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whatnow8
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Default  Posted: 11:15 PM, September 23rd (Monday)

After I found out about Wh I mentioned that I had a couple of friends who had offered to find him online and start chatting with him. But I refused their offers. He said he never chatted with anyone who talked to him first, because he always assumed it was me trying to catch him. He never used his real name, except with the ones he wanted to meet. And then it was easy to explain it away as trying to stay anonymous online.

Someone mentioned on a thread a few days ago that first timers don't use a different name, etc. Of course, it didn't hit me until just now. I'm a first timer at this, so I don't know how good they usually are at all this crap.

Wh swears that there was a massage at a place, two women he met with only one time each, an EA that broke it off when she found out he was married, and our exfriend the whore. And supposedly before he even met with either of the first two women he was already taking the precautions of someone who has done this before? Now I'm wondering if there's still more than he's told me.


wtf?? How insane does your life have to get that you want to polygraph your freaking HUSBAND. ~ OldCow18

It's hard to make a decision when you're too tired to hold on and too in love to let go. ~ unknown


Posts: 178 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: midwest
Sorceress
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Member # 33420
Default  Posted: 5:16 AM, September 24th (Tuesday)

With liars, I've found, they will usually only admit to what you know. If you don't know it- they're not going to go out of their way to open your eyes to it.


me- BSo 30, happily in new relationship
him-ex wso 40, child sex offender
DD-6 DS-4
I look for the good and admirable in every soul. The people that seem to be neither are terrifying.

Posts: 510 | Registered: Sep 2011 | From: UK
Kierst13
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Member # 39197
Default  Posted: 9:04 AM, September 24th (Tuesday)

If he knew from the get-go not to talk to women who came onto him and used a fake name I would assume this is not his first rodeo.

He has been cheating online in the past and you didn't know about it. Finding out about online cheating can be damn near impossible unless they get careless and out themselves.


Story in my profile
He lied, I gave the gift of R
He became the model remorseful WS...all while lying and seeing her
Am I done? Yes I am!

Posts: 347 | Registered: May 2013
WhiteCarrera
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Member # 29126
Default  Posted: 9:34 AM, September 24th (Tuesday)

I agree with Sorceress 100%.

We are 4+ years from D-Day and still dealing with this issue.


If I want recovery, then I must allow for it to actually happen.
Is it possible that I actually do have all the truth now?

me - husband A46
her - wife A42
Married 17 years
D-Day August 2, 2009
3 kids 11, 13, and 15


Posts: 277 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: Midwest
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