, I'm self employed and travel to the big city a couple times a month where my work is most appreciated, 3.5 hours away.
I love heating my home with wood and feeling close to wild nature. I've gotten better at animal tracking including bird language as a result.


BS, age 53, d-day 6-2-08, divorced after 17 years and 20 together. dating again, living in the sticks with a cat. It's taking a long time to create new dreams and a new life but it is slowly coming together.

Posts: 5726 | Registered: Jun 2008 | From: Rural California
jo2love
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Default  Posted: 5:22 PM, September 16th (Monday)

Very cool, Stronger. I bet you will have some great views when it snows.

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heartbroken30
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Default  Posted: 11:05 PM, September 16th (Monday)

Good for you! I live in "upstate" NY too...pretty civilized here!


Me - BS 42
Kids 12 and 9
Divorced

Posts: 1846 | Registered: Mar 2008 | From: NY
shiloe
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Default  Posted: 9:12 AM, September 17th (Tuesday)

You will do fine.

I live on 80 acres, very beautiful and peaceful but isolated. You take the good with the bad.


But remember, good love is hard to find . . -Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers
BS - 54
Cheater -54
Married 26 yrs
DD - 21 DD -19 DS-17
A#1 2000 with married ho-worker/neighbor ow#1
A#2 2007-? OW#2 LTA with married ho-worker. Kicked him out, he filed

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