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cuppacoffee
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Default  Posted: 11:53 AM, September 23rd (Monday)

The husband is unemployed and has been for 4 weeks now.

Today he comes up with a brilliant (in his mind!) idea.

he's going to become a male escort.

He said he knows some people he knows would buy his services.

What the hell!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!??!


I am beyond pissed and hurt.

Who says that?


What dumb things have you heard lately?


I'm like a vacuum bag
That holds all that old dirt
Remember that time we said we'd be together forever?
Don't hate me, don't regret me, don't ever forget me
Wherever you go, whatever you do, don't say I never loved you

Posts: 360 | Registered: May 2013
sad34
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Member # 40358
Default  Posted: 12:04 PM, September 23rd (Monday)

That's just horrible!! Is he on anti depressants? I have no words:0


Bs: me 32 WH: 36
Dday: July 2012
LTA: 4years (ea, pa)
Dd-4. Ds-2
My life is shattered unsure about R

Posts: 139 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: canada
HurtsButImOK
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Member # 38865
Default  Posted: 12:10 PM, September 23rd (Monday)

that is all kinds of messed up, sorry you had to hear that cuppacoffee.


Me: Awesome - 35

"I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel". –Maya Angelou

"When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be". –


Posts: 722 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Australia
Lalagirl
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Default  Posted: 1:16 PM, September 23rd (Monday)


Whaaaaat?

No words. I, for probably the first time on SI, am rendered speechless.

(((((HUGS))))) to you.


Me - 49; FWH - 51
Married 30 years 9/2/13
2 grown daughters-30 & 27
5yo GS & 20 mo. GD & GB #4 due 8/15(DD30) and 2.5 yo GD(DD27). D-day #1 - 1/06; D-day #2 - 3/07
Reconciled! Construction Complete.

Posts: 5027 | Registered: May 2007
brokendancer7
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Member # 39911
Default  Posted: 1:50 PM, September 23rd (Monday)

WTF? Just when you think you've heard it all... You are a strong woman to not completely lose it after hearing that.


Me: BS - 58
Him: WS - 56
Married 34 yrs

Latest DD - April 2013, PA


Posts: 188 | Registered: Jul 2013
confused615
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Member # 30826
Default  Posted: 1:50 PM, September 23rd (Monday)

Well bless his poor stupid heart.


BS(me)41
FWH 45
4 kids..21,20,11,9
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: Happily Reconciled.

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


Posts: 7310 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Indiana
cuppacoffee
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Member # 39313
Default  Posted: 1:51 PM, September 23rd (Monday)

It's like we are doing so good and then he does something stupid or says something stupid.

The worst is that "it was just a joke." and because i'm too sensitive it's my fault.

god i'm a stupid woman for staying with him aren't i?


I'm like a vacuum bag
That holds all that old dirt
Remember that time we said we'd be together forever?
Don't hate me, don't regret me, don't ever forget me
Wherever you go, whatever you do, don't say I never loved you

Posts: 360 | Registered: May 2013
StillStanding1
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Member # 40144
Default  Posted: 1:56 PM, September 23rd (Monday)

takes my breath away... wow.

Really? A "joke"?

This is funny?

I had to actually add a bullet point to my list of "needs" for my WH... Only one bullet point of what I DON'T need: Any jokes or references to sex with other women.

Honestly, I really needed to spell that one out for him? Could he honestly be that dense? On a positive note, at least he stopped. Haven't heard one since....

My heart goes out to you.


Me: 40s BS, Him: 40s WH
M 21 yrs - 3 teens
LTA = 2+ yrs, Dday = 2/10/13, he moved out, he officially moved back in 1/25/14 and our work continues...

Posts: 656 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: MidWest
Dagny07
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Default  Posted: 2:02 PM, September 23rd (Monday)

Don't worry about the women. "Male escort" could also mean he plans on an all-male clientele.

You might want to clarify this with him


Me:BW Him: FWH E/A
M: 29 years, together 36 : both guilty of PAs 20+ years ago
CDay#1 Oct 06 (false); DDay#2 Oct 07 (truth from OW's BH)
R: Tenaciously optimistic

Posts: 830 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: Midwest
iwillNOT
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Default  Posted: 2:11 PM, September 23rd (Monday)

Cuppa - What Dagny said! Book him up with Bubba, after all, it was his idea! He needs to step up and do his part for the household finances lol!

By far the dumbest thing my husband has said was when I was asking him about why, how, could he have done this to us? He said, it was for us, so We could stay married, it was to help our marriage. WTF? Seriously? I asked him, hearing yourself say that out loud, does it make any sense to you at all? He allowed that, well, not really.

Yeah, I guess not, genius.


Me: BS, 43
Him: WH, 44
Together 21 years
Married 14 years
Kiddos 2,6,8,10
Dday#1 2004, 3 years after EA/PA co-worker MOW
Dday#2 8-6-13, 13 months EA/9months PA with co-worker MOW - caught not confessed
Rugsweep now, pay later. Ask me how I know.

Posts: 490 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Midwest
tushnurse
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Member # 21101
Default  Posted: 2:39 PM, September 23rd (Monday)

I guess he thinks living in a tent down by the river doesn't sound too bad. That's where the guy from the show Hung ended up anyway. LOL

Seriously honey, what a selfish ass. He does not deserve you. Take care of you.

(((and strength))))


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

Posts: 8218 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
StepAside
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Member # 29826
Default  Posted: 5:49 PM, September 23rd (Monday)

The worst is that "it was just a joke." and because i'm too sensitive it's my fault.

passive aggressive much? Poor muffin was maybe looking for an ego stroke with that gem, but didn't get one...and so yeah it is your 'fault' all sensitive and stuff.

I will start the pot to toss some coins in so that Bubba can have a nice evening!!


Me 48yrs, king of douchebagastan- 50yrs
far too many A's to bother to count, he is a predator that targets losers like himself
Last Dday April 12/10-Divorcing when he finds some courage
We live in a world where the fear of illusion is real

Posts: 1515 | Registered: Oct 2010 | From: Ingersoll Ontario
Ashland13
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Default  Posted: 6:23 PM, September 23rd (Monday)

There's a new one from X recently: "these choices chose me. I did not choose them." BA!

And here's some silver dollars for Bubba.

[This message edited by Ashland13 at 6:25 PM, September 23rd (Monday)]


Ashland 13

A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess

Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.

-George Washington


Posts: 2197 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: New England
jrc1963
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Default  Posted: 6:31 PM, September 23rd (Monday)

First of all... WTF???

Secondly - if that was said to me, and I could gather my wits fast enough, my reply might have been...

"You won't make enough of that pencil dick to pay the rent/mortgage/light bill..."

Seriously... In the dumbass of the year contest he takes Double First Prize.


Me: BSO - 46
Him: FWSO - 68
DS - 12
D-Day - 12-11-09,
R - he finally came home
Your life is an Occasion. Rise to it. - Mr. Magorium, "Mr. Magorium's Wonder Emporium"

Posts: 24448 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Florida
RippedSoul
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Default  Posted: 6:31 PM, September 23rd (Monday)

What's with our husbands and these jokes? Awkward ever? Three weeks after telling me about his affair and recommitting to us, we drove to Las Vegas for our son's tournament and drove past 10 signs, each listing one of the commandments. When we got to the end, he said, "9 out of 10 ain't bad!" Hurt (but used to his humor by now), I responded something like, "You'd better re-count; you missed one. (Thou shalt not bear false witness.)" What ARE they thinking?

[This message edited by RippedSoul at 6:31 PM, September 23rd (Monday)]


BW: 49; SLAWH: 46; M: 23 yrs
DD#1--11/30/12 (prostitute #1)
DD#2--1/29/13 (AP, escorts #1 & #2)
DD#3--9/13 (trolling MILF site)
DD#4--10/8/13 (EA with AP cont'd)
DD: 20; DD: 18; DS: 16; DS: 14
PS: I've NEVER NOT edited my posts

Posts: 444 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: California
Gr8Lady
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Member # 36307
Default  Posted: 8:37 PM, September 23rd (Monday)

You should have replied with, 'I start my second job as a stripper tomorrow night"


What an ass.....


BS: Me (63yo)
FWH: HIM (65yo) serial infidelities over past 35 years
OW: Many, most recent 1/2 his age
DD: Multiple unconfirmed until 2012 when I presented evidence, plus LTA with his friends wife lasting 10 years. TT over past year
So done,

Posts: 607 | Registered: Jul 2012
Saleschick
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Member # 39772
Default  Posted: 12:45 AM, September 24th (Tuesday)

Mine joked about me and the OW and we could all move to "UTAH"...I was like WTF!

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