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windblown
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Default  Posted: 6:06 PM, September 19th (Thursday)

I am trying so hard right now not to get in my car and verify where my H is. It seems all week he had been up to something . Tonight he texts me to see if I want to do something. I saw the text am hour after sent and texted back that sounded fine but we would have to take our younger ones with us. He texted me back saying he forgot about that. One hour later he says forget about it then. After that, another hour later I get a text saying he has to stay late at work to do some computer stuff! Wtf! Now he has to stay late? And it took him a whole hour to tell to forget about tonite? I feel like he just went ahead and set something else up and pretends to be at work .

I have find my iPhone but when he is at work or certain places he frequents like the store when he goes in his location stays fixed. I experimented today and sent my iPhone with a friend to the store and when I tracked it I could pretty much always see what part of the store she was in. I think somehow my husband must have an app to fix his location regardless uf he is in that place or not. I don't know. I get so paranoid about this and I feel like he is getting a thrill with playing cat and mouse with me.

Anyway if I left to check , my kids would get worried and I'm in the middle of work . It really is not good for me to go check it out but it is driving me nuts. It will make me behind in work etc.
So I'm coming here because you all know what it feels like to want to hunt them down to see if they're lying.
Had 2 other incidents this week that just make it worse. Started counseling today though and she said I am not doing good and experiencing a lot of trauma and is worried for me. Specializes in trauma , affairs, and is csat for addicts and spouses of. Hope that will be another lifeline for me to keep my head above water so to speak.


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Rebreather
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Default  Posted: 6:09 PM, September 19th (Thursday)

Do you perhaps have a trusted friend that could do a drive by on your behalf?

Hang in there, I know it is scary as hell.


Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Recovering.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi

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Morhurt
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Default  Posted: 6:13 PM, September 19th (Thursday)

It is so hard! I have a different app (that sucks) and the location is always off or shows no movement. I'm positive H is where he says he is but the stupid app shows him somewhere else.
For me, it's best not to look at it. I don't *trust him, but his actions tell me that he is behaving in a trustworthy manor.

Is your WS? I think that's more reliable than a device.


Me: BS
Him: FWS
M: 15 years
4 lovely daughters
Working to rebuild.

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windblown
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Default  Posted: 1:32 PM, September 23rd (Monday)

I wasn't able to get back on and post until today . I really don't have anyone to go check for me. I don't trust the technology 100% . I can't trust him either. He has a history of being where he says he will be but he will be with someone that of course he has not mentioned .

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emotionalgirl
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Default  Posted: 8:07 PM, September 23rd (Monday)

Hi ladies if you are really concerned and can get ahold of their phones you can purchase a program called easy spy from the web. It is excellent. Gives you copy text messages, search histories, GPS tracking and you can activate their phone as a speaker. All of the programming runs silently and secretly totally undetectable and easy to install.

My WH had EA and he is tech savvy enough to turn off find my phone, this is how I caught him and how I have kept up with checking.

Good luck.


1st D day: Saturday July 20,2013
2nd D day....when the s**t really hit the fan and the truth came out.Saturday August 3,2013
3rd D day: Friday August 16, 2013...NC sent Friday Aug 30 4th D day NOV 11
Me: BS
Him: WH
Married 25 years....finally in R

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Gr8Lady
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Default  Posted: 8:13 PM, September 23rd (Monday)

Can't the location be turned off on iPhone? I'm not tech savy, but thought it could.


BS: Me (63yo)
FWH: HIM (65yo) serial infidelities over past 35 years
OW: Many, most recent 1/2 his age
DD: Multiple unconfirmed until 2012 when I presented evidence, plus LTA with his friends wife lasting 10 years. TT over past year
So done,

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emotionalgirl
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Default  Posted: 11:07 PM, September 23rd (Monday)

Yes the location can be turned off on iPhone, they just have to turn off iCloud. The program I mentioned can not be turned off.


1st D day: Saturday July 20,2013
2nd D day....when the s**t really hit the fan and the truth came out.Saturday August 3,2013
3rd D day: Friday August 16, 2013...NC sent Friday Aug 30 4th D day NOV 11
Me: BS
Him: WH
Married 25 years....finally in R

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windblown
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Default  Posted: 4:02 PM, September 24th (Tuesday)

Emotional girl, thank you for the info! My husband doesn't turn off find my iPhone usually because I freak out and will start calling him. I think he has found a way to either trick it or he is leaving his phone in the location he says he is in and forwarding his number to a secret cell phone which may be the more likely scenario.

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