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NoAnswers37
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Default  Posted: 12:20 PM, October 5th (Saturday)

...was, what I still believe to be, the happiest day of my life.

I met him. I finally met him.

We had been speaking for a month before. Our first date could not have gone any better.

Within that year I fell in love, we made future plans, went on holiday for his birthday, which is when my world came crashing down and I found out the extent of his betrayal.

Saddest part - we had already planned this weekend. I keep thinking about where I should be now. The pub I should be been sitting in with him. Happy and content and celebrating. We were going to go back to where we met and re-live our first date.

But now I am alone and angry and desperately hurt. And discarded.

And I keep thinking, a year ago today....


Live without pretending
Love without depending
Listen without defending
Speak without offending

Posts: 122 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: England
Broken1Again
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Default  Posted: 12:57 PM, October 5th (Saturday)

Yay, Let's get this "day" over and done with. I'm glad it's here, because never again will you have to worry about this impending date. I truly believe this man did you a favour. Can you imagine spending the rest of your life with a serial cheater???? (that's what he is you know. I should know, I'm married to one). Take it from someone who knows first hand, you don't need nor want this man in your life. You are missing what you thought him to be. Not what he is.

He falsely represented himself to you. You were in love with someone who actually doesn't exist. Think about it. The man you thought he was, doesn't exist, and somewhere, someone is falling for the same BS he fed you. Poor them I say, and YAY for you that he let you go before he roped you into marriage and kids.

So though you see today as a day of misery and sadness, I see today as a day of happiness and thankfulness for you. One day you will see it that way too.


BS: 40
WS: 42
Two boys 13/11
Married 15 years
Dday: too Many to remember. 3 significant OW and many "less"'significant OW. Believe WS has bad boundaries and craves the attention.
In R.

Posts: 861 | Registered: May 2011
NoAnswers37
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Default  Posted: 10:05 AM, October 6th (Sunday)

Thanks B1A, really appreciate that. I'm not quite there yet but hopefully I will see it that way when this weekend is over!!

It's so silly, it was only a year but in that time I still felt the best of feelings, making me now feel the worst of feelings...


Live without pretending
Love without depending
Listen without defending
Speak without offending

Posts: 122 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: England
megs56
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Default  Posted: 3:33 PM, October 6th (Sunday)

Big hugs to you noanswers! I've been thinking of you all weekend. I'm sorry you have to deal with all of this. I hope one day you are able to see the anniversary day as a day of happiness instead of sadness. You are so strong so I know you will get there eventually!


Me: BGF - 29
Him: WBF - 32

I broke up with him and now I am trying to heal.

Hurt me with the truth, but never comfort me with a lie.


Posts: 118 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Sacramento, Ca
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