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TrulySad
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Default  Posted: 7:14 PM, October 4th (Friday)

I just left the house. He doesn't even know. I wanted to scream, but my daughters were right there eating dinner.

I showed him a picture on Facebook of a female friend of his, very preemie baby. She isn't someone he keeps in touch with anymore, and because of his lies and ONS, he has no women on his Facebook. I thought he'd want to know she had her little one. He looked at the picture, and his ex had made a comment on it. Ughhhh. The ex is friends with this woman. He seems off in thought. I was upset because the baby was another baby born to a young lady who stupidly hooked up with a guy who uses illegal drugs. I just had another friend who's daughter had a severely premature baby, and they found drugs present in her placenta. I'm so upset with these girls who put their babies in harms way!!!!

Well WBF starts to defend her. Says she's a good person. I stop him in his tracks. How the EF does he know what kind of person she is!!!!! He's not seen her in a year. And when he had, he was never that close. I'm pissed and and tell him he knows nothing about her. He puts his hand up and says he's done talking about this.

Ummmm, excuse me??? He goes up to shower, and I just left. Pulled over to write this.

Am I wrong?

I just want to be done with this shit.

I don't think it's worth it.

I'm sorry for the vent


Me: Sad, but I will survive

True Love: What I have for my beautiful children.


Posts: 456 | Registered: Jun 2013
ontheslope
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Member # 40574
Default  Posted: 7:57 PM, October 4th (Friday)

Don't ever be sorry for venting.

But... be safe. I'm glad you pulled over to write this, but you're upset, and driving while upset can be dangerous. Just...be safe.

I'm sorry for what you are going through. I wish I could offer some advice. Best thing I can say is to take some time for yourself, maybe even keep driving, find a motel, spend a night with your thoughts, if you think it will help. But it sounds like you have some hard thinking to do.

Time will help. If there is still something worth saving in the relationship, I hope you find it.


Me: BH, 36
Her: WW, 37
Two girls 8 & 10
Married 12 years
Dday: July, 2009

She wants answers... I'm still trying to figure out what the questions are.


Posts: 269 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Maine, USA
Brokenheart777
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Member # 38561
Default  Posted: 9:38 PM, October 4th (Friday)

Although I understand that you are frustrated with your WBFs defending of OW, I think the main thing here is that this is something that you shouldn't leave in your life to look at. I had OM blocked the day I JFO and anything that could have caused me more emotional harm or frustration was blocked on FB as well. FB allows you to be connected to so much in one place, but it can often be very hurtful/counter-productive for a BS/BBF/BGF to see things that can set us back but really aren't important.

As already said, be safe. Don't drive angry. Go to a friend's place or somewhere you can cool off and maybe gain some more perspective on this.


ME - A new person
HER - A waining memory
DDay - 2/22/2013
2-3 month EA/PA
Together for 6 years, ready to start my life . . .

"I can fill the flask up, but can't get past us
I'm in the storm, staying strong, but can't get back


Posts: 177 | Registered: Feb 2013
nowiknow23
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Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 8:11 AM, October 5th (Saturday)

How are you doing this morning, TrulySad?


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


Posts: 25774 | Registered: Aug 2011
TrulySad
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Member # 39652
Default  Posted: 8:25 AM, October 5th (Saturday)

Thank you for your responses last night. I went to a Starbucks, got a coffee and sat for a while. I needed to go home and say goodnight to my little ones. I told him I didn't want him sleeping in the bed with me. He ignored me, and slept there all night.

NowIknow, thank you. I don't know the last time I've been asked how I'm doing, when something hurts like this. It may sound silly, but I'm actually crying thinking about it. I live with this man and my five children, spend my days always doing for them, and a stranger who's going through her own very deep pain has the kindness to ask.

Thank you!

I think I'm just feeling lost and sad this morning. Maybe a trip to the farmers market with the kids will change the outlook.


Me: Sad, but I will survive

True Love: What I have for my beautiful children.


Posts: 456 | Registered: Jun 2013
Marathonwaseasy
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Member # 40674
Default  Posted: 8:50 AM, October 5th (Saturday)

She is not a good person - good people do not have sex with those who are in committed relationships

That is a black and white rule of life. No exceptions.

So sorry for you


Me BS, 41
Him WS, 45
EA and PA (PA for 11 months)
DDay 13/9/13
3 children - 15,12,3
WS has bipolar, no excuse...

"We're not broken, just bent. We can learn to love again."


Posts: 421 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Ireland
nowiknow23
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Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 4:13 PM, October 5th (Saturday)

(((((TrulySad))))) Sending you strength and comfort, honey.


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


Posts: 25774 | Registered: Aug 2011
TrulySad
Member
Member # 39652
Default  Posted: 10:01 AM, October 7th (Monday)

I just wanted to say thank you again for responding. I'm feeling better today. We had it out this weekend, and only time will tell if it accomplished anything.

It's a new week, and not going to let his past take the smiles away from my children and me!


Me: Sad, but I will survive

True Love: What I have for my beautiful children.


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