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sodamnlost
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Default  Posted: 10:24 PM, September 23rd (Monday)

I had a whopper of a trigger today. WH asked what happened and I know damn well he won't understand or see reality. So - I wouldn't share it. I realized just how much time I have wasted explaining triggers to him when he clearly didnt "get it". Just feeling sad for me. Tired of carrying the weight. Just plain tired. Despite seeing WICKED intense healing on my part lately, just feeling so raw. The insanely painful 4 hour tattoo I had done before the trigger hit probably didnt help.


If it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck - it's not a fluffy pink unicorn squirting liquid rainbows, complete with pots of gold out of it's ass.

Posts: 766 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: Nowhere pretty
Sorceress
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Default  Posted: 5:14 AM, September 24th (Tuesday)

They rarely do seem to understand why you feel as you do, or they downplay the shit out of it.

Did you tell your WS why? What was their reaction?


me- BSo 30, happily in new relationship
him-ex wso 40, child sex offender
DD-6 DS-4
I look for the good and admirable in every soul. The people that seem to be neither are terrifying.

Posts: 510 | Registered: Sep 2011 | From: UK
sodamnlost
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Default  Posted: 7:17 AM, September 24th (Tuesday)


Did you tell your WS why? What was their reaction?

Yes I did tell him why. Of course on the planet he lives on he swears he could understand and help me through it. Says the guy who can't look at who he is to save his life. It's just so sad when they KNOW what needs to be done but refuse to budge because it's icky feelings inside they have to pick up. Knowing this will be over in 7 weeks is something I am trying to make a positive for me. Just gotta focus...


If it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck - it's not a fluffy pink unicorn squirting liquid rainbows, complete with pots of gold out of it's ass.

Posts: 766 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: Nowhere pretty
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