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StillLivin
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Member # 40229
Default  Posted: 10:40 AM, September 20th (Friday)

Ok SI family. I'm feeling pretty down today.
Can some of you please post more Karma and how long it took.
Would really cheer me up.
I know, it's a sad state of affairs that I need to hear someone else's, OW/OM's, misery to cheer up. It is what it is!

[This message edited by StillLivin at 11:20 AM, September 20th (Friday)]


I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is. I already have plenty, thanks very much. -SBB
D: 7/2/2014

Posts: 2263 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: AZ
hopeandchange
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Member # 33287
Default  Posted: 12:08 PM, September 20th (Friday)

Is am so sorry. It took me 18 months to emerge from the depression while trying to R with an uncommitted WW. Each successive month has been much better!

Good luck

H&C


BH (me, 50)
WS (her, 48)
Divorced!
3 wonderful teens
Heading for Happiness

Posts: 405 | Registered: Sep 2011
MovingUpward
Guide
Member # 14866
Default  Posted: 12:08 PM, September 20th (Friday)

I have no karma stories as my XWW has yet to be hit. I will tell you that it doesn't matter to me anymore. I am happier now then ever so I guess I can say that I've been met by the Good Karma ice cream truck


(((hugs)))


AKA Moo

Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.


Posts: 52327 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Big Blue Nation
Jrazz
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Member # 31349
Default  Posted: 12:21 PM, September 20th (Friday)

(((StillLivin)))


If life is just a series of ridiculous attempts to be alive, you're a hero. - J. Winger

Posts: 17569 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
ninebark
Member
Member # 24534
Default  Posted: 12:26 PM, September 20th (Friday)

You know what, it gets better. You will get past this, you will feel the sun again and you will be happy.

It took me two years to decide to separate, and it has been two years since and I am finally feeling happy.

I do things for myself, I have a great son, a great dog adn a great BF. I wake up happy, I go to bed happy.

Time heals all and soon they will be just another annoying blip on the radar.

Go do something nice just for you!!


BS (me) 40
WH - 48
Married 12 years
DS - 12
D-day 06/21/09
Separated....hopefully divorcing soon.

Posts: 630 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Canada
h0peless
Member
Member # 36697
Default  Posted: 12:40 PM, September 20th (Friday)

Mine supported the POSER for a few months after he lost his job... I don't know what either of them are up to now. They are fuckups and have no place in my life.

Posts: 1694 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Baja Arizona
5454real
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Member # 37455
Default  Posted: 12:54 PM, September 20th (Friday)

Well, I won primary custody, she had to pay me child support for 14 years. She had a rather expensive lifestyle to maintain. She was a semi-diagnosed Borderline personality. Could have been NPD. There were characteristics of both.

Anyway, after the D, she went through a series of jobs. I couldn't figure it out since I had helped pay for her CPA. She should have had it made. Turns out she was one step ahead of the law. In order to finance her continuing lifestyle and pay her child support, she had taken to embezzling from her employers. None prosecuted until she took a government job. Then she was caught red-handed, prosecuted and convicted of embezzlement.

No jail time(thankful, saved my son at least some embarrassment anyway). Also, wasn't until after she had finished paying me child support.

Honestly though, it gave me no satisfaction. If anything, I felt sorry for my son.


BH 51, WW 42
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 20(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
“I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.”
― Sophocles, Antigone

Posts: 2872 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: midwest
Pass
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Member # 38122
Default  Posted: 2:54 PM, September 20th (Friday)

Hey StillLivin,

I have nothing, but am enjoying the fact that The Princess is in a meaningless relationship with a loser. She says it means nothing, but she's never had a casual relationship in her life. So she'll probably end up marrying this idiot.

Where's the karma? She had a really good husband and threw me away; now she will be stuck in all these sub-par relationships for the rest of her life - you know, guys who aren't as fucking awesome as I am!


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous


Posts: 1991 | Registered: Jan 2013
jo2love
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Member # 31528
Default  Posted: 3:17 PM, September 20th (Friday)

(((StillLivin)))

Posts: 35411 | Registered: Mar 2011
caregiver9000
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Member # 28622
Default  Posted: 3:56 PM, September 20th (Friday)

This might not be the kind of karma you were looking for...

But his karma is I no longer care how great or how terrible his life is. I have seen "evidence" that he is happy and content. I have facts that would seem to indicate his life is going to hell.

But I don't care or spend too much time thinking about it either way. I AM glad that either way, I don't have to share the experience with him or fix whatever he has fucked up.

His karma? I don't care, won't "bite" on his dangled details, don't give him any attention or concern or conversation or fix it for him.

I am sorry you are depressed. It gets better. I promise, IT GETS BETTER.

(((hugs)))


Me: 44, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

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