Your emotional state at this point is normal. I lost a lot of weight when my wife's affair was confessed, I'd never felt pain like this in my entire life, before or since.
Can we actually r after she did it in my house and my bed while I was in the hospital.
Only time and hard work on both parts will tell. It is to early to know any answers to any of that.
Is it possible? Yes. Is it hard. Extremely.
However, the sex in the house is actually more common than people realize. It is a big taboo, and that is what makes it appealing if the opportunity exists, there is a big thrill by breaking the taboo. I've read this in more than one place, can't vouch for it's accuracy. However, having definitely had opportunity to have affairs, I would say that the woman's home is a fairly sure thing if the husband is not home.
"The woman's home is the first choice as a place for lovers to rendezvous. The second most frequent location for an affair is the man's home. Hotels were used as a primary meeting place by only 8% of those surveyed. Other places for an affair include the home of a friend, a boat, camper office or the park."
Some people just have to make sure they hit all the places...
My wife had sex in our home in our bed, in the garage, up against our car in a public lot, in a park, in his home in his and his wife's bed, in another home, on a public walking trail, in his workplace, and on a vacant housing lot....and then she ended it, just once in each place. Apparently, they missed out on the hotel.
There is nothing classy about any affair, or anyone who is involved in one.