My advice is keep doing the right thing.
When we first started this process, I felt like I needed my bs to SEE all I was doing, how much I had changed, all the hard work I was putting in.
Eventually I stopped having that need. I came to a point that I was doing the work for myself, and that I would continue doing it regardless of what happened between us.
When I stopped "needing" him to see it, is when he began to notice.
Keep going. Heal for yourself.
FWS me 36 (recovering addict)
BS him 39
Together 7 years
"Your secrets keep you sick"