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newlysingle
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Member # 38735
Default  Posted: 9:53 PM, September 20th (Friday)

My attorney contacted me today to say that my divorce has been signed off on by the judge. The Gnat is officially ex-Gnat. I don't really feel anything at all. I thought that I might feel a little sad, but I really don't. I met some friends for dinner this evening and we had a toast to my new beginning. Other than that, we just talked about all kinds of other things. It was nice to not have my relationship drama be the focus of my girlfriend time any longer.

I fear that I will probably still have some low points, but I feel like I'm ready for my new beginning.

Oh, and the Gnat picked up the kids tonight for his weekend with them and I didn't tell him. He will be notified via snail mail next week. I figured that I won't give him and Hello Kitty anything to celebrate this weekend.


BW - Me (37)
XWH - (37) The Gnat
OW - Some dumb whore he picked up in another state and moved here here. Known as Hello Kitty.
M for 8 years, together for 10
1 DD (5), 1 DS (1 year)
Dday 3/13
Divorced 9/20/13

Posts: 897 | Registered: Mar 2013
kg201
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Member # 40173
Default  Posted: 10:03 PM, September 20th (Friday)

Congrats newlysingle! It sounds like you are in a good place. Sounds like a good evening.

Still love that you call her Hello Kitty.


Me: BH, 39
Her: WW, 40
Together 18 years, married 15+
LTA 3.5 years, ongoing
Dday: 7/28/13
Divorcing, 3 children
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"There can be no friendship without confidence, and no confidence without integrity." -S

Posts: 698 | Registered: Aug 2013
newlysingle
Member
Member # 38735
Default  Posted: 10:13 PM, September 20th (Friday)

Thanks kg201! I 'm so grateful to this site and all the support I've received. This road would have been so much rougher without it.

Yes, Hello Kitty. You really can't not call her that when a woman in her 30's wears Hello Kitty clothing. She's a winner.


BW - Me (37)
XWH - (37) The Gnat
OW - Some dumb whore he picked up in another state and moved here here. Known as Hello Kitty.
M for 8 years, together for 10
1 DD (5), 1 DS (1 year)
Dday 3/13
Divorced 9/20/13

Posts: 897 | Registered: Mar 2013
kg201
Member
Member # 40173
Default  Posted: 10:28 PM, September 20th (Friday)

Get out! She does not wear the clothing. Is she like a Japanese teenager trapped in a 30-year old's body?

As I said on a previous post I need to come up with a better name for my WW's AP. He's an attorney that is much older than my wife. I was thinking of going with the daddy theme. Maybe Daddy Warbucks or Mr. Magoo.


Me: BH, 39
Her: WW, 40
Together 18 years, married 15+
LTA 3.5 years, ongoing
Dday: 7/28/13
Divorcing, 3 children
---------------------------------
"There can be no friendship without confidence, and no confidence without integrity." -S

Posts: 698 | Registered: Aug 2013
newlysingle
Member
Member # 38735
Default  Posted: 10:45 PM, September 20th (Friday)

Yes, she wore a Hello Kitty shirt the first time she met my DD. I thought at first that she was just trying to impress my 5 year old, but I have since found out through DD that Hello Kitty LOVES Hello Kitty and has all kinds of clothing, trinkets, etc. The Gnat even bought her a Hello Kitty bouquet, LOL! If you knew the Gnat, you would know how ridiculous that was and how low his standards have become. I've realized that she is emotionally and developmentally about the same age as my DD. My DD will actually outgrow her in a couple of years.

I love Daddy Warbucks! I so think you should go with that. You could even call WW Orphan Annie.


BW - Me (37)
XWH - (37) The Gnat
OW - Some dumb whore he picked up in another state and moved here here. Known as Hello Kitty.
M for 8 years, together for 10
1 DD (5), 1 DS (1 year)
Dday 3/13
Divorced 9/20/13

Posts: 897 | Registered: Mar 2013
PurpleRose
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Member # 33129
Default  Posted: 10:49 PM, September 20th (Friday)

Congrats newlysingle!

I am glad you had some girl time to celebrate and toast to your NB!


divorced the Dooosh
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even if you find your voice,
sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.
~dodinsky

Posts: 3585 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: Happyville
dmari
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Member # 37215
Default  Posted: 11:12 PM, September 20th (Friday)

CoNgRaTuLaTiOnS!!! Enjoy your evening and your official new beginning!!


Me (BS): 42 Children: DD 19, DS 15
Settled at mediation
Officially divorced ... SOON!

Posts: 2199 | Registered: Oct 2012
mchercheur
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Member # 37735
Default  Posted: 11:40 AM, September 21st (Saturday)

Congratulations (((newlysingle)))


together 25 yrs, married 24 yrs, 4 children;Rebuilding
D Day: 5/10/2011 PA
OW: WH's co-worker,divorced, no children, 20 yrs younger than I-----& she knew he was married, had met our kids, but that did not stop her from trying to destroy our family

Posts: 1391 | Registered: Dec 2012
HurtsButImOK
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Member # 38865
Default  Posted: 2:14 PM, September 21st (Saturday)

Congrats and condolences.

Still waiting for mine to be formal. I expect to be euphoric then maybe a little down as I process the finality.

(((Hugs)))


Me: Awesome - 35

"I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel". –Maya Angelou

"When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be". –


Posts: 729 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Australia
Ann124
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Default  Posted: 7:15 AM, September 22nd (Sunday)

Congrats!!!

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