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betraydtwice
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Default  Posted: 10:56 AM, October 7th (Monday)

So I went and visited my brother yesterday. This is the first time I talked to him about what H did.

My brother told me that he thinks that when she (OW) realized she was getting nothing from the family..(cash etc) she went after H to F**k me and family over.
He said to me that he thinks she set a trap for H and he fell for it. My brother thinks she wanted to get back at me. He thinks that when she realized that we weren't going to give her anything she wanted to screw me over.

My family is comfortable financially, but when she showed up, my mother had a bad feeling about her. She told us all not to go overboard with her...we didn't.

I'm trying to make sense of it all in my mind. H says they talked about running away together, but at the same time she goes to my mother and tell my mother that he won't leave her alone..She was literally crying to my mom. But I see her texts at the same time to him and she's telling him she loves him...Can't figure out this girl's game...

Thoughts anyone????


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Marathonwaseasy
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Default  Posted: 11:02 AM, October 7th (Monday)

Entirely possible

Some OW are definitely motivated in this way. I'm sure my FWH's AP was. She hates me for my success. When he tried to end the affair she was all "why does she have everything"

Er because he's my husband and I spent my youth studying while you whored around.

After dday and NC it was me she kept texting.

Judge people by their actions - your OW sounds like she had a warped agenda

That said our WH's did not have to fall into the traps that were set.


Me BS, 41
Him WS, 45
EA and PA (PA for 11 months)
DDay 13/9/13
3 children - 15,12,3
WS has bipolar, no excuse...

"We're not broken, just bent. We can learn to love again."


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betraydtwice
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Default  Posted: 11:06 AM, October 7th (Monday)

Oh I agree with that about him falling. What a dumbass.. I wish he would have thought about it more....boy do I wish

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 1:14 PM, October 7th (Monday)

Her actions (texting words of love to your H) are in conflict with her words (what she said to your mom). She sounds like a mess, betrayd, regardless of what her game is/was.


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