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flygirl123
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Default  Posted: 4:34 PM, September 16th (Monday)

I was so stunned and shocked when my phone rang this morning with the detail of my XWH's latest exploits. I guess I KNEW that this would one day happen...I just wasn't expecting it to happen so soon!

Two weekends ago, my x-asshat picked up my babies, like normal, for his weekend visitation. He was apparently taking them camping with that human mattress he calls a wife. When my boys arrived home from their weekend with Father Of the Year, the informed me that Daddy Dearest had to work and so they spent one night at the campsite with the wife while Daddy went to work. Now...while I DON'T make it a habit to ask questions about Dear Ole Dad, I did ask (and usually do) "Did Daddy have his uniform on when he went to work?"

The answer was "yes." He is a cop, so there would be a uniform necessary for work. So...other than being pissed that he rarely sees the kids and on the weekends he does, he often dumps them with the tramp or his Mom...I thought nothing of this.

Fast forward to today. My friend (whose husband is Dipshit's commander) gets a phone call from one of the secretary's looking for Asshat this morning. When no one knew where Asshat was 3 and 1/2 hours after his shift...the secretary stated that his motorcycle was outside and he must still be there. One of Asshat's coworkers stated that he must be out with *Lisa Hooty* (fake name for other tramp in his work).

Now...Lisa Hooty and the Human Mattress are NOT the same woman, I might add.

He also had to cancel union meetings last weekend that he had the boys because "he was taking the boys camping and would no be available." But...

Anyone following here???? Yep! Wifey thinks he was at work...cause he got the whole cop outfit going...left HER with HIS kids in a camper...while he went into town and banged YET ANOTHER TRAMPY HO! And then leaves his bike at work in the parking lot so WIFEY thinks his ass is still at work when in face he is with...

ANOTHER SKANK!!!!

Leopards DO NOT change their spots!!!!!!


Me...40 and fabulous
WXH...just plain stupid
DS's...9,7 and 6
DDays that are too numerous to mention...but no longer have relevance.

Posts: 230 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Illinois Cornfields
flygirl123
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Member # 32672
Default  Posted: 4:38 PM, September 16th (Monday)

He obviously has not stepped it up at all...he's using the same deception tactics he used with me...apparently he has learned NOTHING!

I have to admit...a teensy part of me is stunned...and another teensy part of me was hoping that destroying our family for that whore would have been worth it because she really was the love of his life.

GUESS NOT!

I'm stuck in between pissed, laughing, shocked, and relieved that it wasn't my fault he cheated on me.


Me...40 and fabulous
WXH...just plain stupid
DS's...9,7 and 6
DDays that are too numerous to mention...but no longer have relevance.

Posts: 230 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Illinois Cornfields
tesla
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Default  Posted: 5:17 PM, September 16th (Monday)

Sheesh. That's just pathetic. But Owifey should have some idea that this could happen...*shrug*

Aren't ya glad he's someone else's problem?


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4683 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
newlysingle
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Member # 38735
Default  Posted: 5:37 PM, September 16th (Monday)

These losers just don't get it, do they? This is actually a fear if mine. While I loathe Hello Kitty, she's a known factor. She appears to be decent to my kids and they like her. I fear that the Gnat will cheat on her or she'll finally realize what a loser he is and dump him. He'll probably run out and find any new skank that is willing. I worry what that will be like for my kids.

So I guess I'm saying that I worry about your kids here. Poor things will have to deal with a new whore.


BW - Me (37)
XWH - (37) The Gnat
OW - Some dumb whore he picked up in another state and moved here here. Known as Hello Kitty.
M for 8 years, together for 10
1 DD (5), 1 DS (1 year)
Dday 3/13
Divorced 9/20/13

Posts: 918 | Registered: Mar 2013
Housefulloflove
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Default  Posted: 6:09 PM, September 16th (Monday)

Sounds about right. If they will cheat WITH you, they will cheat ON you.

Looks like "the Tramp" may be learning a hard lesson soon.


Me-29 Starting over
ExWH-29 Probable NPD, PA, manchild
3 beautiful young children
DDay 1/20/13 Admits PA
No remorse so NO R. DIVORCED! 9/2013

Posts: 541 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: USA
movingforward13
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Default  Posted: 9:18 PM, September 16th (Monday)

Does OWife know?


Once a cheater, always a cheater happens when your cheater doesn't have remorse.
Regret is not remorse- know the difference!

Posts: 640 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: DC
gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 9:22 PM, September 16th (Monday)

that human mattress he calls a wife


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


Posts: 8075 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Midwest
flygirl123
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Default  Posted: 9:50 PM, September 16th (Monday)

As far as I know...no...Wifetress does not know. I know they have the perfect recipe for him to start this crap again, though.

I debated on finding a way for her to find out or just sitting back and watching the train derail...

I opted for the latter.

They both have it coming. But...with that being said...I will keep a very close eye on my boys to do everything in my power to make sure they don't get trapped, once again, in the carnage of his shitty choices.


Me...40 and fabulous
WXH...just plain stupid
DS's...9,7 and 6
DDays that are too numerous to mention...but no longer have relevance.

Posts: 230 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Illinois Cornfields
Take2
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Default  Posted: 10:40 PM, September 16th (Monday)

I remember those feelings - when I learned the X had already cheated on OW with someone else even before Dday.

Pathetic but it really took the sting out of the blameshifting ploy.


"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us." Joseph Campbell...So, If fear was not a factor - what would you do?

Posts: 4129 | Registered: May 2009 | From: New England
AussieMum
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Default  Posted: 1:09 AM, September 17th (Tuesday)

I just love the term 'human mattress'

What a loser POS he is - especially cheating on his wifey while she takes care of the kids. Urgh!

Nah, they don't change their spots. I'm just waiting for STBX to start cheating on OW3 (also known as Fat Elvis - sorry if I offend Elvis fans....)because it WILL happen.

I'm sorry your kids are caught up in this crap


Me 46
ExH 51
EA Jun-Aug 12 (OW1)FB flirting and then EA/PA with OW2 (Aug-Dec 12). New OW Jan 13, introduced her to the kids immediately.
Married 10 years, together 14yrs
2 kids (DS11 & DD7)
Separated Jan 13. Divorced Jun 14

Posts: 180 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Australia
StruckNumb
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Default  Posted: 1:25 AM, September 17th (Tuesday)

I'm not surprised. I really wish all the men and women cheating scumbags would own up to their lack of boundaries and marry each other in the beginning and not wreck lives.


me-BW-51
f?WH - 49
m27 yrs, T 28, no kids
OW-WH's former CW, friends + 20yr
DDay-11/16/12, LT EA, 4y? PA, manymany
EA with FFriends over the years
Attempting R
Is there an end to blindness in sight?

Posts: 77 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: N.California
flygirl123
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Member # 32672
Default  Posted: 7:24 AM, September 18th (Wednesday)

After putting all of the pieces together...my shock has turned to total enjoyment.

I have watched her severe insecurity unfold...tattoos of each others names, her spying on my Facebook, the fighting. I know they are having financial struggles, they are both cheaters...complete recipe for disaster.

I think what kind of surprises me is that they have only been married for 7 months. It seems his newest affair started in the Spring...so...three months later?

I guess you really do reap what you sew?


Me...40 and fabulous
WXH...just plain stupid
DS's...9,7 and 6
DDays that are too numerous to mention...but no longer have relevance.

Posts: 230 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Illinois Cornfields
SBB
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Default  Posted: 9:30 AM, September 18th (Wednesday)

OMG. I can't believe it. A cheater... cheating??

Oh, wait...

Poor things will have to deal with a new whore.

This is so in my girls future. I'd rather he keep this whore so there is at least some consistency in their lives. As they say, "Better the whore you know than the whore you don't." She is a known entity. She is supremely stupid and almost as emotionally ugly as him but at least I know what I'm dealing with. I don't want to have to go through this all again, let alone out my kids through it again.

Alas his pattern appears to be finding "the one" every 2-5 years - right about the time he starts feeling 'unhappy'. Always the prior "the one"'s fault too, apparently. Our relationship only went as long as it did because he was gagging to have children.

When it does blow up I'm rooting for OWUmpteen to be the skanky strayer.


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5609 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
flygirl123
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Default  Posted: 2:05 PM, September 18th (Wednesday)

I hate to admit that I never even thought about another tramp being even more of a mess to deal with than the tramp that he is with now!

I've come to be "okay" with the mattress that is now my kids stepmother...but I never even gave it a thought about dealing with yet another woman in their lives.

How screwed up can you be to keep doing this shit over and over and over?

My poor boys. I hope and pray one day that they see him for who he really is and do not repeat the same shitty choices in their own lives.


Me...40 and fabulous
WXH...just plain stupid
DS's...9,7 and 6
DDays that are too numerous to mention...but no longer have relevance.

Posts: 230 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Illinois Cornfields
MyReturn2Me
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Member # 34352
Default  Posted: 2:15 PM, September 18th (Wednesday)

Cheaters cheat


Me: BS 51 and Freaking AWESOME!
Him: Who the fuck cares........

Posts: 259 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Puget Sound
TrustGone
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Default  Posted: 2:28 PM, September 18th (Wednesday)

Wow, that didn't take long did it. My XWH#1 drug my son through so many women it wasn't funny. They were there one day and gone the next it seemed. Luckily he didn't marry any of the toothless skanks he was seeing. I remember going to my son's baptism in a water trough at XWH#1's cowboy church. He had two of his skanks there that day with him. I guess they didn't think three was a crowd. Of course he always told my son they were "just friends", but I knew better. It was really quite amusing when his step-Mom, who had demetia, told me how pretty I was and that she thought I should hook up with her son. I just told her no thanks, I was married already to WH#2 and left it at that.

You can't control what he does or who he sees. Unfortunately it has a bad effect on the kids to be put through this over and over again. (((HUGS)))


BW-50
WH#2-51
M-9 yrs T-11 yrs
4 children-none together
DD#1-9/5/11 LTA 2yrs
DD#2-7/3/12 False R
DD#3-4/29/13 (OW broke NC)
Status: Your guess is as good as mine.

Posts: 2420 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Texas
sparkysable
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Default  Posted: 8:28 PM, September 18th (Wednesday)

Here's my take: they rode the high of "we're getting married and everything is wonderful" then after that, what's next? The letdown after the wedding, he's still the same person, those same broken thoughts come creeping in, gotta find the next high, skank pays attention to him and strokes his ego, still has the same tricks up his sleeve that he's always used, lather, rinse, repeat.


D-day OW#1 2/2004; R for 6 years; D-day OW#2 5/2010

Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.


Posts: 3400 | Registered: Mar 2004 | From: NY
flygirl123
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Default  Posted: 5:01 PM, September 23rd (Monday)

I think it was inevitable that this would happen...and since my boys came home this past weekend all upset because dad and ow-ho were fighting...it's obviously worse than I thought.


Me...40 and fabulous
WXH...just plain stupid
DS's...9,7 and 6
DDays that are too numerous to mention...but no longer have relevance.

Posts: 230 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Illinois Cornfields
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