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HurtsButImOK
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Default  Posted: 6:20 PM, September 29th (Sunday)

Mods,

I appreciate that your role is to moderate and that being so when someone states they are leaving it is 'easier/best' to lock their conversation.

Is it possible to have it unlocked? Can the decision be reviewed? I would like to post a response to the poster. Having someone express their hurt and decision to leave does not necessarily correspond with them actually leaving. A number of times I have seen that posters state they are leaving due to perceptions about posts. Most often it is a phase and the timely 'don't do that, we are all here for you' posts are what keeps them contributing.

Why decide at DC's post that he is never coming back, why not allow an outpour of support if that is what there is.

It just seems a bit premature a response to his post is all, allow the posters the opportunity to respond as would be the case in other situations.

Please, I implore you to reconsider for the sake of fairness.


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Red  Posted: 6:26 PM, September 29th (Sunday)

Hurt...

The guidelines are very clear, when a member does a hasty exit announcement, they are banned and if they started the topic, it is locked.

There is no reason to debate anything started by a member that is no longer here.

If you would like to discuss the topic at hand from your perspective and experience regarding poly relationships, please feel free to start your own thread.

Thank you.

[This message edited by SI Staff at 6:28 PM, September 29th (Sunday)]


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Default  Posted: 6:32 PM, September 29th (Sunday)

This is a surviving infidelity site, not a surviving infidelity in a monogamous relationship website.

I meant to mention in my early post.

This site is open for all relationships/religions and various beliefs. What it is not open for is disrespect thrown out by any member.

Just wanted to make that part clear


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


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HurtsButImOK
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Default  Posted: 6:38 PM, September 29th (Sunday)

DS, thank you for the response. I must confess that I am a little 'giddy' that you responded personally

I understand and respect the rule that exit posts will be locked. I guess it was just my desire to say 'all welcome, its not determined by your relationship meeting the main stream conventions, hold one - sometimes it takes time to respond so don't give up hope'.


Thank you again for having this site.


Me: Awesome - 35

"I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel". –Maya Angelou

"When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be". –


Posts: 722 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Australia
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Default  Posted: 6:48 PM, September 29th (Sunday)

I completely understand what you're saying

And honestly, we want SI to always be open to everyone...we want people to heal and feel secure again, even if some topics may make some uncomfortable.

And your message to want to help is really awesome!

It's all ok.


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


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