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Landoes
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Default  Posted: 7:38 PM, October 5th (Saturday)

My Wgf's mother took the hard drive with all the logs, pictures and videos of the affair. What should I do?
Should I file a police report so there is one if we can't R and fight for custody?

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ionlytalkedtoher
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Default  Posted: 7:53 PM, October 5th (Saturday)

yes. did you make a copy?

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Landoes
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Default  Posted: 8:04 PM, October 5th (Saturday)

I did not make a copy. I had the hard drive hidden pretty well, not well enough I guess.
Wgf has been deleting evidence, I fear she's trying to leave, which I don't care (not going to fight for a cheater) but she would take our newborn across the country!
If I 180, I wouldn't get to see my only child.

[This message edited by Landoes at 8:12 PM, October 5th (Saturday)]


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SisterMilkshake
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Member # 30024
Default  Posted: 8:21 PM, October 5th (Saturday)

I would definitely file a police report and press charges if possible. Theft is theft. How do you know she stole it?


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 9801 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
Landoes
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Default  Posted: 8:38 PM, October 5th (Saturday)

I looked for it as I was moving stuff around and organizing things for the newborn.
The thing is her parents bought her that hard drive. Can they legally take it away?
Going to file it ASAP!
Now, I fear every time my WGF leaves with the child, I'm always thinking: "is she catching a flight out if here?"
I'm riddled with anxiety, WGF lied again. I'm in such a rough spot

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standingonmarble
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Default  Posted: 9:04 PM, October 5th (Saturday)

get with a lawyer and find out your rights, what would happen if she left and then filed for divorce as opposed to you filing in your home state.

They might have other information about your rights that you wouldn't have even thought about . Don't let yourself get blindsided. If she gave the hard drive away, she can't be that trustworthy.


At one time he was a man standing on marbles. Now I am a woman standing on marble.....

We are done fighting with each other and decide to fight FOR each other.


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SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 9:09 PM, October 5th (Saturday)

Are you on the childs birth certificate? If you are, you do have rights and she can't take the child out of state. Well, she can, but you do have legal recourse. Definitely get a lawyer to find out what your rights are, Landoe. (((Landoe))) I am so sorry. This sucks.

Congrats on your baby!


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 9801 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
SpiderGrl
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Default  Posted: 9:54 PM, October 5th (Saturday)

Yikes, lawyer up immediately. If you file before she leaves she can't leave if the judge says so. If se leaves before you have papers or starting proceedings they probably wouldn't make her come back. Depends on he state. Some states really suck like that.


Me 36- BW
Him 37- WH 6 month EA pushing PA.
DDAY- 7/2/13
Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indomitable will. -Gandhi
Pls forgive weird sentences and spelling mistakes, I post from my phone and autocorrect hates me.

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