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cantlivewithouth
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Default  Posted: 8:20 PM, September 23rd (Monday)

So I found out through a friend's blog that butthead had another baby. The fact that I don't have a baby bothers me, but what really bothers me is all the money he spent on the whore wife.

That blog entry just pissed me off for that one fact. The money. I'm still really pissed off about the money. I mean REALLY pissed off.

He spent money that I earned on all of his whores. They got vacations and gifts and cars and whatever else they needed and I got yelled out for buying a candy bar. He left and agreed to still pay half the mortgage. The house nearly went into foreclosure because he didn't pay. I had to put more of my money into fixing the house up to sell and he had the nerve to threaten to stop the sale at the last minute.

He probably took upwards of $20,000 between whoring around, not helping me fix up the house, and me having to pay for his half of the mortgage and to 3 full months of mortgage payments I had to pay to catch everything back up even though I had already paid half for those months.

I paid for him to finish getting his degree. When he moved out he paid off all his credit cards so he didn't have debt. More money that I earned.

I know he has a great paying job because he tried to friend DH on linked in. I paid for him to get that damn job because I paid for the lawyer that got him off assault charges when he got fired from his previous job. My former swimmer got him the job that led to the clearance for him to get his current job.

I have NC with him and will not get in touch with him, but I so want my money back.

I never give him a thought until I saw that blog post. Then all I saw was dollar signs. I will be okay, but I still want my money back!


Married a truly wonderful and loving man Sept. 19, 2010. Not only survived, but thrived.

My new mantra: Argue Your Limitations.‎


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Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 8:22 PM, September 23rd (Monday)

He may have the money, but he will always be a dickhead. That's his burden.

I feel the same way about my wxh, but I'm just glad to be rid of him.

((Can't))


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

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MovingUpward
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Default  Posted: 8:22 PM, September 23rd (Monday)

((((cant))))


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Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.


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cantlivewithouth
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Default  Posted: 8:26 PM, September 23rd (Monday)

Thanks guys. I know his an idiot. I just had to vent.

I have a wonderful husband and step-son, a great job that I love, and a wonderful life. He will always be an asshole.


Married a truly wonderful and loving man Sept. 19, 2010. Not only survived, but thrived.

My new mantra: Argue Your Limitations.‎


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ThoughtIKnewYa
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Default  Posted: 8:30 PM, September 23rd (Monday)

I have a wonderful husband and step-son, a great job that I love, and a wonderful life. He will always be an asshole.
Exactly!! I see it as you paying to get that asshole out of your life, so you could free yourself up for the wonderful people who are your new family.

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Phoenix1
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Default  Posted: 8:46 PM, September 23rd (Monday)

He spent money that I earned on all of his whores. They got vacations and gifts and cars and whatever else they needed and I got yelled out for buying a candy bar.

BTDT... I'm STILL paying for debt he created! But as ThoughtIKnewYa put it, I looked at it as the price I had to pay to get the fucktwit out of my life...and that is priceless!


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cantlivewithouth
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Default  Posted: 8:53 PM, September 23rd (Monday)

I agree 100%. It just hit me because we are trying to save to take DSS to Disney next summer and this summer we were hit with some big dog bills. Anya had to have her eye removed due to glaucoma. This still requires medicine and doctor appointments. This just kind of pissed me off thinking of all the vacations his took his whores on and we are trying to swing Disney for a wonderful almost 9 year old that so deserves it.


Married a truly wonderful and loving man Sept. 19, 2010. Not only survived, but thrived.

My new mantra: Argue Your Limitations.‎


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bbee
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Default  Posted: 2:35 AM, September 24th (Tuesday)

(((cant)))


This above all: to thine ownself be true,
And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man.

Hamlet, Act I, Scene 3

Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none.

All's Well That Ends Well, Act I, Scene 1


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Whalers11
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Default  Posted: 11:34 AM, September 24th (Tuesday)

To be honest, I am still pissed about the money issue as well. My ex was unemployed/ underemployed for most of the 10+ years we were together. The little money he did earn, like when he'd work a part-time minimun wage job, was eithet his "fun" money or he stashed it. He would occasionally pay for some groceries, but I mostly paid all the bills with no contribution from him.

Yet, when OW was pregnant with OC, he finally got motivated to get a job and was paying for whatever they needed.

For whatever reason, that pissed me off. A lot. I guess I just felt used.


Me: BGF - 33
Together 11+ years - not married, no children.
D-Day: 2/9/2010
OC Born: 10/9/2010
Status: He chose OW/OC and left immediately.

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Dreamboat
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Default  Posted: 5:16 PM, September 24th (Tuesday)

(((hugs)))

I understand. The details are different, but similar enough. And I too am still pissed about the money because DD and I will have to go into debt to pay for her college because of X. The karma bus keeps running him over, but that does not make it any easier financially for me.


And it's hard to dance with a devil on your back
So shake him off
-- Shake It Out, Florence And The Machine

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