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User Topic: Most epic goodbye. ever.
homewrecked2011
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Default  Posted: 9:29 AM, September 20th (Friday)

Since this forum is for divorce/separation, I wanted to let all of you in on the most epic separation. I am hoping someone looking for separation advice will see this... It is posted by Karmita on the General forum. The heading is: Update on he doesn't know that I know.

I am hoping that anyone considering separation reads her post first. Her sister helped her hold it all together until she had all the evidence she needed.

Enjoy!


Keep Calm and Happy On!

me BS 52
him - 46
married 15 years DIVORCED 10 31 12
children - ds15 ds12
d-day 12-19-11
I gave a 24hour ultimatum then went to attorney next day
Divorce filed


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thenon-goddess
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Default  Posted: 12:08 PM, September 20th (Friday)

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[This message edited by thenon-goddess at 12:54 PM, September 22nd (Sunday)]


Status: divorcing - I can see the light at the end of the tunnel!

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SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 12:40 PM, September 20th (Friday)

Yesh, thenon-goddess, I agree. I have been sucked in before. I did give her a hug, though, just in case.


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


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sparkysable
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Default  Posted: 12:56 PM, September 20th (Friday)

I didn't think it was that unbelievably epic.

Am I that naive?

[This message edited by sparkysable at 12:56 PM, September 20th (Friday)]


D-day OW#1 2/2004; R for 6 years; D-day OW#2 5/2010

Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.


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SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 1:00 PM, September 20th (Friday)

IDK, sparky, but shopping in a sex store with the OW and buying a huge butt plug is pretty amazing.

And, then the day of the big party, smearing shit on the butt plug? I guess it could be considered epic.


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 9851 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
homewrecked2011
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Default  Posted: 1:06 PM, September 20th (Friday)

I thought it was epic because the man walks into an empty apt with pages of messages - evidence of the affair.

Plus, she was able to keep her wits about her while with the ow...something I was not able to do once I found out...

The non-goddess might be right, however....


Keep Calm and Happy On!

me BS 52
him - 46
married 15 years DIVORCED 10 31 12
children - ds15 ds12
d-day 12-19-11
I gave a 24hour ultimatum then went to attorney next day
Divorce filed


Posts: 2256 | Registered: Jan 2012
thenon-goddess
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Default  Posted: 2:24 PM, September 20th (Friday)

I didn't think it was that unbelievably epic.
Am I that naive?

Yeah, the butt plug shopping with the OW was what put it into epic territory for me! I tend to be skeptical because I have been burned several times on message boards (I belonged to a lot of pregnancy/childbirth/toddler boards when I was younger), but who knows - I'm sure stranger/more epic things have happened!


Status: divorcing - I can see the light at the end of the tunnel!

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HeartStings
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Default  Posted: 4:54 PM, September 20th (Friday)

Sounds a little contrived to me (and juvenile), but maybe I'm skeptical about everything these days.

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mchercheur
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Default  Posted: 7:55 PM, September 20th (Friday)

I would love to believe that story too--------but nothing has made me laugh so hard as that thread, in a long while.


together 25 yrs, married 24 yrs, 4 children;Rebuilding
D Day: 5/10/2011 PA
OW: WH's co-worker,divorced, no children, 20 yrs younger than I-----& she knew he was married, had met our kids, but that did not stop her from trying to destroy our family

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sparkysable
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Default  Posted: 7:36 AM, September 22nd (Sunday)

I will agree with all of you...keeping the secret, moving all of his shit out, putting up a sign and balloons so he thought he was walking into his own surprise party...I could see that. I kept a the secret and collected evidence for 3 weeks, put all his shit into a storage unit and changed the locks, so that part I could see.

The shopping at the sex shop with OW...yeah, I could see that being a bit over the top. She had me until that point. Maybe it really happened, maybe it didn't. I'm pretty skeptical.

However, that thread had me laughing.


D-day OW#1 2/2004; R for 6 years; D-day OW#2 5/2010

Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.


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PricklePatch
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Default  Posted: 7:50 AM, September 22nd (Sunday)

My post won't be epic, but it is how I feel. I personally feel this thread has become sad and unfortunate. If this were my story, I would never post here again. I would see the lack of belief and just disappear. I ask for a safe place to come for support and this is what I get. I realize I am not one of the frequent posters, I have a hard time writing and this is forum just became less safe for me. I find this thread incredibly sad.

[This message edited by PricklePatch at 7:52 AM, September 22nd (Sunday)]


BS
Fwh
sorry post on my tablet

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Deeply Scared
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Red  Posted: 8:50 AM, September 22nd (Sunday)

homewrecked2011...

Starting a thread to single out a brand new member is very rude and hurtful.

I can only imagine how I would feel if I were pointed out and doubted on a site that was built for support.

The next time you have questions about a members authenticity, please come to a moderator instead.

Thank you.

[This message edited by SI Staff at 8:56 AM, September 22nd (Sunday)]


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


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thenon-goddess
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Default  Posted: 12:53 PM, September 22nd (Sunday)

I apologize, I was the first one to express my doubt. I will edit my post accordingly -


Status: divorcing - I can see the light at the end of the tunnel!

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