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suckstobeme
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Default  Posted: 8:11 PM, September 27th (Friday)

To actually try to date.

I find myself wondering what it would be like to meet a nice man. A man who is kind, caring, considerate, and good to his family and friends. A man who wants to be with me and enhance the nice life that i have already, and a man who wants to make nice memories, whether that involves something small like a tradition of watching a favorite show every week or something bigger like vacations.

I honestly don't think I know what that feels like. I certainly don't know what it feels like to be with a man who has actually matured and moved beyond a grad school party mentality.

I have realized that my best memories of the ex douche are of when we didn't have kids and were in some sort of party situation. None of my good memories with him involved anything truly intimate or anything having to do with our families and children. That's a very sad realization, but one that makes me sort of excited to try to meet someone who grew up and matches my morals, values and judgement now as a professional and a parent.

I hope he comes along one day.


BW - me
ExWH - "that one"
D - 2011
You get what you put in, and people get what they deserve.
Hard as it may be, try to never give the OP any of your power or head space.

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tryingagain74
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Default  Posted: 9:52 PM, September 27th (Friday)

That's great. I hope to be there myself at some point. I just can't picture it right now.

Are you going to try OLD, or are you just going to see what the universe brings your way?


BS (Me) 39
Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

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InnerLight
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Default  Posted: 12:50 PM, September 28th (Saturday)

A man who is kind, caring, considerate, and good to his family and friends. A man who wants to be with me and enhance the nice life that i have already, and a man who wants to make nice memories, whether that involves something small like a tradition of watching a favorite show every week or something bigger like vacations.

This is totally possible for you. I was able to meet someone like this through OLD. We've been together for over 3 years now. He has his limits and flaws, but he does do everything you described on your list and our relationship is a nurturing part of my life.

It sounds like you are open to the possibility and taking time to think about what qualities are important to you. Those are important steps. Good luck in your search.


BS, age 53, d-day 6-2-08, divorced after 17 years and 20 together. dating again, living in the sticks with a cat. It's taking a long time to create new dreams and a new life but it is slowly coming together.

Posts: 5777 | Registered: Jun 2008 | From: Rural California
Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 10:18 PM, September 29th (Sunday)

I've met several really nice men on OLD. I'm still friends with many of them - we periodically touch bases, just to keep in touch.

One, in particular contacted me - he was 10 years younger than me. I thought "what can we possibly have in common?". Turns out that he is one of my closest friends now - truly a great guy, even though it isn't romantic. So, so keep an open mind.

I've also met some real jerks. Don't let them get to you - just enjoy the nice ones.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7502 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
sparkysable
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Default  Posted: 2:17 PM, September 30th (Monday)

And he would be one lucky guy!


D-day OW#1 2/2004; R for 6 years; D-day OW#2 5/2010

Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.


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