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Whattodo2012
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Question  Posted: 3:52 PM, October 7th (Monday)

I'm looking for insight/advice as to how to handle telling the OW's husband. Supposedly the same info was given to him but I don't know for sure if he actually received it. I have no concerns breaking the news to him if doesn't already know. I'm cautious because I don't know how he will react. I don't want him to cause a big "earthquake" ....aka threaten, tell everyone, etc while I'm still trying to figure out what I'm doing. What have you all done? How did you even go about starting that conversation? And what happened afterwards? Thanks for your insight.


What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us. ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

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ascian
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Default  Posted: 4:29 PM, October 7th (Monday)

In my case, the Other Man spoke with his wife who (wisely, it turned out) contacted me to verify events.

Our situation is complicated, though, since both families were friends before the affair, and I'm not interested in calling him out publicly, at least not right now. (Basically because I don't want a chance of "Oh, look what PTSD made the poor vet do" sympathies for the Other Man, and because I'd rather work on repairing my own relationship right now. There'll be time in the future for the rest.)

My wife and I are working towards reconciliation, and the other woman is working to reconcile her friendship with my wife somewhat as well.

So, I'm sorry that I don't have any direct advice to give. Had my wife's affair been with a stranger, my approach to the OM's wife would have been simple, direct, and sympathetic, with lots of documentation offered.


Me - BH 39
Her - FWW 36
D-Day: 8/13
Working on R

Posts: 266 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Midwest
SuperDuperWonderboy
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Default  Posted: 5:16 PM, October 7th (Monday)

I told OM's wife. Sent her an email explaining who I was and what had happened.
The problem was that my wife expected me to tell her, and she warned the OM. He intercepted it and she never got it.

About two weeks later I sent her an email at work asking if she was o.k. or if she wanted any information. OM didn't intercept that one, and she called me back.

be straightforward and compassionate. From reading the boards, I believe that a small minority of BS's don't want to hear the truth, but the majority of what I have read leads me to believe that most BS's are incredibly grateful to find out the truth.

In my case, the OM's wife was very receptive, and it also gave us both peace of mind because we were able to piece together enough information to find out the truth, and to help ensure that NC was truly met.


My Friends call me Wonderboy--That's Mr. SuperduperWonderboy to you Tred.


Posts: 1272 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Everett
unfound
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Default  Posted: 5:28 PM, October 7th (Monday)

I called the OW's BS on dday. I simply said "my name is unfound. My husband is having an affair with your wife. I have the phone records if you want to see them".

Unfortunately, he did not accept this information gracefully. He was in denial and went so far to tell me (screaming at me) that I was lying, I was crazy, Mr Unfound was lying, etc...

Even though it didn't go like I thought it would, I'm glad I did it. At the time it knocked me on my ass, but I realized that I had done all I could and the rest of up to him.

If I had to do it over again, I'd be more prepared, do it when I was calmer, and be ready for a reaction I might not expect.

When you do, be gentle, focused and have a way to give proof if needed. Give the info and then let go of the outcome.

[This message edited by unfound at 5:29 PM, October 7th (Monday)]


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suposd2btheonly1
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Default  Posted: 5:30 PM, October 7th (Monday)

I know I shouldnt have done this, I acted strictly out of anger, but I told not only the OWs fiance but everyone, including her parents on her Facebook friends list.

Even though I know I shouldn't have told so many people I don't regret it bc now all her friends know to watch their husbands around that little tramp. And mommy and daddy know they raised a little whore....not my problem


Me: BW 31
Him: WH 30
OW: 22yo whore who is still planning her wedding
Married 3yrs, together 5
4 kids, all boys 14, 11, 4 and 8mos...I hope like hell they don't hurt someone the way he hurt their mama
Dday: August 9, 2013
S, until his head

Posts: 206 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Oklahoma
PreachersWife1
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Default  Posted: 7:14 PM, October 7th (Monday)

Because the OW and her spouse were friends of ours and had been to our house many times, I immediately called him when I had video proof of the affair that was taking place at my ranch. I got his voicemail and simply said, "Hi, just thought you might like to know I caught OW & my husband making out in my barn. I have video if you'd like to see it". Never heard from him so I was curious to know if she intercepted the message. Next day I sent him a text asking if he received my message and all I got back was "Yes, now lose my phone number". Wasn't quite the reaction I expected but nonetheless, I felt he needed to know what a tramp he was married to. Wouldn't have it any other way and if the situation were reversed, I'd want someone to tell me too. You never know how deceitful a person can actually be...and I think it's fair, especially if the OP is married! I don't regret it one bit, even if nothing ever came of it. My feeling is....if OW feels it's OK to wreck my family and my life, I'm willing to return the favor.

[This message edited by PreachersWife1 at 7:15 PM, October 7th (Monday)]


Me: BS 39
Him: WH 47
Children: His - 10, but I am MOM
Married: almost 5 years, together 7
DDay: July 11, 2013 PA/EA caught via hidden video camera at my own home :(
Working towards R...but every day is a struggle.

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RidingHealingRd
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Default  Posted: 12:47 AM, October 8th (Tuesday)

It took me about 2 weeks to locate MOW BH telephone #. I called his work number and said,

"Hi XXX, my name is Ridinghealingrd. My H, XXX works with your wife XXX and I wanted to let you know that they have been engaged in an A."

I proceeded to tell him the information that I learned from my WH and shared the emails I had collected off his blackberry.

MOW BH informed me that he was suspicious and had thought about hiring a PI (I wanted to scream, why the hell didn't you?).

He was not pleased but did not get angry with me. He asked that I send him the emails. We never spoke again.

There was never a doubt that I would tell POS MOW BH...I knew on Dday I would be making that call.


ME: 54 BS
HIM: 61 WH
Married: 28 years
D'Day: 10/29/10
in R 3.5 years and it's working but he is putting 200% into it (as he should) to make it right again.

The truth hurts, but I have never seen it cause the pain that lies do.


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sohowamI
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Default  Posted: 3:13 AM, October 8th (Tuesday)

The OW (#5 of 12 years) wouldn't stop contacting my WS even after he had told her that it was over (notwithstanding that he really didn't want it to finish...)

After six weeks of TTing and her further explicit sexual texts to him, my WS asked me to contact her BS and tell him that I knew.

I sent her BS a FB message. He emailed me the following day to tell me that he KNEW. That he had KNOWN from the very beginning. That he FELT for me but that there was no use in any further correspondence between us!

She was incensed that I had contacted her BS, by the way. Blamed ME. Sent an email to my WS that I was 'a fucking insane bitch of a wife...' Charming.

In any event, we haven't heard from her or her BS again but isn't that the weirdest thing? The fact that he actually knew all along (TWELVE YEARS) and did absolutely NOTHING about it!

So my advice: always tell the BS. If they want to be deluded, fine. You are the one who will have some kind of 'closure' on it.


WS had two LTAs of 10 years and 12 years; further 8/9 affairs; EAs, 2 OC. Looks horrific but he is fully immersed in trying to find the 'broken.' It's on-going and painful. If there's a blue sky and sunshine, then it's a good day.

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homewrecked2011
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Default  Posted: 3:23 AM, October 8th (Tuesday)

I would say have some kind of proof and go talk to the person face to face if you can, or call them at work where you KNOW you are talking to them. Do not warn anyone.

We were all friends, so when I called the HOW they had already told him how crazy I had gotten while he had been working off-shore oil for 2 months. All I had was heresay--didn't know about VAR at that time. Months later when I subpoenaed the phone records of WH -- finally the proof I needed, WH's atty had the judge put a restraining order on me prohibiting me from showing the phone records to anyone -- as they were from his company. sigh.

I was hesitant to tell HOW because I thought he would throw her out and my WS and she could be together, so I didn't try to tell him at the beginning. Now, looking back, I should have told him ASAP because while I was deciding what to do, it gave them a couple months to "date" and "try on" the new relationship.


me BS 52
him - 46
married 15 years DIVORCED 10 31 12
children - ds15 ds12
d-day 12-19-11
I gave a 24hour ultimatum then went to attorney next day
Divorce filed

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hurtsobadinside
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Default  Posted: 5:43 AM, October 8th (Tuesday)

Whattodo

You must definitely tell the affiar partner's faithful spouse. They have every right to know "whats going on in their marriage"

When my WW said she felt stalked (totally in a fog)on my confrontation day with her, I responded with "So you dont think I have any right to know whats going on in my marriage" becasue I do think i have every right to know what's going on my my marriage?..
after I said that, she didnt say one word..(gave me a deer in headlights look) that stops them in their tracks.

If was my friends @ SI that continued to prompt me to tell my wayward wife's affair partner's faithful wife. and to this day i cannot say thank you enough for that support.

I called AP's wife on the phone (turned off my caller ID on my cell) and called almost 20 times in one day before she finally answered.
I then identified myself, and told her that her husband and my wife were having an affair, and her response was "it doesnt suprise me". calmly too

To this day she thanks me over and over for making that call. She attributs my support to her of trying to repair her marriage in fact she told her wayward husband on several occasions, if it wasnt for me she would have "D" him.

We continued to stay in contact for months watching our wayward's every move until the real NC occurred in July 2012. We do talk occasionally just to see how things are going.

Thats how we knew that NC had not occurred becasue we stayed in contact.

NC did eventually occur (intiated by my WW) and we both are working on our marriages.

Affairs thrive in secrecy, breaking that secrecy will usually stop the affair.
when faithful wife confronted, AP caved in immediately, confessed everything to his faithful wife and threw my WW under the bus, my WW was empotionally involved (just like the books say)and it took longer for her to come out of the "fog".

I am sending you strength to advise the AP's faithful spouse becasue they have every right to know whats going on in their marriage and get thru this mess your broken wayward spouse got you into

I also sent AP's wife several books from amazon. "Not just Friends" by Shirley Glass is one of the best as is "How to Help Your Spouse Heal From Your Affair?"

me: 58
her WW- 57
7 yr LTA (PA & EA-maybe 10yrs?) with her former boss
one d-24 yrs old
married 25 yrs
in "R"
and its been roller-coaster
D-day 3-13-12
confronted 6 wks later
Fog, denials, blame shifting, rub sweeping, TT you name it and she did it but things are finally getting better very slowly
its a long road....and painful


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HereWeGo62
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Default  Posted: 6:16 AM, October 8th (Tuesday)

I told the OM's long term girlfriend / Fiance. It took me a little while to find her and she was very thankful. I also told her of two women that were friends of my FWW that also slept with he fiance. She ended up dumping him and I have been on her Christmas card list for the last two years.

People have a right to know what is going on in their lives. Their health and well being is being put at risk by someone that is supposed to love, support, and protect them. Having an A shows a blatent disregard for all three of those qualities.

Please let the BH what his wife has been up to. It is not the easy thing to do but it is the right thing to do.


If there is reincarnation I hope OM comes back as a low water flush truck stop toilet!

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Default  Posted: 7:41 AM, October 8th (Tuesday)

How I wish someone would have told me without me having to find it on my own. How I wish there would have been another spouse, either to tell me, or for me to tell. If I would have confronted my wife with no evidence, she would have lied, lied, lied. She lied the way it was, but it didn't last long, and the truth came out in pieces after I started pulling at strings. Do the other person a favor and be prepared with your proof. Don't have any expectations on how they react. Just do what your heart tells you to do..... Best wishes!!


dday: 1/19/13
ME: mid 40's
WW: low 40'3
2 daughters, 17, 21
Reconciling

Posts: 83 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Midwest
summerain
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Default  Posted: 7:43 AM, October 8th (Tuesday)

I did, but it was ignored completely (to my knowledge) she had spun some lie. However the relationship is over (I still stalk her FB every so often).

But my advice is if you're not sure do it anonymously. They do have the right to know, but you must put your well-being first.


OW1 inadvertently let me know WH loves English breakfast tea. Never ever saw him drink it. And I never will.

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toomanyregrets
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Default  Posted: 12:11 PM, October 8th (Tuesday)

In my case, I held off telling the BW. She was pregnant with the OM's 4th child and I did not want to be the one to cause any complications.
And besides, the OM had to tell his BW why he'd been fired.

I was very lucky in that the guy who caught them "in the act" was a friend who called me immediatley.


BH - 64
fWW - 59

"Affairs are not mistakes, they are a series of deliberate choices." - CrappyLife


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NeverAgain2013
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Default  Posted: 12:19 PM, October 8th (Tuesday)

Supposedly the same info was given to him but I don't know for sure if he actually received it.

I don't understand this. Who supposedly gave him 'the same information you were given? Do you mean that his wife was supposed to have told her husband the same information your husband told you? Sorry, I'm confused.


Be careful - that 'knight in shining armor' may very well be nothing more than an assclown wrapped in tin foil.
ME: 50+ years old and cute as a button :-)
Ex-WBF: Just a lying, cheating, gravy-sucking pig - and I left him in 2012.

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iwillNOT
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Default  Posted: 1:24 PM, October 8th (Tuesday)

I messages OW's BH on Facebook right away after dday but never heard back. For a month it haunted me that maybe OW had intercepted my message and he did not know. I could not stand the thought that I knew and maybe he did not. Finally, a month later, I could not take the doubt any longer. I called him at work, identified myself, and let him know I just had to make sure he knew about the affair. He basically told me he had received my Facebook message and had purposely not replied, and that he did not want to talk to me, but that yes he did know about it. Who knows what kind of story OW spun for him, but I tried to talk with him and my conscience is clear.


Me: BS, 43
Him: WH, 44
Together 21 years
Married 14 years
Kiddos 2,6,8,10
Dday#1 2004, 3 years after EA/PA co-worker MOW
Dday#2 8-6-13, 13 months EA/9months PA with co-worker MOW - caught not confessed
Rugsweep now, pay later. Ask me how I know.

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cluless
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Happy  Posted: 1:39 PM, October 8th (Tuesday)

I found OWH on FB and simply said "You're wife is having an affair with my husband, if you'd like to talk about it, here is my phone number " he called me back with her there the next day. I could hear her say "who's that babe?" He said "my name" and I would have given ANYTHING to see her expression


WH 57
BS 55 -- Me!
LTA EA/PA 1-1/2 years.
D-Day 8-12, 2nd D-Day 9-13, 3rd D-Day 10-13 (stopped counting tt still coming in)
Married 17 yrs, together 20.
MC & IC has been a JOKE.

Status: In careful R. Sometimes spinning our wheels and starti


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gonecrazy
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Default  Posted: 1:50 PM, October 8th (Tuesday)

I called the OW husband the next day. I felt bad doing it because he was at home dying of cancer. The best thing that came out of it was that within a week he went and changed his will. Leaving the house that had been his family for years to HIS children. Who within 3 months of his passing tossed her out on her ear? Talk about Karma, no home, no money, no job…….!!!


Me BW 50
Him WH 63
D-DAY 2/9/06 ONS, one of 3
Separated 3-08-09
Back together 06-11

Posts: 86 | Registered: Dec 2006 | From: SE Ohio
SeanFLA
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Default  Posted: 2:41 PM, October 8th (Tuesday)

Told his wife and then reported him to his employer...The US Military Command...basically his General. He was a Lt. Colonel serving overseas who was on his way home for his son's birth on emergency leave and he and exWW "set up" a nice meeting in Atlanta on his overnight layover. ExWW told me she had an emergency business trip she had to go on...same night as our son's Xmas pageant at his parochial school. I was texting her pictures during it sitting next to my in-laws because I felt so horrible she had to travel during it. I couldn't understand why she was replying to my texts. I was formally interview by his command because he had high clearance. I believe he was forced to resign or court martialed from the Army and I ended his 20 year career. His wife thanked me for calling her. I feel bad for her that her husband lost his job and benefits but F' him.


BS(me) 48
WW 46
1 son 14 yrs old
Married 18 yrs, together 21 yrs

"You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have." ~ Bob Marley


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Whattodo2012
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Default  Posted: 3:12 PM, October 8th (Tuesday)

Supposedly the same info was given to him but I don't know for sure if he actually received it

Neveragain2013..... How I found out is through an anonymous note. In it, that person said he/she had sent a similar note to the OW's husband. I confronted my WH & he admitted to the affair (I never did tell him how I knew). So I don't know if OW's husband actually received his note or if somehow OW intercepted it. I do know that my WH told the OW that I know.

Thank you all for your responses. I need to just do it now so I can get it off my mind.


What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us. ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

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snowseason
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Default  Posted: 3:28 PM, October 8th (Tuesday)

I contacted the OM's BW. I waited three months. I had to think about it and read tons of advice on this site. My FWW felt like if I contacted the OM's BW that she might end up at our door, etc. and was afraid of the fall out. Frankly, until you contact the OP's spouse, the impact of the affair will not end and you can't start true R. Contacting the OP's spouse either puts an end to the secrecy of the affair and any continued contact, or your spouse will move on. I contacted the OM's BS by calling her. I had to do research to find out where she worked. I realized if I called her a home the OM might intercept the call and I did not want to go to their home. I also would have wanted someone to have told me personally and not in an email, etc. I told her that her H had an affair with my wife and gave her the details she needed. I had confirmed proof since I caught them so to speak in the act naked together(or just before or after the act). I explained that to her and there was not doubt, plus I had other evidence. Needless to say, our R did not start until after I had contacted the OM's BW. My FWW then saw the true jerk he was as he tried to "save" himself and threw her under the bus. The OM even tried to tell his BW that I was making the stuff up to just cause issues. She and I spoke again a week later and I could see he had manipulated her .. I simply told her what do I have to gain from this... and offered to send her a tape recording of her H admitting to the affair to me over the phone the day after DDay when he was desperate to get me to not tell his wife. Yes, where I live it is legal to tape record a conversation if you are a party to the conversation. Ok, a long explaination , but I would contact the OP's spouse and do it over the phone or in person. You would likely want the same courtesy so you could ask questions, etc. Good luck and please tell the OP's spouse.

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Whattodo2012
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Default  Posted: 4:04 PM, October 8th (Tuesday)

Thank you all for your support & encouragement. I just spoke with OW's husband. I called him at work and said, "hi, NAME, this is MY NAME....do you know who I am?" He immediately said yes and we got into a 20 minute conversation. He was in the same boat wondering whether or not to call me and make sure I was aware of the affair and said he was glad I called. We discussed the conversations we had with each of our BS. Of course he is back & forth on emotions & decisions and I strongly encouraged him to seek counseling and this site. I hope he does.

Albeit a small one, it's one thing I can check off on my seemingly never-ending checklist.


What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us. ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

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LearningToFly
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Default  Posted: 6:31 PM, October 8th (Tuesday)

I haven't contacted the OBS. I wanted to and tried to call and had someone from out of state call too. She either answered or the answering machine answered. She must have figured out who I was because she blocked my number. He is retired and doesn't have Face Book or any other way of being contacted that I could find.

When we started marriage counseling, my husband brought up his "fears" of the other man committing suicide or going crazy. He is a vet with PTSD. The counselor told me not to call because then I would be responsible for anything that happened. She also inferred that she would not work with us if I wouldn't agree to that. I want to give our marriage a chance so I agreed. BUT, I agree with Snowseason. Recovering from this will not really begin until I do let him know or at least find out that he knows already. I feel like I am keeping their dirty little secret. Its was a year and a half long distance emotional affair with two meet-ups. WH says they didn't go beyond a kiss and I believe him. (you'd have to know him) Still, they both emotionally bonded and left their spouses in the dirt. If we don't work out, I am going to call him. I really feel trapped right now and the respect for my husband is at an all time low because of his campaign to get the counselor on board and protect the OW and his own butt. I resent him for putting me in this position.


Me - BS (53) Him-WS(58)
Her OW(55) HighSchoolGirlfriend
Together 30 years Married 28 Kids 24,21,18
D day Feb 26 2013 after 20 months
D day March 4 they met again "to say goodbye"
D day April 2 found out about secret email

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SuperDuperWonderboy
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Default  Posted: 7:02 PM, October 8th (Tuesday)

Good job Whattodo. That took strength and guts.


My Friends call me Wonderboy--That's Mr. SuperduperWonderboy to you Tred.


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WIgirl
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Default  Posted: 1:11 AM, October 9th (Wednesday)

I'm glad you called him - that was very brave. It sounds like it went as well as I could.

I waited 3 months to tell the OBS. I wish I would have done it sooner, but I had assumed the affair was really over...silly me.

We were all friends who met on an overseas job assigment. They moved away about a week after DDay, thank God...so there was at least never any more physical contact. But the texting, messaging still continued...

Anyway, when I found that out I sent an email to the OBS. "You may already know this, but if you don't, I'm sorry to be the one to tell you, etc, etc." We talked on the phone a few times after that to share information and vent and cry. He had suspected an affair too, but was in so much denial like I was that the red flags just weren't red enough.


Me: 38 yo BW
Him: 40 yo WH
2 daughters (8, 5); married 15 yrs
DD: 6/2/13 (5 mo EA/PA with coworker)
Separated/Divorcing

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RidingHealingRd
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Default  Posted: 2:24 AM, October 9th (Wednesday)

and said he was glad I called

^^^For all those BS who struggle with "Should I tell?"

Yes, yes, yes.

Good for you whattodo.


ME: 54 BS
HIM: 61 WH
Married: 28 years
D'Day: 10/29/10
in R 3.5 years and it's working but he is putting 200% into it (as he should) to make it right again.

The truth hurts, but I have never seen it cause the pain that lies do.


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SurvivingDad
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Default  Posted: 3:45 PM, October 9th (Wednesday)

When I told WW that I knew, she warned OM that I was probably coming to his house (I just went for a long drive). Next day WW told me he wanted to meet with me. He droned about some BS and begged me to give him the weekend to tell his wife, since they were going on a trip with the kids. I said "By Monday night, she calls me or I call her. Your choice". She called me Sunday night, I verified that he had told her what I knew, and he mostly had. Because there was a period where both WW and OM had "agreed" to NC we spoke a couple of times to keep tabs. When I found out there was a motel room booked one night, I called her and told her. That was a fun night :)

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coda87
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Default  Posted: 4:20 AM, October 18th (Friday)

I sent a letter to the AP's wife. She called me a few days ago and we met today. It helped both of us. We could fill in some of the missing info for each other. And it was comforting to talk to some one in the same situation who could really empathize with you. We plan to meet again and keep in touch.


Married 12yrs, known 14
DDay 8/21/13
BH 44
WW/STBXW 41
3 kids 12,10,8

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Drowninginitall
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Default  Posted: 10:19 AM, October 18th (Friday)

I would love to have a conversation with the other woman's partner or husband if she had one.

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Uhtred
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Default  Posted: 4:27 PM, October 18th (Friday)

I most certainly did! I made my wife come with me when I confronted the other man. His wife was there and she had to face the poor other man's poor wife. We both knew them very well for many years. I hated to do it so rudely but I was so devastated by what my wife had done I temporarily lost my marbles.


Me: BH 32years old DDay 4-29-13
Her: WW 33 years old
“Yet each man kills the thing he loves
By each let this be heard
Some do it with a bitter look
Some with a flattering word
The coward does it with a kiss
The brave man with a sword”

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