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Helen of Troy
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Suspicious  Posted: 12:42 PM, September 17th (Tuesday)

Seriously! I want to quit my job, quit school and go on public assistance. I'd have the same amount of money and health insurance including dental which my teens and I don't have now. Anxiety and stress level would decrease by A LOT!
Tired of this bullshit.
It's too damn hard.
I want to quit EVERYTHING.
This path seems impossible and the standards unattainable.

When you're an outlier very few people understand.
Even fewer are WILLING to understand.



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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 12:44 PM, September 17th (Tuesday)

((((will get by)))) Sending you strength, honey.


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Crescita
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Default  Posted: 12:52 PM, September 17th (Tuesday)

Wgb, I know the feeling. Sometimes you just have to keep pressing ahead and have faith that the way you are going will payoff in the end.

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click4it
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Default  Posted: 12:56 PM, September 17th (Tuesday)

Please don't give up.

As a matter of fact, I don't think there is anything wrong with quitting your job and staying in school while receiving cash aid & food stamps. We actually encourage our clients to do this for the short term so they can finish school faster and then get the higher paying job where they won't need aid anymore.

So, while you are stressed, just remember you can give one thing up, and that's ok.

Sorry you are feeling so stressed out. ((((((hugs)))))))


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d-day 10-02-01

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9.10.11
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Default  Posted: 1:26 PM, September 17th (Tuesday)

So sorry your in this "place" in your life right now, WGB. But I'm not going to sugar coat it.

So what would that teach yourself and your kids? Do quitters ever win? Don't you want to show your kids, family, friends, and yourself that you are stronger than any of the BS that has been put on you? Yes, it is/can be very hard, anything good takes work and dedication.

Your not alone in what your feeling. Think what your kids are going through. You MUST become a leader and a role model, and we all know you can do it. Take a few minutes to gather yourself when you feel like this then hit every challenge head on. Stay strong, your kids are depending on you.

Hang in there.


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NaiveAgain
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Default  Posted: 5:01 PM, September 17th (Tuesday)

I agree with click. Sometimes you truly are just spinning your wheels, and if you're overstressed and your grades are suffering, that isn't what is best in the long run. School needs to come first so you can get the better job (at least something that will pay a living wage) and support your family.

(((will get by)))
Hang in there. Only you know what is right for you, but don't feel bad about doing what you need to do, and I'm sorry, but dental health IS VERY IMPORTANT and if that is what it takes to get their dental needs taken care of, then I am good with it. Dental problems can cause other problems in the body so regular check-ups and cleanings are important.

[This message edited by NaiveAgain at 5:02 PM, September 17th (Tuesday)]


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New WS (2 EA's, no PA) 12-3-13
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caregiver9000
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Default  Posted: 8:09 PM, September 17th (Tuesday)

I understand.

I hope you feel better for having vented it.

You know that if you REALLY wanted to give up, that is what you would do, not come here hoping for understanding or chastisement.

Do what you need to do. No fighting or anguish. Look at the big picture, do the right thing for now and do the right thing for later, later.

You are smart and strong and I trust you to do what needs doing.


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S 5/2010
D 12/2012

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shiloe
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Default  Posted: 10:30 AM, September 18th (Wednesday)

I too understand that feeling.

Sometimes I just want to run away from home

I just finished a college program where when I get my license can do travel jobs, anywhere in the US. Recruiters find you a job, they find you housing, there is med. insurance, travel reimbursement and each gig usually lasts 3 months. I was thinking of going to Alaska

But I can't run away. (not right now anyway) My kids need me,(and my elderly Mom) I think of them first, plus running away won't make the pain go away, just time will.


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Cheater -54
Married 26 yrs
DD - 21 DD -19 DS-17
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ray-ray
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Default  Posted: 5:22 PM, September 18th (Wednesday)

((((wgb))))


So many roads

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