User Topic: 3 Year Antiversary
Member # 29816
Content  Posted: 8:36 AM, October 5th (Saturday)

I can't believe I'm 3 years past the most traumatic event of my life. The day I not only found out about OW, but also OC. My heart still starts beating a little faster when I think about it. That entire next year was wretched as my H and I divorced, my father died, and I discovered OW was living with XH for awhile. Devastating.

But, for those just embarking on this journey, and think the adage "time heals all wounds" is just a good sound byte because clearly YOUR pain is unbearable.....I can tell you that time really does heal. 3 years ago I would have told you that the idea of XH and I getting back together was unthinkable. But, we're in R. It is slooooooow going, and we still have work to do, but I feel that we're in a much more positive space than we were even before the A.

My goal is to get to a place where this is just another day on the calendar. I think XH and I are going on a date tonight to enjoy ourselves and hopefully replace the bad memory this day represents, and Monday we have a counseling appointment. So hang in there if you're struggling. If your WS is truly remorseful, things will eventually fall into place.

Me: BW-42
Ex-WH: 34
Married: 6 years
DDay #1: 10/5/10, one week before our daughters 4th birthday
D official 2/23/11
DDay#2: 10/20/12, after 8 months of false R
OW: Delusional, stupid whore; OC officially XH's
In R

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Default  Posted: 9:05 AM, October 5th (Saturday)

great update!!! Thank you for the hope. Have fun tonight

BS 40
fWS 36 (SurprisinglyOkay)
A whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better.
"Knowing is half the battle"

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Default  Posted: 9:13 AM, October 5th (Saturday)

My goal is to get to a place where this is just another day on the calendar.

Sounds impossible, but it certainly can and does happen. Keep up the hard work, and enjoy your reclaiming night

From time to time, I do consider that I might be mad. Like any self-respecting lunatic, however, I am always quick to dismiss any doubts about my sanity. DK

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