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Saleschick
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Default  Posted: 10:36 PM, September 28th (Saturday)

Any one have my current situation?
My ex is still with his married GF (who works for him). As of now she does not appear to be leaving her husband and her hubby still seems to have no clue. No one I talk to thinks she will leave her husband but I think my Ex thinks she will. I saw tonight on Facebook that 11 days ago he "liked" her teenage daughters volleyball team page. That creeps me out to be honest. I feel in my heart he will sit and wait for her for years to leave her husband. Am I the only one who has experienced a crazy scenario like this?

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RidingHealingRd
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Default  Posted: 11:07 PM, September 28th (Saturday)

The MOW BH does not know about the A?
He deserves to know.


ME: 54 BS
HIM: 61 WH
Married: 28 years
D'Day: 10/29/10
in R 4 years and it's working but he is putting 200% into it (as he should) to make it right again.

The truth hurts, but I have never seen it cause the pain that lies do.


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Saleschick
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Default  Posted: 11:19 PM, September 28th (Saturday)

He was sent some info anonymously via Facebook and his initial reaction was pretty volatile. But it appears the MOW talked her way out of it which was not totally unexpected. She preaches to folks she is a devout Seventh Day Adventist Christian to anyone who will listen and I guess her hubby believes her about all these business trips with her male boss.

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Saleschick
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Default  Posted: 11:30 PM, September 28th (Saturday)

As a follow up, if the husband looked for evidence it is probably all gone now.
After I found out, I was more concerned about my finances getting my ex off the deed incase the MOW (who is his employee) tried to sue. So she has had months to delete their correspondence, etc.

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movingforward13
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Default  Posted: 10:08 AM, September 29th (Sunday)

You don't have any proof to send him?


Once a cheater, always a cheater happens when your cheater doesn't have remorse.
Regret is not remorse- know the difference!

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movingforward13
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Default  Posted: 10:10 AM, September 29th (Sunday)

Also, stop worrying about him. If he is the idiot who will wait for a married woman, while he fucked up his own life, let him be the idiot!


Once a cheater, always a cheater happens when your cheater doesn't have remorse.
Regret is not remorse- know the difference!

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Saleschick
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Default  Posted: 11:50 AM, September 29th (Sunday)

You are correct and I am trying to move forward. Just amazed that a man I have known for 32 years has become such an idiot and would jeopardize his reputation, liviehood and play around with the lives of this women's kids.

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Broken1Again
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Default  Posted: 12:01 PM, September 29th (Sunday)

My dear, I think this is what we so happily call here at SI the KARMA BUS. Now you need to get off of it and stop worrying about what he's doing and start worrying about what you are doing.

He is on a Karma bus to nowhere and this woman will string him along til pigs fly. He will be left in a pile of crap with absolutely nothing.

You on the other hand, you are free from this drama. (he is still living it. Think about that!) But you are free. You don't have to worry about what he's doing anymore. Let him post on all of her kids FBs. You need to not check anymore. Seriously. It does nothing for you other than drag you down.

Please don't mistake what I'm saying. I do get it, but being on the outside, I can see that a lot of us WS become addicted to the fascination of all of the drama. We too need help from this addiction.

Stop checking their FBs. Block them. Trust me, when the sh!t hits the fan, you will know about it, but stop living through it daily or weekly.


BS: 40
WS: 42
Two boys 13/11
Married 15 years
Dday: too Many to remember. 3 significant OW and many "less"'significant OW. Believe WS has bad boundaries and craves the attention.
In R.

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Saleschick
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Default  Posted: 9:20 PM, September 29th (Sunday)

Broken1Again:

That is so what I needed to hear! Sometimes I just need a kick in my rear to keep me moving forward. Thank you again for your honesty!


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