Things have changed alot in our marriage over the last year but in the past 2 months my wife has really shut down. Many parts of our relationship are doing well. We talk a lot. Our communication is better. We are a team. We go on dates. We are having WAY more fun together but she is never in the mood. I can romance her, play hard to get, give her a full body massage, help around the house, take care of the kids, let her sleep in, I even stopped having sex just to show her it isn't all about sex. I don't know... But I told her something isn't right. We only have sex in the middle of the night when we wake up groping each other. When I initiate when she is awake she denys me, changes the subject etc. I told her its not sex I am looking for its connection, desire, intimacy, affection and just feeling like she wants me. She had kind of a melt down yesterday and finally told me she is ready to really go to IC. FINALLY!!! (I was trying to push her to go before and she pushed back) But wondering if anyone else has gone through this? This is about one year from her AP leaving her. Not sure if that is triggering. She says no but something definitely isn't right. She just has a HUGE wall around letting herself . I know I have posted about this in the past. Still the same issue. I have been working on myself ALOT and no longer presure her for sex, I don't have sex unless she wants it too, I don't beg or plead for it. I won't stoop to being upset when I get denied. I just want a good marriage all around. I told her I work on myself and our marriage everyday. Its her turn. She Emotional, physical and spiritual intimacy. Too much to ask for... ME-BS 33
M 6 Yrs
Posts: 320 | Registered: Mar 2013
Dare2Trust Member Member # 21183
Posted: 1:43 AM, September 25th (Wednesday)
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Me BS 59
Married 19 years
D-Day Nov 3, 2005
Child: Adopted Daughter 21 College Student now
I can understand being alone; but I hate being with someone and feeling lonely.