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click4it
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Default  Posted: 9:59 PM, September 23rd (Monday)

you smell bullshit 10x stronger.

AND you have realized that you don't *need* anyone really other than yourself.

case in point: a guy whom i briefly saw, i wouldn't even say date...back in 2004...was the first guy i connected with after my ex-h left in 2001. well i fell head over heels, stupidly so because when i met him i knew he wouldn't be local and i hung on to this "dream". oh how he played me like a fiddle. I even flew half way across the US to meet up with him only for him to basically leave me for most of my stay.

so anyhow, flash forward to now, he emails me out of the blue and says hi, hope you and your family are well. i respond by saying we are good and hope your family is well too. he then proceeds to tell me he'll be in my town in December and puts his phone number under his name.

yeah RIGHT...does he really think I'm going to jump and say oh really???? so lets meet!

NOT.

this dude i think was married and i never knew. i was just stupid and very low self estem then.

so i'm not responding.

after i re-read what i just wrote, i must sound cynical, negative and harsh. maybe that's another side effect of being over 40 and single in what seems like an eternity...but this guy really took my head for a spin, so i'm not about to go for another spin. and the funny part is he probably thinks i'm still the same naÔve girl he met 8 years ago. live and learn.

[This message edited by click4it at 10:49 PM, September 23rd (Monday)]


Me: 41
Two boys: 17 and 13
Divorced 12-13-05
d-day 10-02-01

Laughter will cure life's ills. Have you had your laugh today?


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Ann124
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Default  Posted: 6:41 AM, September 24th (Tuesday)

I love this ... Being over forty is perfect!
I have thought on occasion that all the time I wasted being with X I wish I could go back and be younger etc ... No Way! I embrace my forties and beyond with so much more then I ever had before!

I love your story ... and I agree "crickets" to that guy!


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Chrysalis123
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Default  Posted: 9:29 AM, September 24th (Tuesday)

yeah RIGHT...does he really think I'm going to jump and say oh really???? so lets meet!

Yes, he does think that. Arrogant azz he is.

I think you now have wisdom to see right through it.


Donít get to the end of your life and find that you lived only the length of it; live the width of it as well.†

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gardenparty
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Default  Posted: 7:12 PM, September 24th (Tuesday)

the 40"s have been the best decade of my life and I have spent all of it divorced. I sometimes wish I felt younger but never wish that I was younger.


divorced!

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click4it
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Member # 209
Default  Posted: 10:45 PM, September 24th (Tuesday)

my boss told me that after 40 things got so much better for her..

I agree to an extent. I am more secure in who I am, but still lonely as heck. I am much wiser, yet feel stuck at times.

Plus I don't like saying I'm over 40!


Me: 41
Two boys: 17 and 13
Divorced 12-13-05
d-day 10-02-01

Laughter will cure life's ills. Have you had your laugh today?


Posts: 25509 | Registered: Jun 2002 | From: California
exhausted lady
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Default  Posted: 10:51 PM, September 24th (Tuesday)

after i re-read what i just wrote, i must sound cynical, negative and harsh.

I think you sound wiser, more centered, and a lot less likely to settle for less-than. Good for you!

p.s....I think you're right, the douche is probably married and thinks he's a chick magnet. Thhhbbbb!!!!!


Sometimes the hardest part of finally seeing through someone is accepting what you see...

God grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change, the courage to
change the one I can, and the wisdom to know it's me.
-Reinhold Neibuhr


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