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ProbableIceCream
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Default  Posted: 8:39 AM, September 24th (Tuesday)

I forgot to post this when it happened. XW and OM got married on Sunday (22nd).


Me, 32. DD, 8. DS, 6 (deceased).

D-Day was April 2012. Divorced Jul 2013. Moved ~1000 miles away (as the crow flies) Jul 2014.


Posts: 797 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Pacific Northwest
Shockleader
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Default  Posted: 9:54 AM, September 24th (Tuesday)

Fantastic... Fuck'em. Together they add up to less than dog shit in the gutter. Can't wait until the day you reckon they have the same value. Strength friend!


D-Day spring 2012
Me BS 47
Xcheater 44
One DD 19
Married 23 years
Divorced 12/23/13 Fu*king A!

The cruel, the unkind, those without honor, feast on the tender heart...


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SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 10:09 AM, September 24th (Tuesday)

Let's take bets on how long before one of them cheats.

The OW in our case cheated on its first XBH with MOM. MOM & OW lived together and OW started fucking my FWH. OW married MOM and fucked my FWH 3 weeks before the wedding and 3 weeks after. Marriage is so special to them!


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 9513 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
Dawnie
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Default  Posted: 10:10 AM, September 24th (Tuesday)

Screw 'em.....

My XH married his OW 4 weeks after our D was final so I know exactly how you feel.... I keep waiting for that Karma bus to come rolling through his life but it has yet to happen...


DIVORCED! Remarried to a real man!
BW (me) - 41 (now 46)
WH (him) - 43 (now 47)
OW - 23 yr old foreign gold digging whore looking for her American meal ticket
1 14 yr old son (now 19)
married 20 years/together 25 years
D day - 9/23/2009 5pm

Posts: 801 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Mid Atlantic coast
SBB
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Default  Posted: 10:52 AM, September 24th (Tuesday)

I suspect I'll be relieved when it happens - kinda like when you finally sell that used car that caused you nothing but grief.

Someone.Else's.Problem, IYKWIM?



Buzz- The word you are searching for is 'Space-Ranger.'
Woody- The word I'm searching for, I can't say, because there are Pre-school toys here.

Posts: 5530 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
gma56
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Default  Posted: 11:36 AM, September 24th (Tuesday)

Sickening because we know how they honor wedding vows.

FT married Twat within 2 mo after our D was final and they've been together 6 yrs altogether. Now they have a baby and living in her home country of Thailand. Yep, he was still on dating sites as of a year ago.

They all deserve each other.


BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. I lost my family but gained a second chance to be happy.

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stronger08
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Default  Posted: 1:27 PM, September 24th (Tuesday)

Break out the popcorn and take a seat. The show that's coming up is going to be a good one.


You cant eat soup with chopsticks.

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strongerdaybyday
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Default  Posted: 1:32 PM, September 24th (Tuesday)

((HUGS)) can't imagine how you're feeling - either sad, pissed off or indifferent it sucks. But...whether their marriage lasts or not, I hope YOU find the happiness you DESERVE!!!


Me-BW Him - WH
Married 6 years, together 13+ years
D-Day Summer 2013
children-3
If it is what it is then what is it?

**If I edit I'm correcting a typo!**


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little turtle
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Default  Posted: 1:35 PM, September 24th (Tuesday)

How does your daughter feel about XW and OM being married?


Failure is success if we learn from it.

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nutmegkitty
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Default  Posted: 1:55 PM, September 24th (Tuesday)

They deserve each other, remember that.

Blech.


me (BS)
him (NPD Ex)
2 dds
DDay 10/7/11
OW
OC

Divorced 1/17/2013

"Diamonds aren't a girl's best friend, freedom is."


Posts: 2582 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: MA
damncutekitty
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Default  Posted: 5:40 PM, September 24th (Tuesday)

Good god, how tacky.


Keep calm and carry on.

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miadianna
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Default  Posted: 6:04 PM, September 24th (Tuesday)

Just noticed your divorce was final in July. I always say they are perfect together. Perfect liars, cheater, and losers and nobody else with morals or values will be with them so they have to settle with who they cheated with.


Me: BS 53
Son: 27 years old
Daughter: 25 years old
D-day(s) 9/23/94 - 1/31/05
Divorced 4/10/08

Posts: 7463 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: Illinois
cayc
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Default  Posted: 6:08 PM, September 24th (Tuesday)

Well that was nice & quick. And we all know how well quickie marriages usually workout. It''s such a truism that there''s a saying about it "marry in haste, repent in leisure".

It''s also a sign that she''s needy and needs to have someone regardless of whom. Funny that bc it''s yet another sign that bodes ill for happy happy unicorn, my little pony rainbow fantasyland being a shining success.


"The difference between involvement and commitment is like ham and eggs. The chicken is involved, the pig is committed." -Martina Navratilova
"The question isn't who is going to let me; it's who is going to stop me." -Ayn Rand

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foreverempty
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Default  Posted: 6:34 PM, September 24th (Tuesday)

Thinking of you mate.....!

So soon as well. Not your problem now as much as it still hurts. Your still a it's new to the recovery. Take your time!


Me BS: 35
Her WW: 34
D Day 5th December 2011
Current status: Filled for divorce 23rd Jan 2012. Response from WW was not to beg for forgiveness, but deleting me from Facebook.

Posts: 605 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: United Kingdom
gardenparty
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Default  Posted: 7:07 PM, September 24th (Tuesday)

X and OW married last October in my case. It affects me way less than I thought it would however I was very bothered at the time. I just hope that we all get to the point that we don't give a shit.


divorced!

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persevere
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Default  Posted: 8:51 PM, September 24th (Tuesday)

My XWH and OW married a year after and it still stung a little. But. I wish them all the happiness they deserve....lol

They've now been married just over a year and I really don't care at all, though I have no desire to see him.

However, PIC, I hope you're okay - you deserve better. ((Hugs))


Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


Posts: 4442 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Texas
tryingagain74
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Default  Posted: 8:52 PM, September 24th (Tuesday)

My XWH married the OW one month after our divorce was final; he also pushed the D through faster (the plan was to be divorced by the beginning of this month) so that they could take their blessed vows, and she'd have health insurance and a place to live (since they are now the Paragons of Virtue, and it wouldn't do to have her sleep over while they were not yet married, even though screwing each other while they were married to other people was just fine).

When I tell people that he married her one month after the D, they have all been completely appalled right across the board. It shows you how desperate, needy, and pathetic they are. They can't be alone, and they will do anything to justify the havoc they wreaked. If they marry the AP, they think it shows how real their love is and how they were meant to be. That means that hurting their faithful spouses, children, and other family members with their selfish behavior was all right in the end, right?

I think that my XWH and his Owife will cling together out of shame, so I don't anticipate a D any time soon. However, I can't imagine rushing to marry someone so fast or basing a marriage on a foundation of cheating. How can that go anywhere except downhill?

Just bear this in mind, as they say on here: "If they're willing to do it with you, then they're willing to do it to you."

I don't predict years of bliss and happiness for any married cheaters. I agree with what a previous poster said-- be glad that your XW is not YOUR problem anymore!


BS (Me) 39
Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

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Brokenheart777
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Default  Posted: 9:39 PM, September 24th (Tuesday)

I'm hoping that you are taking an indifferent stance on this OP. Marrying someone on such a shitty foundation is like building a space shuttle out of the wreckage of another ship and hoping it will take you to the moon without issue.

I recently found out that XWGF started sleeping with a family friend about 2 months after Dday. She sees nothing wrong with it and thinks its healthy to jump right to someone else all the while "working on myself" keeps falling out of her mouth. They are weak people who have little ability to be alone and truly deal with themselves. Hope you are doing okay.


ME - A new person
HER - A waining memory
DDay - 2/22/2013
2-3 month EA/PA
Together for 6 years, ready to start my life . . .

"I can fill the flask up, but can't get past us
I'm in the storm, staying strong, but can't get back


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exhausted lady
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Default  Posted: 10:46 PM, September 24th (Tuesday)

Well, that marriage license is probably worth about the value of the paper it was written on. I used to work in an office supply business. I think the fancy stuff ran about $.03 a sheet.

So, I kinda think that's a 3 cent marriage.....or less.

Sit back with the popcorn and wait for it.....wait for it.....


Sometimes the hardest part of finally seeing through someone is accepting what you see...

God grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change, the courage to
change the one I can, and the wisdom to know it's me.
-Reinhold Neibuhr


Posts: 3168 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: Colorado
Bluebird26
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Default  Posted: 5:57 AM, September 25th (Wednesday)

My xwh and the OW married about a month ago.

Take it easy on yourself, the shock may take a while for it sink in.

I agree though sit back with the popcorn and watch. One day they will get what they deserve because wedding vows are so important to them


"Loving someone should not mean losing you. Love empowers you. It shouldn't erase you. - Thelma Davis.

Posts: 1311 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Australia
ProbableIceCream
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Default  Posted: 10:00 AM, September 25th (Wednesday)

strongerdaybyday: When I found out about it I was very sad for a while, then I decided I didn't care very much. It's weird to think that she has a different last name though.

little turtle: My daughter has been very upbeat and happy about everything. I don't know how she really feels.

Everyone in general: I think I've moved on to the point where I don't feel the raw anger.. just indifference on that front. Don't feel like I miss my XW either. It's just kind of a mind screw to go through another milestone. I'm not even sure that I'd be happy to see things fail, but who knows, you can't ever really predict these things. Maybe it would be amusing. It's just.. you know, if I wanted her back or to prove her wrong or something, maybe I'd feel more like I'd be seeing some karma, but I've worked really hard to detach and I don't want her back. I figure if she's occupied with OM she's leaving me alone mostly.

On days when I am feeling very low sometimes I get old memories and I feel the sadness of betrayal, but this is not often.

Also, I had like three or four months warning that it would probably happen this month, so I guess I had some time to process it. When I first found out it was really devastating.


Me, 32. DD, 8. DS, 6 (deceased).

D-Day was April 2012. Divorced Jul 2013. Moved ~1000 miles away (as the crow flies) Jul 2014.


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