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persevere
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Default  Posted: 9:34 PM, October 2nd (Wednesday)

So I finally went back to IC today - I haven't seen her since April. And it was good. I think I'm finally ready to work on some things I haven't previously been ready for. They are some uncomfortable issues for me, which I think is why I stopped going for awhile, but I think it's time. She mentioned that she didn't think I would be back today if I wasn't ready for it. The issues in question still make me incredibly uncomfortable but that's part of the process, so I need to just move forward. (Or so I keep telling myself lol)


Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


Posts: 4513 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Texas
MovingUpward
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Default  Posted: 9:36 PM, October 2nd (Wednesday)

Persevere, you need to persevere.


AKA Moo

Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.


Posts: 52122 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Big Blue Nation
authenticnow
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Default  Posted: 5:55 AM, October 3rd (Thursday)

Good for you, Persevere.

Wishing you peace and healing.


Take up your space (and do it well).

"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."


Posts: 37563 | Registered: Sep 2007
woundedby2
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Member # 18522
Default  Posted: 4:55 PM, October 3rd (Thursday)

Good for you. I think I need to go back to IC too.

Moving forward, even in baby steps, is good.


Me: BS
2 kids: DD15 and DS18
Him: The Assclown NPD
OW: "friend" of 15 years
Divorced! Feb. 2010

Everybody, soon or late, sits down to a banquet of consequences.
~Robert Louis Stevenson


Posts: 7813 | Registered: Mar 2008 | From: SoCal
Myname
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Member # 23138
Default  Posted: 7:25 PM, October 3rd (Thursday)

Not an easy thing to do. Good job.


DD: 1-14-09 EA/PA OM #1
TT: 5-11&12-09
DD#2: 5-18-09 EA OM #2
5-31-09: Told me she hasn't loved me.
No kids
Me BH: 38
12-08-10: S

Posts: 3012 | Registered: Mar 2009 | From: Inside your computer.
Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 12:48 PM, October 4th (Friday)

I think that's great! I need to get a new IC... thank you for the reminder.

I hope your renewed meetings go well.


I bow to those who keep their hearts open when it is most difficult, those who refuse to keep their armor on any longer than they have to, those who recognize the courage at the heart of vulnerability. - Jeff Brown

Posts: 17283 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
persevere
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Member # 31468
Default  Posted: 7:41 PM, October 4th (Friday)

Thank you all - I'm half posting this so I stay the course and don't back out.


Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


Posts: 4513 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Texas
Myname
Member
Member # 23138
Default  Posted: 8:34 PM, October 4th (Friday)

I'm glad I'm not the only one that does that.


DD: 1-14-09 EA/PA OM #1
TT: 5-11&12-09
DD#2: 5-18-09 EA OM #2
5-31-09: Told me she hasn't loved me.
No kids
Me BH: 38
12-08-10: S

Posts: 3012 | Registered: Mar 2009 | From: Inside your computer.
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