Believe your instincts that tell you this man doesn't love you. He is trying to do damage control.
I don't know the details, but from this post, he is a liar and trying to manipulate you with the "love you" --which is missing the personal pronoun "I" (kind of a BIG thing to not include, IMNSHO), and with his using "clicking." What the hell is clicking supposed to mean? You two are good in bed? Is that clicking? Oh puleeze!
he has always loved me and we click Sorry, but that's bullshit.
If he always loved you, he would never have behaved so reprehensibly, let alone his writing *sweet words* to the OW.
He should have honored YOU above all others, no matter what.
Are you doing the 180?
it would make a difference if he actually said I was the woman of his life and he realizes that now - something that at least acknowleges "why" I should put up with these daily nightmares
PLEASE know that if he said these words, he'd be LYING again.
My guess is that he is hoping to get a free pass and manipulate you so he can be in a more comfortable place.
Please know that I sure don't have all the answers. I am so sorry you are questioning