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She11ybeanz
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Angry  Posted: 9:10 AM, September 30th (Monday)

So...I'm trying to sell some of my older younger baby clothes of Piper's on Facebook on a couple of baby/swap consignment pages and apparently Facebook has an inbox called "other" that differs from your regular inbox. This is where email goes from people who are NOT your friends on Facebook I suppose. I did not know it existed until today. So, I went on there to talk to a couple of women who told me that they wanted a couple of outfits and their emails must have gotten dumped there....

and OH MY.... more than just theirs! I had an email from Piper's sperm donor... from like 5 months ago made from a fake account he made...so I promptly blocked that account and of course kept up NC and did not respond.

But...I also had the following email from MOW... who is now engaged to my XWH that was dated from April 1st, 2013 (so this year almost exactly 6 months ago):


Michelle

I wanted to contact you for a peace offering. I have wanted to talk to you for some time. I am sure we will continue to see each other in the future since we share some of the same interests and share a lot of friends. I don't want it to be awkward for either of us. I am not suggesting we be friends, I just don't want to be enemies. Being like that is to stressful and takes up to much energy, and I am sure neither one of us has that kind of time.


I am truly sorry for the past and if there was something I could change I would.


You are an amazing runner and I don't want to compete with you. I am out there for me and I have my own goals as I am sure you do.

I dont know if you are interested in being cordial or not, but I wanted to put it out there. Im not interested in starting an email war with you, I am being sincere in my attempt to resolve all of this. You can let me know either way.

Take Care

MOW

Maybe I am a bitch for not caring about her petty attempt at being nice to me.... but I truly believe that if the shoe had been on the other foot.....and I had destroyed her marriage...and was now engaged to her ex-husband and had been parading around down flaunting it and bullying as well as stalking her for 3 years now, that she would not be so quick to "forgive and forget" and be cordial with me! So forgive me for not being ready to respond to her or even acknowledge this attempt at making her conscience clear of her wrongdoings and her absolute golden ticket to Hell someday.

She got what she wanted. She got my husband. She got my life. She won. Now leave me the FUCK ALONE.

Thanks. I'm done.

[This message edited by She11ybeanz at 9:11 AM, September 30th (Monday)]


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

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D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


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k94ever
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Default  Posted: 9:16 AM, September 30th (Monday)

No Shelly, she didn't get your life. She got life with a cheater and will live the rest of her life having to deal with what she did.

Yup...continue to ignore her. Obviously she was trying to take the "higher ground" with this to validate that what she and your Ex did was not so bad.

You are destined for so much more.


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Default  Posted: 9:32 AM, September 30th (Monday)

Blah, blah, blah, blah Sounds like selfish bitch language to me, and I don't understand it.
Maybe I am a bitch for not caring about her petty attempt at being nice to me...
Not at all. The audacity of some people who come into our lives, blow it up, reduce it to rubble, stomp on the rubble, but, hey, lets play nice now.
Now leave me the FUCK ALONE.
Exactly. And, fuck off and die, MOW while you're at it.


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She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 9:59 AM, September 30th (Monday)

Not at all. The audacity of some people who come into our lives, blow it up, reduce it to rubble, stomp on the rubble, but, hey, lets play nice now.

AMEN.

Exactly. And, fuck off and die, MOW while you're at it.

AMEN.

You are destined for so much more.

I really hope so. Somedays when I'm still alone and single after all this time I wonder..... and then I snuggle up with my daughter and remember that I have her because of my ex-husband leaving me. Even though I had her with another asshat...but that's a whole other story. But, she was worth all the turmoil. I just hope my romantic life is not over. I feel too young to die alone. 34 is still kinda young right?

"Higher Ground"... They do have mountains in hell right??? Maybe she is standing on one of the peaks of those..... biotch.

I admit....they had their "big breast cancer awareness 5k and 10k race" this past Saturday...and I couldn't resist but to look at the pictures.... and I HATE how happy they look together.... especially the pictures of them with my ex-family in laws.... it hurts. In one picture she calls my ex-MIL "momma" and I wanted to puke.

I hate them. I really do. I know you shouldn't hold hate and discontent in your heart.... and I want to let it go and maybe someday I will find a way to. But, right now.... I wouldn't feel bad if they got hit by a bus tragically.... not. even. one. tiny. bit. Maybe that makes me a bad person. IDK.

[This message edited by She11ybeanz at 10:04 AM, September 30th (Monday)]


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D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
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Default  Posted: 10:14 AM, September 30th (Monday)

She got what she wanted. She got my husband. She got my life. She won.
She won nothing of value, Shelly.


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Default  Posted: 1:47 PM, September 30th (Monday)

Yes, she won a real "prize". I remind myself of that too btw. ((Hugs)) and just ignore the email - stick with NC.


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She11ybeanz
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DOH!  Posted: 1:55 PM, September 30th (Monday)

((Hugs)) and just ignore the email - stick with NC.

I am. I started thinking about what prompted her to want to write me an email at all after all this time and then I remembered a group run that she showed up to around that time that we both ended up in a group photo together with everyone at the end.... so I did some digging and found the picture just so I could see the date on it....

And lookie lookie.... It was dated April 1st.... same day as her email.

In the photo....I am smiling holding on to my running friends...and she is standing on the sidelines with her arms crossed looking defensive and miserable.... speaks a thousand words...... IMO.


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


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Default  Posted: 2:12 PM, September 30th (Monday)

If you "forgive" her, than what she did wasn't so bad, and she can sleep at night.

Hope she enjoys late night TV


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Default  Posted: 2:14 PM, September 30th (Monday)

The audacity of some people who come into our lives, blow it up, reduce it to rubble, stomp on the rubble, but, hey, lets play nice now.
Absolutely!


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Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.


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She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 2:15 PM, September 30th (Monday)

Hope she enjoys late night TV

Yeah.....cause the commercials will last longer than the sex with XWH....

haha....jokes on her! I bet that was a "BIG SURPRISE" the 1st time they had sex!!! I DID love my husband....at one time.....but he was a second man.

Minute man would have been a compliment....


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

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HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


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Default  Posted: 2:15 PM, September 30th (Monday)

I wouldn't feel bad if they got hit by a bus tragically.... not. even. one. tiny. bit.
I'm with you on this one....


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Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.


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Default  Posted: 2:50 PM, September 30th (Monday)


In the photo....I am smiling holding on to my running friends...and she is standing on the sidelines with her arms crossed looking defensive and miserable.... speaks a thousand words...... IMO.

Nailed it. She wants in and knows that you hold the keys to some of those mutual friends. Peace my ass, she just wants some more territory in your running circles.


I don't respect anyone that can't spell a word more than one way:)

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She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 3:09 PM, September 30th (Monday)

Peace my ass, she just wants some more territory in your running circles.

Very true. She KNOWS that a lot of our "mutual" friends know what she did. I certainly haven't kept her little secret for her. If she and my XWH want to rear their faces in my social circles than they have to pay the Piper and deal with who they are and how we all know each other. (and WHY I want nothing to do with either of them!) I wish I could be a fly on the wall when they tell people "How they met?"

[This message edited by She11ybeanz at 3:10 PM, September 30th (Monday)]


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D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


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Default  Posted: 3:33 PM, September 30th (Monday)

I don't want it to be awkward for either of us.
Its awkward because of what SHE and your jackass husband did. It's not awkward because of you. You are a normal human-being who wants nothing to do with a nasty POS who doesn't care about anyone else. She's an idiot who thinks that just continuing to exist is enough to excuse any horrible thing she has done. People who are full of shit say one thing and do the exact opposite.

I am not suggesting we be friends, I just don't want to be enemies.

Again, these words do not match her actions. Bitch needs to get a clue! When you do shit like that YOU MAKE ENEMIES, not friends or anything friendly or cordial. What a delusional, hot-ass mess. Other than this piece of crap non-apologetic apology letter, has she done anything to create some positivity between you are her? I'm going to bet the answer is no.

Being like that is to stressful and takes up to much energy, and I am sure neither one of us has that kind of time.
This Bitch...People like her make me sick. You know what else takes up a lot of time and energy and creates a lot of stress? A relationship with a married man! So much self-righteous bullshit from someone living like she has no soul.

Let that self-centered POS stay on the sidelines. Ignore her bullshit and show her just how much worth her words have.

She doesn't have your life. She has a poorly reproduced, crap version of your former life. She took the worst part of your life (the unfaithful, POS, cheater) and tried to create a fantasy world with him. You had the illusion of a good man, she doesn't even have that!


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Default  Posted: 3:51 PM, September 30th (Monday)

I think it was fate that you didn't find that letter until now, and from what she and your ex did to you, I'm amazed at her audacity to try to tell you how to live an authentic life.

Yep their still weird ass stalkers.


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She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 3:51 PM, September 30th (Monday)

I don't want to compete with you.

I want to point out this part of her letter as well. She said that because we are both currently in the same age group (running wise) I'm 34 and she is 33. She CAN'T compete with me because she is NOT as good of a runner as me and I have made it my personal mission to KICK HER ASS in every race that she goes up against me in.....successfully I might add!

I remember 2 years ago (almost to the day actually...in October!), she showed up with my ex-MIL to a race and went up against me in a 5k. I didn't know she was there until the turnaround and I saw her on my way back.....oh man....I put it into HIGH GEAR! I got 1st in my age group with 23:42 and she finished 4th at 26:51. She was 3 minutes and 9 seconds behind me.....which is practically a lifetime in a 5k! I really enjoyed getting a medal in front of her at the awards ceremony too...for FIRST!

What did she do after she finished the race...?? She maturely flipped me the bird!

I think it was fate that you didn't find that letter until now

I agree because I am now not tempted to respond. I may have been tempted before. And, not in a GOOD way.

has she done anything to create some positivity between you are her? I'm going to bet the answer is no.

Um... no. All she does is try to shove anything she can in my face about how great she is or be IN my face anytime I see her at a race. She is that annoying girl who purposely laughs obnoxiously loudly above everyone else to get the attention of EVERYONE...because she is THAT important......

[This message edited by She11ybeanz at 3:57 PM, September 30th (Monday)]


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


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Default  Posted: 4:12 PM, September 30th (Monday)

GRRRRRR how dare she! Yep "fuck off and die" was my first thought


Me:BW 46, Him:WH 50
two kids DD14 and DS17
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OW 28, crew member (he was the ships captain)
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Default  Posted: 4:36 PM, September 30th (Monday)


Sorry S'beanz, but what a piece of trash she is!

She wrote it because her fantasy is not working out so well. She's realized, as has he probably, that they don't still fart skittles. They have also realized that they will be looking over their shoulders at each other, and neither of them can be trusted, ever.

So, My Dear,
Smile, laugh and live. You have a wonderful, truthful life ahead of you. They never will.


In R since shortly after DD.
Discovered what was right in front of him and nearly lost.

Always, tell the other BS! Always!

"It's hard to be in love when you can't tell lies"!


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Default  Posted: 5:18 PM, September 30th (Monday)

Ugh, I'm glad that some of the other people on here can laugh and give you sane advice. Because when I read that email I just felt sick!! Sick, sick, sick. Ugh!!! Something like this would seriously make me blind with sadness and anger. Who do these people think they are?

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Default  Posted: 5:51 PM, September 30th (Monday)

She got what she wanted. She got my husband. She got my life. She won. Now leave me the FUCK ALONE.

Preach it sister!!

This is not her trying to make amends. No way in hell.

Looks like somebody might need some drama llama glue to hold their unicorn together. Sorry, we are fresh out of give-a-fuck over here and we won't be re-stocking.

Block Crickets Block Crickets Block.

Delete the damn email too so you don't revisit it during rough patches.

Fuck.That.Bitch.


Buzz- The word you are searching for is 'Space-Ranger.'
Woody- The word I'm searching for, I can't say, because there are Pre-school toys here.

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Default  Posted: 6:24 PM, September 30th (Monday)

Nothing more to add that hasn't been said. Just sending hugs

((((Shelly))))


Me BS: 35
Her WW: 34
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She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 7:41 PM, September 30th (Monday)

Looks like somebody might need some drama llama glue to hold their unicorn together. Sorry, we are fresh out of give-a-fuck over here and we won't be re-stocking.

LOVE THIS!

Is it sad that BECAUSE my XWH is a fireman/paramedic.....that I feel sick to my stomach or roll my eyes whenever I hear a firetruck or ambulance siren??? And, that I PURPOSELY had my daughter at a different local hospital from where MOW works because MOW is a nurse at our main hospital? Sad huh?

[This message edited by She11ybeanz at 7:43 PM, September 30th (Monday)]


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


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Default  Posted: 8:06 PM, September 30th (Monday)

Wow, she is insane.

Just wow.


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Default  Posted: 8:35 PM, September 30th (Monday)

Wow, she is insane

You really have NO idea HOW insane she really is!!!! To give you a small clue.... my 95 year old grandmother died almost exactly 2 months after D day and while me and my XWH were in false R. MOW emailed me saying that she "had come across my grandmother's obituary BY CHANCE in the newspaper" (we all know XWH told her about it) and that "if I could set aside our differences, she could be a friend to me in my time of need and a shoulder to cry on"....

Yeah... YUP... C-R-A-Z-Y T-R-A-I-N......just left the station folks!!!!


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


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Default  Posted: 9:51 PM, September 30th (Monday)

AYFKM? OWUmpteen is a child quivering in her skiddy undies so would never dare contact me.

I'd be reporting her and her coke head friends until they were arrested faster than you can say "Enjoy the genital herpes, c&@t".

A GF of mine has been cyber stalking her (unbeknownst to me) and before I could tell her to STFU she emailed me a pic she posted with coke and a rolled up $50 note clearly visible in the shot. Fuckwit.


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She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 7:29 AM, October 1st (Tuesday)

A GF of mine has been cyber stalking her (unbeknownst to me) and before I could tell her to STFU she emailed me a pic she posted with coke and a rolled up $50 note clearly visible in the shot. Fuckwit.

OMG.... yeah..."unfortunately" my MOW tries to be an "upstanding member of society" posing as the perfect woman/runner/nurse/hero... blah blah blah! She has even contacted my loser unemployed drunken sperm donor and put a good word in him and got him into the fire academy to become a fireman - like my XWH(in the same jurisdiction that he got fired as a sheriff for selling contraband to immates! - little does she know about that!) She will find out soon enough though when they run his background check after the academy....IF he actually makes it through and doesn't quit or get kicked out....(which is much more likely)....

Dumbass. Let him make her look like an even bigger fool than she is!

She is only trying to be "his friend" to get on my nerves. But, honestly.... she is just playing with a snake...and we all know what happens when you do that! Have fun dummy!

[This message edited by She11ybeanz at 7:29 AM, October 1st (Tuesday)]


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


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Default  Posted: 8:07 AM, October 1st (Tuesday)

I'd be tempted to respond:

"You need not worry about me wasting energy as I no longer care. Wishing both of you all the happiness that you deserve"


Your ex wanting to be friends is like asking a kidnapper to stay in touch when they let you go.

The type of fierce loyalty that I possess made me incapable of comprehending the level of disloyalty that he possessed


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Default  Posted: 8:16 AM, October 1st (Tuesday)

I'd be tempted to respond:
"You need not worry about me wasting energy as I no longer care. Wishing both of you all the happiness that you deserve"

As much as I will admit that I fantasize of all of the things that I would LIKE to say to her....and him for that matter. I digress. It would only open up the flood gates to what she called "an email war" and she is one of those people who have to get the "last word in."

I remember when she somehow got my cell phone number (I've had to change my number like 3 times due to their stalking) and I had just been laid off from my job about 2 months prior. She sent me a message calling me "pathetic and jobless." I WAS LAID OFF BITCH NOT FIRED! UGH.... I was so mad. Then, I got hired at my current job like 4 months later. It took me forever in this economy but I have a better position now than I did before!

That was also the 1st year of her and XWH's stupid "breast cancer awareness 5k race" and she mailed me a flyer to THEIR race to my EX-BOYFRIEND's address where I was staying 90% of the time at that time (this is my daughter's sperm donor). I wasn't living there...but I was practically was. But, this was NOT my address so they purposely mailed it to his house "just because" they wanted me to know that they knew where I was. It was creepy and again.... right up there on the stalker scale! Even though I had even already stated on their event page that I was NOT coming. She just wanted to rub in my face something "good" that she and XWH were doing together as a couple!

Whatever!

She is a bad person. And, I want nothing to do with her. So, I refuse to converse with her. I have no room for her in my universe.

[This message edited by She11ybeanz at 8:21 AM, October 1st (Tuesday)]


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


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Default  Posted: 8:30 AM, October 1st (Tuesday)

I used to want an apology so badly from the OW...and then I realized why?? She knew about me and didn't care, would her apology be real? I doubt it. This MOW is not worth it..she doesn't get to choose when it's time to "play nice" she was the one that was playing dirty with a woman's husband. YOU decide when to make nice, and if your decision is to never deal with this looney chick again, then do it. I would not respond.


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D-Day Summer 2013
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Default  Posted: 8:35 AM, October 1st (Tuesday)

she doesn't get to choose when it's time to "play nice"

It is out of character for her to want to "play nice!" I think the only reason she even sent that email is because she can't "get one over on me" now. She can't beat me as a runner.....because IF she could.....she would revel in it....and would be even worse towards me than she is....she would enjoy rubbing it in my face! (kinda like I enjoy beating her!) But, she would be WAY worse and gloat! She knows that I'm a good person....and took the high road. She knows I'm a single mom and have a masters degree and work full-time to support my daughter. She knows that most people know what she did. So, basically....she probably KNOWS she must look like an ASS if she is mean to me (from the point of view of others). And, since she and XWH are all about appearances.....and they CARE what others think of them and their reputation and they work SO DAMN HARD to look like saints.... she wants others to "think" she is trying to be the bigger person by contacting me first and extending an olive branch.

Please.... she can take her snake-infested olive branch and set it ablaze for all I care.... I don't want it. I don't want her. And, I don't want him in my life.... BACK. THE. FUCK. OFF.


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


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Default  Posted: 8:52 AM, October 1st (Tuesday)

she wants others to "think" she is trying to be the bigger person by contacting me first and extending an olive branch.

Please.... she can take her snake-infested olive branch and set it ablaze for all I care.... I don't want it. I don't want her. And, I don't want him in my life.... BACK. THE. FUCK. OFF.

^^THIS...ALL OF THIS^^
Forget her and her email. I will never understand the mind of an OW...but then again, I don't want too!


Me-BW Him - WH
Married 6 years, together 13+ years
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She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 8:56 AM, October 1st (Tuesday)

I will never understand the mind of an OW...but then again, I don't want too!

I think like what someone else said.... reality is finally setting in. The fantasy is fading.... the fog is lifting... and what they did is becoming more and more clear. They hurt TWO very good people. Her husband and me. And, they have to live with that. And, they have to live with each other. Enjoy your reflections Motherfu*kers....


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


Posts: 2710 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Virginia
hexed
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Default  Posted: 10:18 AM, October 1st (Tuesday)

I haven't read all the responses but I'm still wondering where it is in that e-mail that she tried to make amends?


But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler


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Spirit13
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Default  Posted: 10:41 AM, October 1st (Tuesday)

I just wanted to add.... DAMN Shelly! You are frickin fast! I would kill to run that fast.

Be proud of yourself girl! You rock!


Men were deceivers ever; one foot in sea and one on shore, to one thing constant never.

Posts: 620 | Registered: Apr 2011 | From: Midwest
She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 11:51 AM, October 1st (Tuesday)

I haven't read all the responses but I'm still wondering where it is in that e-mail that she tried to make amends?

I think she more wants to "co-exist in blissful ignorance" more than make amends.... kinda like a black widow spider and a fly chilling out together.... it isn't going to happen.


I just wanted to add.... DAMN Shelly! You are frickin fast! I would kill to run that fast.
Be proud of yourself girl! You rock!

Awww....thank you! I try my best!

[This message edited by She11ybeanz at 11:52 AM, October 1st (Tuesday)]


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


Posts: 2710 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Virginia
tryingagain74
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Default  Posted: 5:52 PM, October 2nd (Wednesday)

Oh, puh-leeze:

I HATE how happy they look together.... especially the pictures of them with my ex-family in laws.... it hurts. In one picture she calls my ex-MIL "momma" and I wanted to puke.

That crap goes on with my XWH and his Owife. Everything family-related is SUCH a big deal now when my XWH couldn't have given a crap about any of it when we were married. They love to put on the big show for everyone, and that's exactly what is going on here. She calls your ex-MIL Momma? Gosh, we're not trying too hard now, are we? What a ridiculous act, and I'm sure they're hoping you'll look up the pics or someone will tell you about them.

Glad you're staying NC. That whore doesn't deserve any more attention, especially not from you.

[This message edited by tryingagain74 at 5:52 PM, October 2nd (Wednesday)]


BS (Me) 39
Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

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