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torn2bits
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Angry  Posted: 6:32 PM, September 24th (Tuesday)

When looking at what is left from the marriage, WH blew away all the assets so I would not get anything. We spent most of his retirement money on the lawyers so that's gone, then he stopped paying on the boat and a vacation home we owned so those were repossessed and foreclosed and now all that is left is the marital home that is in foreclosure and 2 junkie cars.

Except well.....the child support and my part of his pension.

I am really getting nothing really and I am angry that he is trying to manipulate me to save the house he is living in; not his children.

He has also stopped taking them on the weekends. I mean, I have had them for at least a month and he has only had one overnite! I ask him to help with the extra food bill and he says that's what child support is for.

I think I may ask for 70/30. Right now its 60/40.


Me: 44/WH (SA): 49
M: 24 years 3 kids over 10 yrs old
EA/ PA Dec. 2009 -Divorce pending

Posts: 1240 | Registered: Apr 2010 | From: Midwest
Merlin
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Default  Posted: 6:42 PM, September 24th (Tuesday)

Document all of the time that your children spend with you. When you go back to court, that means a lot.

All the days, nights, picking up and dropping off, doctor visits - everything.


"I never saw a wild thing sorry for itself. A bird will fall frozen dead from a bough without ever having felt sorry for itself." D. H. Lawrence

Her: WW/57 Me: BS/63 24yrs M
3 great kids, now 22, 20, 17 b,b,g
D-Day 8/14/08, D 1/13/11


Posts: 1164 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: East Coast
tesla
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Default  Posted: 6:07 AM, September 25th (Wednesday)

Go for the maximum. And document.

FTG.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4687 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
SBB
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Default  Posted: 7:57 AM, September 25th (Wednesday)

Australia doesn't have it but I have read here that monies can be recovered if they are blowing it on their whores.


These two quotes don't add up.

I have had them for at least a month and he has only had one overnite!

I think I may ask for 70/30. Right now its 60/40.

Right now its actually 100/0.

The longer he continues like this the higher the likelihood that he'll end up with no custody.

I'm with Merlin and Tesla - document EVERYTHING and take it to your L.

What does your L say about MIA Father of the Year?

He isn't going to help you with extra food bills. You wouldn't have the extra food bills if he took them 40 or even 30 - that is why its so important to get the split right. If he isn't doing it now he is unlikely to start doing it later.


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5609 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
torn2bits
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Member # 28376
Default  Posted: 12:58 PM, September 25th (Wednesday)

I have been documenting everything. Its 60/40 now as stated on our temp orders until we go to court again.

At the same time, he is asking me to go on dates and still introducing me as his wife!
This is all mind games he is playing.

My L says we have to bring this up at the next status hearing in Oct.

Another thing is that he is living in the marital home. My L says I could move back in while still receiving child support.
We just need to explain to the judge that I am doing this for the kids and we are trying to save the house for them.


Me: 44/WH (SA): 49
M: 24 years 3 kids over 10 yrs old
EA/ PA Dec. 2009 -Divorce pending

Posts: 1240 | Registered: Apr 2010 | From: Midwest
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