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PhoenixRisen
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Member # 35912
Default  Posted: 3:41 PM, October 6th (Sunday)

I just joined about 2 days ago and first off nearly everyone seems pretty normal. I've gotten about 70 messages - which is kinda overwhelming esp since I'm in a smallish town, but I figure I popped up on the "new list" so I'm the shiny new toy in the sand lot. And most of them are just "hi"... but a handful include a decent amount of info/interaction to get a conversation started

BUT...
I just read this one man's profile and he goes on and on about what type of pubic hair he wants in in g/f!!!

LOL!!!

*shaking my head*

and he includes a section about sending nude pics.
(granted lots of people do that... but to post it in your profile!!)

If I see him at the supermarket I know I'll just crack up (and dodge down another isle)!

Dating sure has changed in the past 15 years *sigh*

[This message edited by PhoenixRisen at 3:41 PM, October 6th (Sunday)]


Posts: 485 | Registered: Jun 2012
cmego
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Member # 30346
Default  Posted: 5:12 PM, October 6th (Sunday)

Yup, some days are overwhelming with the contact, and the same guys contact me over and over and over.

I've learned to send a polite no "thank you", I stay away from any profile that is sex focused or generally weird.

Overall, I've learned to roll my eyes, respond to the ones that I have a vague interest in, stay away from most of the "separated" men and just try to have some fun.


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced

"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings


Posts: 4142 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: South
hellzapoppin
Member
Member # 5655
Default  Posted: 5:25 PM, October 6th (Sunday)

I've been reading these OLD posts in this forum for a while.

I got a puppy instead.


Him-WH
Me - BW
M 21 years
Divorced by stealth

Posts: 1310 | Registered: Oct 2004
GrievingMommy
Member
Member # 28127
Default  Posted: 6:34 PM, October 6th (Sunday)

Yes, the initial onslaught of interest when you first sign up is normal. It'll slow down.

I've gotten good at ignoring the crazy sounding profiles. A lot of times I will say a simple 'Thanks but I'm looking for someone local' which ends the emails.

In the last couple of weeks, I've been in contact with a few men I've met online. It's refreshing when the respectable ones do NOT ask for "more pics". After talking about two weeks, I went out on a first date last night with a very nice man (and HOT!!). Hopefully things go well.

You just have to be patient and weed through them!


Me - Now 36 y/o
WXH: Now 45 y/o and 18+ hrs away -NPD asshole now onto wife #3.
My sweeties: 5 yr old B/G twins. 90% custody (or more) since 14 months old.
D-Day 4/4/10 PA('s?) & EA's - D'd 7/11

Posts: 1691 | Registered: Apr 2010 | From: Upper Midwest
persevere
Member
Member # 31468
Default  Posted: 1:08 AM, October 7th (Monday)

Boundaries are extremely important in OLD. Don't accept anything that concerns you.,


Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


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