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IslandGirl18
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Default  Posted: 9:34 PM, October 6th (Sunday)

Has anyone watched these shows? I am watching Betrayed and I am repulsed. I think these shows really try to glorify these relationships. I am hoping they give true credence to the destruction these betrayals create.

I am watching to see the consequences, the revelation of the truth, etc. I am finding that everywhere I turn, there is deceit. I know honorable people exist. I wish I had married one.


me: BS
him: WS

D Day: July 27, 2012
Day of first suspicion: 6/7/11
DD#2: November 2, 2012

Divorced


Posts: 105 | Registered: Sep 2012
SSmile
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Default  Posted: 9:39 PM, October 6th (Sunday)

I am watching both and I don't know why. I feel like I am just torturing myself. The finale of Mistresses was hard for me. I do want to see how it all plays out I guess.


Anyone can give up, it's the easiest thing in the world to do. But to hold it together when everyone else
would understand if you fell apart, that's true strength.
-unknown

Posts: 84 | Registered: Dec 2012
cuppacoffee
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Default  Posted: 6:33 AM, October 7th (Monday)

Me too!
I suppose I like to torture myself.

I wish there was a show about being faithful instead of this junk.
Shoot even drop dead diva had a cheating kiss. It's like no show is safe.


I'm like a vacuum bag
That holds all that old dirt
Remember that time we said we'd be together forever?
Don't hate me, don't regret me, don't ever forget me
Wherever you go, whatever you do, don't say I never loved you

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heme
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Default  Posted: 7:05 AM, October 7th (Monday)

I couldn't watch those shows BEFORE D-day. It would kill me to watch them now. I don't understand why they glorify cheating and lying. Why not a good show about a happy family with faithful, loving spouses?


BS: Me (30)
WS: Husband (31)
Married 8 years, together 9
D-Day: Sept 10, 2013
D-Day2: May 31, 2014
Children: 5, ages 7, 5, 3, 1 and due in September

Leaning towards leaving, no one deserves this pain.


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7yrsflushed
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Default  Posted: 7:12 AM, October 7th (Monday)

Never was even interested and you left off a show I despise but everyone I know seems to love, Scandal. Another show that glorifies A's and messed up behaviors.


D-day 5/24/11
BH = Me
2 children
The first true sense of calm I felt in YEARS was when I filed for D...
Divorced 9/2/14 and loving life!

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cuppacoffee
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Member # 39313
Default  Posted: 8:34 AM, October 7th (Monday)

And
grey's anatomy
How I met your mother
Mad men
Walking dead (okay she thought her husband was dead but then he shows up...)
Army wives

Almost everything I watch..


I'm like a vacuum bag
That holds all that old dirt
Remember that time we said we'd be together forever?
Don't hate me, don't regret me, don't ever forget me
Wherever you go, whatever you do, don't say I never loved you

Posts: 361 | Registered: May 2013
FeelingMN
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Member # 32240
Default  Posted: 8:42 AM, October 7th (Monday)

I trigger anytime I see betrayal on tv or movies. I'm sure fWW does to but you could hear crickets chirping.

She wanted to watch Mad Men because she heard it was good. She doesn't know anything about it. I told her I have no interest in ever watching it.

TV is hard I couldn't watch those shows without my blood pressure rising.


Me 41
fWW 37
DD(19), DS(17), DD(11) (Mine, hers, ours)
Together 14y, Married 12
DDay Aug 2010, 4 mos TT & gaslighting
ONS + EA after 15yr Class reunion out of state

Posts: 267 | Registered: May 2011 | From: Minnesota
OldCow18
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Member # 39670
Default  Posted: 9:05 AM, October 7th (Monday)

TV is next to impossible to watch with WH. Forget the obvious triggering shows like Betrayal and Mistresses or Mad Men, True Blood, etc, etc. etc. The other night we were watching Modern Family and I freaking triggered because of the wedding stuff. We're going to have to stick to documentaries at this point. Will it ever get better??


Me, BW forty something, DD & DS,
Married to WH (49) 11 years, together 16
D-Day 6.8.13

Posts: 620 | Registered: Jun 2013
catlover50
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Default  Posted: 9:05 AM, October 7th (Monday)

Yeah I finally felt in a place where I could watch Scandal. The episode I watched they made the wife out to be a bitch and the A relationship to be "true love". Never mind that the character of the president killed an old lady who threatened to tell that he had stolen the race. He's a good guy and his wife is a bitch that deserves to be cheated on and is getting in the way of true love.

I told my H that I didn't think that show deserved a place in our lives and he agreed.



Dday -9/24/2012
Reconciling

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Merlin
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Default  Posted: 9:09 AM, October 7th (Monday)

Playing on infidelity is low hanging fruit for TV and movie script writers. They don't have to think. They just write this trash and wait for viewers that thrive on the easy drama.

Turn it off and read a book.

You have more important things to be doing.

[This message edited by Merlin at 9:09 AM, October 7th (Monday)]


"I never saw a wild thing sorry for itself. A bird will fall frozen dead from a bough without ever having felt sorry for itself." D. H. Lawrence

Her: WW/57 Me: BS/63 24yrs M
3 great kids, now 22, 20, 17 b,b,g
D-Day 8/14/08, D 1/13/11


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brokendancer7
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Default  Posted: 9:42 AM, October 7th (Monday)

I can't even watch the commercials for those ABC shows.

But not even PBS is safe. We were watching Father Brown Mysteries the other night, and the plot included a guy who was blackmailing another man's wife to sleep with him.

To his credit, FWH asked if I was ok or wanted to change the channel.


Me: BS - 58
Him: WS - 56
Married 34 yrs

Latest DD - April 2013, PA


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Kierst13
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Default  Posted: 9:46 AM, October 7th (Monday)

I watch HGTV and almost nothing else.


Story in my profile
He lied, I gave the gift of R
He became the model remorseful WS...all while lying and seeing her
Am I done? Yes I am!

Posts: 347 | Registered: May 2013
LostAngry
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Default  Posted: 10:32 AM, October 7th (Monday)

I have not seen either of those shows. I am ashamed to admit that my guilty pleasure of TV is Scandal.


"How people treat you is their Karma. How you react is yours."
Wayne Dyer

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WhatsRight
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Default  Posted: 10:49 AM, October 7th (Monday)

A bit of a t/j -

I often wish that my husband would see or hear what goes on in these movies - but he just leaves the room or changes the channel.

Anyway, yesterday, I was watching "The Wedding Date". The guy is coming back from the bachelor party, asking the escort why his best man would offer a hooker to him on the day before his wedding. The escort responds,

"It has been my experience that a man in love doesn't want a prostitute." And, yes, my husband heard it. He, of course didn't respond. But it gave me just a bit of a validation (in addition to the obvious trigger) for what my husband did - and that he heard someone use those words. That it just wasn't me who felt that way.

Yes - you're right. I am so pitiful at this point that I am validated by a movie! Good Lord!

end t/j. Sorry.


"Noone can make you feel inferior without your concent." Eleanor Roosevelt

I will not be vanquished. Rose Kennedy


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SSmile
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Default  Posted: 11:17 AM, October 7th (Monday)

last night didnt turn out so hot...I had dvr'd "Betrayal" while on SI last night

yes I know how that sounds but you know how if you pause a show and watch it..the show will play just later? well my WH just happened to walk in the door from work and walked in on the scene where she comes to husband's office and the OM is there and they looked shock but pretend not to know each other? My WH starts chuckling at that and I just lost it.. I started screaming "you think that's funny you a**hole???" and it went on. (I dont think he even knew what the show was) but he figured it out real quick. :( He profusely apologized and got very upset and said all the right things but I hate this pain he has caused. I think I won't be watching it anymore.


Anyone can give up, it's the easiest thing in the world to do. But to hold it together when everyone else
would understand if you fell apart, that's true strength.
-unknown

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