User Topic: Had to laugh so I wouldn't cry
Member # 40115
Default  Posted: 3:23 PM, September 21st (Saturday)

Received this from the OW, my XBFF on FB

"I am sorry to bother you. I just wanted to let you know that I was out with my mother and sister tonight. Apparently Mom had seen something on your Facebook page about you and STBXH divorcing. She and (sister) were asking me questions etc. I told them very little. I just felt that I should let you know in case my mom sends you a note or anything you wouldn't be surprised. I hope you are ok. If for any reason you need anything let me know."

Gee. Guess she didn't want to fess up to being a homewrecker. Some people just don't get it.

Edited to correct stupid typos.

Two steps forward and one step backwards, is still progress.

Posts: 1861 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Illinois, USA
Member # 18622
Default  Posted: 3:37 PM, September 21st (Saturday)

Ugh! The nerve of her to try to forewarn you. Too bad she didn't care enough about you to keep her hands off your husband. Sorry you had to deal with that. I don't think my advice will be considered constructive by the majority, but if her mom or any member of her family for that matter, contacts you out of concern, I would tell them EXACTLY why you are divorcing. You don't have to give the gory, smutty details, but you should certainly let them know that it's because your "best friend" had a sexual affair with your husband.

There's a difference between giving up and knowing when you've had enough.

Posts: 558 | Registered: Mar 2008 | From: Somewhere Over The Rainbow
Member # 40115
Default  Posted: 3:42 PM, September 21st (Saturday)

Thanks Chicky. Soon after D-Day I seriously considered contacting her family to out the A, but decided it wasn't worth my time. I think her heads-up was more a subtle plea for me not to tell them about her part in things if they do contact me. But I agree with you. If asked, I will tell the truth. I did nothing to be ashamed of!

Edited to correct stupid typos.

Two steps forward and one step backwards, is still progress.

Posts: 1861 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Illinois, USA
Member # 40605
Default  Posted: 4:05 PM, September 21st (Saturday)

I would also read it as her forewarning you so you wouldn't be surprised into outing her. Leave the lying to her. Tell the truth and hold your head high. You are not at fault here, how dare she try to make you(even subtly) a party to her deceit!

Me: BS, 43
Him: WH, 44
Together 21 years
Married 14 years
Kiddos 2,6,8,10
Dday#1 2004, 3 years after EA/PA co-worker MOW
Dday#2 8-6-13, 13 months EA/9months PA with co-worker MOW - caught not confessed
Rugsweep now, pay later. Ask me how I know.

Posts: 512 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Midwest
Member # 40505
Default  Posted: 5:11 PM, September 21st (Saturday)

Ha! Totally agree with the others. Is she basically asking you to lie for her? How the tables have turned.

Posts: 63 | Registered: Aug 2013
Member # 35812
Default  Posted: 6:11 PM, September 21st (Saturday)

Well, color me a bitch, but I think that this was a sign from above that I had neglected to touch base with the ho''s mom & sister. Rather kind of her to remind me that I hadn''t talked to them in some time, don''t you know...

Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012

Posts: 4935 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 6:37 PM, September 21st (Saturday)

((((Gemini)))) Not sure of your state of NC with OW, but it seems like there are several doors open on FB that are allowing her visibility into your life (via her mother seeing your wall) and giving her the ability to message you.

For your own mental health, consider shutting those doors and deadbolting them.

You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana

Posts: 25744 | Registered: Aug 2011
Member # 23987
Default  Posted: 4:34 AM, September 22nd (Sunday)

This is too easy. Tell her that you did hear from her mom and her mom apologized for her daughter being a home wrecking whore. Then just let her sort that out with her mom.

Posts: 843 | Registered: May 2009
Member # 35229
Default  Posted: 8:37 AM, September 22nd (Sunday)

Crickets and what NIK said. Block the lot of them - no more windows into your life.

What a POS. I'm so sorry hun.

I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5609 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
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