User Topic: Antiversary flowers from my son
Member # 38660
Default  Posted: 9:08 AM, September 21st (Saturday)

So it was 1 year DDay antiversary this week and I've been dealing with all that that entails. I think I've held up rather well, considering.

Then my amazing son, 20, brings me home a beautiful bouquet of flowers. He hands them to me and looks at me deeply in the eyes and tells me he loves me and hugs me so tight.

Part of me cannot believe he remembered, part of me is sure he will never forget. The OW and my son attended the same college. She outed herself and the A to him. She walked right up to him on campus and told him that she was my Hs girlfriend, among other things. Of course he was devastated.

When he gave me the flowers I had to go outside...I just wept, kind of hysterically. I'll never forgive the OW or my H for putting my son in that position, to making him a pawn in their wretched A. I hate that this is part of our history now. But I know this...I have the most amazing son, who will forever be quietly at my side. Despite all the devastation - I am truly blessed.

Hope you don't mind me sharing this will all of you.

"Never, never, never give up." - Winston Churchill

Posts: 138 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: Pennsylvania
Member # 30826
Default  Posted: 9:17 AM, September 21st (Saturday)

Your son sounds like a kind,compassionate, thoughtful young man. A son any mother would be proud to call her own.

(((((noprincess and DS)))))

FWH 45
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: Reconciling?

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.

Posts: 7696 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Indiana
Member # 24938
Default  Posted: 9:38 AM, September 21st (Saturday)

You have raised an amazing young man!
So compassionate and kind.

You must be so proud of him.

It is a shame that your children were dragged through this mess too.
(My DD and DS were both in their early 20's when they found out about the LTA so I know how that goes).

But, it sounds as if he came out of it OK and will be a source of support for you.

Me- BS
Him- WH
Long term marriage
D-day- Jan. 2007
5 yr. LTA

Posts: 3163 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: NJ
Member # 26210
Default  Posted: 10:47 AM, September 21st (Saturday)

My eyes are misting up as read your post. You have raised a compassionate and understanding son. Don't think of the flowers as antiversarry flowers, but as my son loves and cares for me flowers. Now the tears are fall down my cheeks.

BS:53/FWS:59(LCFBastard)/M:33 Years
DDay: 25Sep09:Online Porn;2Oct09:Emails/PA w/Escorts 6 times from Apr 03-Sep 09.In IC/MC/R.
This is my quest,No matter how hopeless, no matter how far.To be willing to march into HELL for a HEAVENLY cause.

Posts: 281 | Registered: Nov 2009 | From: CO
Member # 39570
Default  Posted: 10:50 AM, September 21st (Saturday)

Wow, I would have cried too! You have raised a very thoughtful and compassionate young man. (((hugs)))

Me: BS, Him: WH, 3 kids
8/08: EA with former neighbor
1/13: EA/Sexting with Coworker #1
6/13: Sexting with Coworker #2

Posts: 116 | Registered: Jun 2013
Member # 34353
Default  Posted: 12:18 PM, September 21st (Saturday)

I love your son. What a wonderful young man

Me: BS
Him: WS
Married since 1985
Parents to 2 adult sons and 3 of the cutest cats you have ever seen
D-day 8/6/11 Truth about ONS and 9/21/11 Truth about EA
Trying to reconcile

Posts: 1647 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: midwest now.
Member # 37154
Default  Posted: 12:26 PM, September 21st (Saturday)

You should be very proud.

Dday -9/24/2012

Posts: 1763 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: northeast
Member # 22870
Default  Posted: 12:53 PM, September 21st (Saturday)

I love that gesture. Your son rocks.

You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7772 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
Member # 31528
Default  Posted: 1:24 PM, September 21st (Saturday)

(((noprincess & son)))

I'm sorry you and son are going through this. He sounds like a wonderful, caring young man.

Posts: 35927 | Registered: Mar 2011
Member # 40505
Default  Posted: 5:29 PM, September 21st (Saturday)

Oh wow. What a gentleman. Well done on raising a star.

Posts: 63 | Registered: Aug 2013
Member # 40393
Default  Posted: 6:37 PM, September 21st (Saturday)

Brought tears to my eyes. You have an amazing son to be proud of

Me: 50
WH: 50 pro cake-eater, NPD, SA
Married 33 years
D-Days 3-4-12, 8-19-12 (EA, probably PA)porn,ashleymadison, etc, etc
4 sons, 3 daughters
8 grandkids
Divorcing - finally

Posts: 120 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Utah
Member # 39682
Default  Posted: 6:39 PM, September 21st (Saturday)

What an amazing young man. I hope I can raise my son to be that caring.

Me-BS Him-WH DS 5/12
Met 2000, Married 2004
DDay 5/26/13, TT through 8/13
2.5 yr EA w/co-worker, PA 12/12 to 4/13
Hopeful for R

Posts: 875 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: MA
Member # 33867
Default  Posted: 6:55 PM, September 21st (Saturday)

You have an amazing son, you should be so proud. I want to hug him.

I am so sorry for the devastation that the A brought into your son's life. I can completely understand. My 20 yr old learned of my WH A before I did and was instructed to hide that dirty little secret. He struggles with that but fortunately IC helped.

Stories about such thoughtful, sweet children make me smile. Thanks for sharing. You obviously did a wonderful job parenting this young man.

Glad you held up well on that understandably difficult day.

ME: 54 BS
HIM: 61 WH
Married: 28 years
D'Day: 10/29/10
in R 4 years and it's working but he is putting 200% into it (as he should) to make it right again.

The truth hurts, but I have never seen it cause the pain that lies do.

Posts: 2123 | Registered: Nov 2011
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