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Default  Posted: 3:23 PM, September 27th (Friday)

So DD would like to participate in a sporting event her team is attending on her dads weekend....it's a chunk of time (half a day) and some fees.....about $30.00

I have asked him to pay for the fees as it is his weekend (I pay all extra-curricular and club fees).....his reply was

What does my weekend have to do with paying for the meets?

So I can think of lots of smart ass comments to reply with....but that is not going to get me anywhere....so.....How would you respond....or not??

Thanks!!!! 15


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phmh
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Default  Posted: 4:11 PM, September 27th (Friday)

What does your divorce decree state about extra-curricular activities and payment? Is CS supposed to cover them all, or are they split in some fashion?

If he were a stand-up guy, of course he would pay. But if he were that guy, he never would have cheated, you'd still be married, and not in this situation.

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Gemini71
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Default  Posted: 4:55 PM, September 27th (Friday)

What a shithead. He can't put DD ahead of his petty games against you? Don't sink to his level. If you can afford to, pay the $30 so she can attend. Make sure DD knows you've taken care of it. He'll still have to deal with the chunk of time needed.


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thenon-goddess
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Default  Posted: 10:08 PM, September 27th (Friday)

How about...

"You're right, it being on your weekend shouldn't really be the deciding factor - sorry. I pay _______ (list what you pay here), so I really was just hoping you could help out by covering this one. If not, I'll gladly cover it, as I want to be sure that DD has this opportunity."


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nomistakeaboutit
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Default  Posted: 6:16 AM, September 28th (Saturday)

...^^^^^ This.


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