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Melody3
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Default  Posted: 9:18 PM, September 18th (Wednesday)

I've been a single mom since the day he left 3 years ago. Now w/ the divorce looming I will really be single. I haven't worn my ring in 3 years but still some part of me does feel married. How do you break free from those feelings and start again? BTW, I have no time for myself and I realize that because I have 2 young kids and not a lot of help. I put that as my 1st job and the job that pays the bills my 2nd. I don't know how to wrap around my head of being officially single. Obivously, he had no problem with that.......ugh.


BS (me): 38
WH: 38
Separated: 9/2/2010
DDay: 10/2010 PA with OW. Married 13 yrs, Together 20
Two kids, 8 (daughter) & 4(son)
Divorced 12/2013
OW moves 10 min's away from kids and I with my Ex. 6/2014.

Posts: 788 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Midwest
MovingUpward
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Member # 14866
Default  Posted: 8:15 AM, September 19th (Thursday)

He has no problem with it because he left you with the responsibilities of raising kids. I think that as the kids get older and you start to find time the feeling of being single will emerge, but personally I think it still feels much different than before I had gotten married and had kids. For like you, my kids are my #1 job.


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