User Topic: 2 years today...
Member # 34089
Default  Posted: 10:42 AM, October 5th (Saturday)

Dday was 2 years ago today. I remember reading posts like this in the early, painful months after dday and thinking that I would never make it. But I did.

H and I share an intimacy that we really never had, not even in the honeymoon days of our marriage. Finding out how easily a marriage can fall apart has given us both an appreciation for what we have. It's not perfect - never was - but it's ours. And we fought really hard to keep it.

I still think about it every day, especially OW. It's been 6 months since she last tried to contact H - yes, that's a year and a half of her trying to convince him that he loves her! Pathetic!
My goal for the next year is to push her out of my head for good.

That's all. Hopefully this will give a glimmer of hope to someone who's having a tough day!

Married-20 yrs
DDay 10/5/11

Trying to forgive and move on.

Posts: 151 | Registered: Dec 2011
Member # 30369
Default  Posted: 11:37 AM, October 5th (Saturday)

This is a really nice message of hope. Thanks for sharing this!

One of my biggest goals also is vacating any mind space that the OM is currently residing in. Making pretty good progress here, too. Best of continued luck to you.

Posts: 7482 | Registered: Dec 2010
Member # 40674
Default  Posted: 11:37 AM, October 5th (Saturday)

Thank you
The fact that I know it will be at least 2 years before I'm recovered scares me but it's nice to know someone has got there and is ok

Me BS, 41
Him WS, 45
EA and PA (PA for 11 months)
DDay 13/9/13
3 children - 15,12,3
WS has bipolar, no excuse...

"We're not broken, just bent. We can learn to love again."

Posts: 421 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Ireland
Member # 36622
Default  Posted: 11:39 AM, October 5th (Saturday)

Thank you for the hope!!!

BS 40
fWS 36 (SurprisinglyOkay)
A whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better.
"Knowing is half the battle"

Posts: 2628 | Registered: Aug 2012
Member # 33867
Default  Posted: 11:38 PM, October 5th (Saturday)

I will enter year 4 at the end of the month. Last year Dday was terrible and I do not want a repeat of that.

Fortunately the past year was much easier than the previous 2 so I am hoping Dday passed with no drama. I am keeping positive and appreciate your encouraging post. Thank you.

ME: 54 BS
HIM: 61 WH
Married: 28 years
D'Day: 10/29/10
in R 4 years and it's working but he is putting 200% into it (as he should) to make it right again.

The truth hurts, but I have never seen it cause the pain that lies do.

Posts: 2121 | Registered: Nov 2011
Member # 40605
Default  Posted: 1:25 AM, October 6th (Sunday)

That's me, the one having a really tough day...this helped. Thank you...

Me: BS, 43
Him: WH, 44
Together 21 years
Married 14 years
Kiddos 2,6,8,10
Dday#1 2004, 3 years after EA/PA co-worker MOW
Dday#2 8-6-13, 13 months EA/9months PA with co-worker MOW - caught not confessed
Rugsweep now, pay later. Ask me how I know.

Posts: 512 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Midwest
Member # 38814
Default  Posted: 2:23 PM, October 6th (Sunday)

Thank you. Posts like this are a source of strength for me.

Me: BH
Her: WW
Together since 2001, married since 2007.
D-day: Feb. 20, 2013.
Broke NC: 2 phone calls since
Today: In MC and IC, attempting R.
It got easier: They no longer work together.

Posts: 509 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: Canada
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