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cmego
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Default  Posted: 8:01 AM, September 16th (Monday)

Today is my 18th wedding anniversary (since we still are separated for financial reasons...filing the end of the year to get the last tax break) and I didn't even remember until a few hours in! Woo HOO! Last year I still felt some pain...today I'm not feeling any pain. None. It really is amazing how time heals.

I think I'm happier that I don't feel pain...does that make sense? I'll go buy myself something pretty today.


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, separated 3 years, together 17
Alis volat propriis "She flies with her own wings"
separated 1/2011

Posts: 3615 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Virginia
BrokenDaisy
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Member # 37063
Default  Posted: 8:21 AM, September 16th (Monday)

Yay! I think that is a huge testament to the growth and healing you've done. Definitely buy yourself something pretty, you more than deserve it!


Me BxW, him SA NPD WxH
1 wonderful toddler - sole legal custody to me and supervised visitation to xwh.
DDay 01/2012
10/2013 Divorced!!

Posts: 216 | Registered: Oct 2012
Shockleader
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Member # 36827
Default  Posted: 10:12 AM, September 16th (Monday)

Totally makes sense!... Congratulations! Time and true detachment are the cure, and like you I am so glad I am at the same place. None of us would have believed it could be true, but as the wise ones who guided us by virtue of their own experiences has shown, it is.

Now get going on treating yourself! Best of luck to you!

Edit, I hate my spelling mistakes...

[This message edited by Shockleader at 10:28 AM, September 16th (Monday)]


D-Day spring 2012
Me BS 47
XWW 44
One DD 18
Married 23 years
Divorced 12/23/13 Fu*king A

The path to salvation is narrow, and as difficult to walk as the razor's edge


Posts: 571 | Registered: Sep 2012
Mommato4
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Member # 15906
Default  Posted: 2:39 PM, September 16th (Monday)

It would have been my 18th as well.

It's a distant memory and kind of a meh moment for me now.

I really don't forget though because it's also my Dad and stepmom's (OW) 17th anniversary too. A bit weird.


Updated 2013:
BS-me 40
XH-doesn't matter
4 kids D16, D15, S12, S7
Together 15+yrs, Married 12+yrs
D-days-multiple
Separated 11/9/07
Divorcing-I filed 4/29/08
Divorced-7/25/08

Posts: 1347 | Registered: Aug 2007 | From: PNW country
click4it
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Member # 209
Default  Posted: 4:31 PM, September 16th (Monday)

yay cme.


Me: 41
Two boys: 16 and 13
Divorced 12-13-05
d-day 10-02-01

Laughter will cure life's ills. Have you had your laugh today?


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Elaine2012
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Member # 36099
Default  Posted: 4:57 PM, September 16th (Monday)

cmego
Last year I still felt some pain...today I'm not feeling any pain. None. It really is amazing how time heals
. Time does wonders for healing.

Today is my 35th and the second one since dday. I'm not really sad just disappointed that instead of celebrating I'm looking forward to the day I can say I'm D. It won't be soon enough for me.


Me- 53
WH- 57
Dday - Blindsided July 2012
Married 34 years; Sept 2012
Together 37 years
He doesn't want R.
In hindsight neither do I. For me adultery is a deal breaker!
4 adult DD's, 1 SIL, 3 grandchildren

Posts: 278 | Registered: Jul 2012
FaithFool
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Member # 20150
Default  Posted: 8:35 AM, September 18th (Wednesday)

It gets more 'meh' with every passing year. Good on ya.


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
Celebrating 60 years on Earth

Posts: 16634 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 9:59 AM, September 18th (Wednesday)

My first 'anniversary' post D would have been the 34th. I de-celebrated it by going to Las Vegas with SI friends--it was great!

The following year I was busy with work and almost forgot about it. It does get more 'meh' as the years go on.


I promise to surround myself with amazing souls and love them fiercely.

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