User Topic: WH treating OW like she's the BS
Member # 40761
Shocked  Posted: 3:49 PM, September 25th (Wednesday)

Gone snooping today. WHs OW is insecure about their relationship because GUESS WHAT her boyfriend lives with HIS WIFE. My SOB WH is assuring her over and over we don't sleep together, we don't have any contact, and that he is just here for our children. She is the one getting all the passwords to his accounts and transparency while he hides it all from me (so he stupidly believes). ARE YOU KIDDING ME HERE!?

me: BS 39 | stbxWH: 46
DD14, DS2
DDAY: Aug12... A continued "underground"
Separated Nov13 and Divorcing
OC Born May 14

Posts: 129 | Registered: Sep 2013
Member # 21886
Default  Posted: 3:56 PM, September 25th (Wednesday)

Even though I'm the FWS, in your shoes I'd be tempted to tell him he can have a D so he could be with his "real wife."

He cheated on YOU for chrissakes, not her. Geez, I gotta wonder if he can taste last night's dinner, his head is so far up his ass.

BH Cee64D - 48
WW (me) - 49

All affairs are variations on a theme. No one has 'Beethoven's 5th' to everyone else's 'Chopsticks'.

Posts: 5892 | Registered: Dec 2008 | From: A better place
Member # 30826
Default  Posted: 4:00 PM, September 25th (Wednesday)

Fuck that.

Get your ducks in a row and file.

FWH 45
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: Reconciling?

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.

Posts: 7697 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Indiana
Member # 18814
Default  Posted: 4:00 PM, September 25th (Wednesday)

This is no different from wayward women who feel they are cheating on their OM with their BH.

Have you done the 180? Drawn up divorce papers? You know my father thought his OW was just so amazing and free... until she started acting like a wife when they moved in together...

Love is a choice.

True love is harder to come by than soul mates. True love requires work.

Ignorance can be cured with knowledge. There is no cure for being an idiot.

Posts: 927 | Registered: Mar 2008
Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 4:01 PM, September 25th (Wednesday)

prowoman - So he's breaking NC? Time to put your bitch boots on.

((((hugs and strength))))

You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana

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Member # 38405
Default  Posted: 5:27 PM, September 25th (Wednesday)

When are you filing for divorce?

Once a cheater, always a cheater happens when your cheater doesn't have remorse.
Regret is not remorse- know the difference!

Posts: 640 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: DC
Member # 39609
Default  Posted: 5:33 PM, September 25th (Wednesday)


Together 6 yrs. M 4 yrs. DD born 3/1/2013.
Me: BS -- Him: 1 EA/PA (6mos), PA (MW), and 6 ONS...Been at it for almost 5 yrs. *Still slave to TT* 1st DDay- 11/24/2012,
.....OC due in August.....

Posts: 122 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: United States
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Default  Posted: 5:58 PM, September 25th (Wednesday)

The more I learn about people, the more I like my dog. - Mark Twain

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Member # 27993
Default  Posted: 6:00 PM, September 25th (Wednesday)

Kick the tushie to the curb!

Married 32 years
OW-Mr. Ed ish! Seriously!
DDAY- 2/21/09
TT until 1/10/10
Working on R and doing well!!

Posts: 179 | Registered: Mar 2010
Member # 35215
Default  Posted: 6:03 PM, September 25th (Wednesday)

FTG! File immediately

BS/FWS (me):40 Madhatter
WS/BS:42 Serial Cheater
Together 18 years, Married 13
DD(10) DS(7)
DDay(s) 5/08, 5/09, 3/30/12
Final Dday 7/11/14 Affair never ended

Posts: 2266 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: California
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Member # 39171
Default  Posted: 6:13 PM, September 25th (Wednesday)

I know you are 38 but I love this:

Andy Rooney - CBS 60 Minutes.

As I grow in age, I value women who are over 40 most of all. Here are just a few reasons why:

A woman over 40 will not lay next to you in bed and ask, "What are you thinking?" She doesn't care what you think.

If a woman over 40 doesn't want to watch the game, she doesn't sit around whining about it. She does something she wants to do. And, it's
usually something more interesting.

Women over 40 are dignified. They seldom have a screaming match with you at the opera or in the middle of an expensive restaurant. Of course, if you deserve it, they won't hesitate to shoot you, if they think they can get away with it.

Older women are generous with praise, often undeserved. They know what it's like to be unappreciated.

Women get psychic as they age. You never have to confess your sins to a woman over 40. They always know.

Older women are forthright and honest. They'll tell you right off you are a jerk if you are acting like one! You don't ever have to wonder
where you stand with her.

Yes, we praise women over 40 for a multitude of reasons. Unfortunately, it's not reciprocal. For every stunning, smart, well-coiffed hot woman of 40+, there is a bald, paunchy relic in yellow pants making a fool of himself with some 22-year-old waitress. Ladies, I apologize.

The more I learn about people, the more I like my dog. - Mark Twain

Posts: 31 | Registered: May 2013
Member # 21886
Default  Posted: 7:12 PM, September 25th (Wednesday)

My H suggests you Hefty bag his shit and show him to the curb. If you want to be "nice" get the good kind - you know, the ForceFlex. You want it to last since he'll probably be using it again when he cheats on the OW.

BH Cee64D - 48
WW (me) - 49

All affairs are variations on a theme. No one has 'Beethoven's 5th' to everyone else's 'Chopsticks'.

Posts: 5892 | Registered: Dec 2008 | From: A better place
Member # 16305
Default  Posted: 7:43 PM, September 25th (Wednesday)

I wouldnt waste a trash bag on him.

I read your post and was 'oh, so normal. Btdt' til I got to the part where he gave his passwords etc to her. That is one of the lowest crock o shits I have heard in my over 6 yrs on this site.He is so low, I doubt the bottom feeders could find him.


People tell you exactly who they are...why expect them to be what they are not ....will be divorcing the selfish creep.

Posts: 8394 | Registered: Sep 2007
Member # 36579
Default  Posted: 9:24 PM, September 25th (Wednesday)

Kick his ass to the curb so quick he'll see stars.

Honestly, what a low life. Get yourself organised and FILE!! Sending much strength to you.

Me 46
ExH 51
EA Jun-Aug 12 (OW1)FB flirting and then EA/PA with OW2 (Aug-Dec 12). New OW Jan 13, introduced her to the kids immediately.
Married 10 years, together 14yrs
2 kids (DS11 & DD7)
Separated Jan 13. Divorced Jun 14

Posts: 180 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Australia
Member # 40488
Default  Posted: 12:23 AM, September 26th (Thursday)

So so sorry... Are you gathering all this info so you can hand it to the lawyer.. Do a little test. Send him an email or text asking him if he has seen or spoken to the OW..and then let him digg the hole.. Did you ask him to write a NC LETTER. What's his story??? I hate these bitches they are old enough to know its wrong.. When you get ready send all the text emails and pictures to everyone WH and OW know... Blow it out after you have all you need.. Fucking slut..
OR...😈 if you can give her a taste of her own medicine. I would fuck him and maybe take so pics to send her I would torture her will all the things she's afraid of.. And show her. 😁😁😁

Me-BS 50 Him-WH 47, DD17
Together since 1993, Married 19 yrs
DDay 3/12,4/12,7/12 EA-PA OW - 25 single husband chasing bastard whore

Posts: 515 | Registered: Aug 2013
Member # 40624
Default  Posted: 10:13 AM, September 26th (Thursday)

I am so very sorry that you are experiencing this! I thought it was traumatic when my WH told me months ago that he felt like he had been cheating on OW with me for quite a while, but the extent that your WW is taking it to? UNBELIEVABLE!!

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Member # 39357
Default  Posted: 10:53 AM, September 26th (Thursday)

Think of all the fun you can have with this while you secretly get your ducks in a row and file for D! Building onto Dreamland's suggestion about sending a "test email," I'd send him an email that gets him in BIG trouble with OW. I'm sure you can use some creativity here.

Posts: 350 | Registered: May 2013
Getting to Happy
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Default  Posted: 11:37 AM, September 26th (Thursday)

Ditch the douche'. F.T.G.


WS him
BS me DD's 26, 25' DS 23
dd1 1-1-10, dd2 Mothers Day 2011, dd3 3-12-12 Hawaii trip with ho-worker...

Never forget what is worth remembering or remember what is best forgotten.

Posts: 1141 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: La La Land
Member # 38765
Default  Posted: 11:42 AM, September 26th (Thursday)

Do you know where other woman lives? Id take his stuff there and dump it in her yard...dirty undies on top and any stains on display. Sounds like they were made for eachother.

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